Am I the only one who finds it unfair to expect Kids to fend for themselves after 18?
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MAKAVELI25
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This ? is confounding to me. How do you as a parent choose to have kids and then expect them to fend for themselves just because they are LEGALLY adults? I find it mind boggling when I see so many of my friends that have to pay their own ways through college/are kicked out of the house after high school. If you cannot afford to send your kid to college that's one thing, but if you choose not to do it because of some principle you are being unfair. Kids don't choose to be born, if you are just going to toss them out at so young an age then don't have them in the first place.
:Thanks ? for having parents who would be willing to take me back in the house at age 40 if needed:
:Thanks ? for having parents who would be willing to take me back in the house at age 40 if needed:
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So, its cool to be a ? ass ? ?
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I see nothing wrong with kicking legal adults the ? out.
As a courtesy, they can finish high school if their birthday is in the first half of the year. -
Yes you are. You are 18. If you can't get your own money, just Joe Sun yourself.
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I agree. 18 is not a mature age generally speaking. The way I think now is so different than when I was 18. Even mentally when I was in my early 20s was so different than when I was 18.
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i think it all depends on the kid. i guarantee you all those kids that get kicked out at 18 were some disrespectful little ? ...i bet if they acted better/treated their parents better there would have been no problem...you cant act like an ass for years when you parents have to help you...then when you legally grown be shocked when they cut you off...
i speak from experience...as a parent -
The_Maryvale_Joker wrote: »So, its cool to be a ? ass ? ?
Read the Original Post. ? are trying to go to college and their parents are telling e'm to handle it solo. If you're broke I understand, but to do it out of principle? -
In Your Moms Room wrote: »Yes you are. You are 18. If you can't get your own money, just Joe Sun yourself.
So asking for some help with college tuition means you should commit dat? -
op...youre young...its easy to speak on things when you have experience. live a little.
ofcourse you think its harsh...you are probably in that age bracket yourself and have just watched it happen to one of your friends...theres a reason the parents did what they did -
it depends on the kid and the situation
some ppl go off to college some kids move out on their own
all i know is when i was 18 i was working and going to community college
if i wasnt in school id have been kicked out -
cant do much with a highshool education and a minimum wage job...yet I know some parents who kick thier kids out at 18
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if ur 18 and dont have a job or in college your not doing ? in this day and age
ur either headed to prison or the homeless shelter in 5 years
join the military -
@lilflex that's a good point. I probably would've been kicked out too if I hadn't been in school.
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well im 18&doing just fine without my moms or pops on the other hand i have a cousin whose 21&deadass spoiled by his mom&dad never had to work for ? ? is super smart but decided to stay at a college only two towns over from his parents house cause he didnt wanna be to far away smh the worlds going to rip that boy a new ? when his finally on his own
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what yall expect? your parents just gonna let you lay around and do nothing? if you not going to school or working....what exactly are you doing? going to the club...smoking weed...smashing broads?
im not supporting a grown as person who just laying around...eating my food and doing nothing.... -
My problem isn't necessarily expecting kids to fend for themselves after 18, it's when parents don't put their children up on game and then expect them to just get it together when they kick them out. It's the equivalent of a Lioness not teaching her cubs to hunt before sending them on their own.
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u also gotta look at what the parents gave the kid too
if your parents gave you the toolst to succed and u still suck its ur fault
my mom raised me to work and go to school therefore by age 18 i was doing both -
as long as i was in school or working my mother was ok with me staying home, once i felt i was good to be on my own i left yet im always welcomed back if need be.
and i'll be the same as long as my kids are either in school or working they'll can stay -
MAKAVELI25 wrote:This ? is confounding to me. How do you as a parent choose to have kids and then expect them to fend for themselves just because they are LEGALLY adults? I find it mind boggling when I see so many of my friends that have to pay their own ways through college/are kicked out of the house after high school. If you cannot afford to send your kid to college that's one thing, but if you choose not to do it because of some principle you are being unfair. Kids don't choose to be born, if you are just going to toss them out at so young an age then don't have them in the first place.
:Thanks ? for having parents who would be willing to take me back in the house at age 40 if needed:
Nah, I completely agree. In this current society a HS diploma means nothing. Parents need to take on the responsibility and make sure they give their kids a chance to succeed in the world, by preparing them to go to college or by teaching them how to start their own business etc.
It doesn't make sense when parents kick their kids out at 18, because all they're doing is forcing the kid to struggle for the next sum-odd years just to get to a place in life where they can live comfortably. Instead of kicking them out, they should make it a requirement that the kid help out on some bills or if they don't have any money, they can do some work around the house. If they're stuck on kicking him out at 18, they should at the very least give the kid a heads up that he has to leave at 18, and raise him in such a way so he's fully capable of living by himself when the time comes. -
Totally depends on the child and the relationship with the parents imo. You gotta be doing something productive whether it be at least working or going to school cuz laziness don't get anyone anywhere. You can't sit on your ass all day, I think the parent should help the child stand on their own. With that said, I don't even know if I could do that to my own child. Haven't been there yet and I'm not even close.
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For the most part though, I think it's a myth. I've never personally known someone who got kicked out of the house at 18. Everyone I know was allowed to stay at the house until they finished their Bachelors/Masters, or until they felt like moving out on their own.
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MAKAVELI25 wrote: »In Your Moms Room wrote: »Yes you are. You are 18. If you can't get your own money, just Joe Sun yourself.
So asking for some help with college tuition means you should commit dat?
Yea bro. Get a job, get finiacial aid and do that ? by yourself. -
NothingButTheTruth wrote: »For the most part though, I think it's a myth. I've never personally known someone who got kicked out of the house at 18. Everyone I knew was allowed to stay at the house until they finished their Bachelors/Masters, or until they felt like moving out on their own.
idk where u livin at talkin bout stayin with ur parents til your 24-25 years old
my kids out by 21 no exceptions -
Kicked out at 18 post.
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My wife and I have awesome parents, they both back us 100% whenever we need, ? , both our families do.
I'll never boot my kids for any reason (besides criminal ? ).
That whole 18 ? is wack, most kids ain't mature until 25+ and even then they still might not be mature enough. Parents are just usually lazy and have had enough, so they use the ? excuse of "you're 18, peace out".
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My wife and I have awesome parents, they both back us 100% whenever we need, ? , both our families do.
I'll never boot my kids for any reason (besides criminal ? ).
That whole 18 ? is wack, most kids ain't mature until 25+ and even then they still might not be mature enough. Parents are just usually lazy and have had enough, so they use the ? excuse of "you're 18, peace out".
smh @ not knowing how the world works til your 25 years old
