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Serious thread. Want some opinions.
So, ive been married 3 or 4 years... i think 3. Have a 5 year old and a 4 year old.
Just like many, i'm just trying to make it, and have a good family life. Anyway, as
some know, i do go thru the struggles many folk have in marriage. Had a long talk
the other night with wifey, and she hit me with some ? that has me confused. Yall
help a ? out.
During the conversation, i basically asked what she would do if she found out i had another
kid, from stepping out on her. I asked if she would stay with me, and if she would allow me
to have the kid as apart of my kids with her's life. She said she would.
So, i'm not really believing that, but, imma keep pressing the limits, might as well find out her thoughts.
So, i said, well, what if i had a mistress, you down with that?
She said she wouldnt like it, but, would try to accept it.....
At THAT, i went ahead and interjected: Hey, dont say you'd be down, and go cop some
revenge/side ? . I aint with that. Either be with me, or not. I know it would be a double standard,
but, "you dont get a ? back like that". She answered that she'd never be with another man if we
were still together...........
?
At this point, im thinking i'm getting trolled. I reinterated that these were hypothetical questions.....
So, i went full "Big Love" with it.
I was like...... well, would you be down with me having a mistress that lives in the crib with us?
You know they do ? like that in Spain???? What if we had a kid?
Long pause.
She was like...... Well, I wouldnt share my bed with another woman, if that's what you thinking.
But you are a great man, and i'd put up with things i shouldnt, just to be in your life. I cant go back
to other men. I'd hope you wouldnt put me in that position, but i can't say id walk away. I asked what
about your family, what they'd think of you? She said ? them. SHe also said, if i ever had another kid,
she'd want them under my roof, so all my kids could grow up together.
Am i right in thinking she bullshittin?
Or should i take this as a free pass to have a side piece and not hide it?
Try to keep the insults to the minimum and the insights to the max.
I dont have an in state side piece lined up, nor do i have any kids coming,
nor do i plan to move in another chick. Im just trying to find out what the ?
is wrong with her lol.
So, ive been married 3 or 4 years... i think 3. Have a 5 year old and a 4 year old.
Just like many, i'm just trying to make it, and have a good family life. Anyway, as
some know, i do go thru the struggles many folk have in marriage. Had a long talk
the other night with wifey, and she hit me with some ? that has me confused. Yall
help a ? out.
During the conversation, i basically asked what she would do if she found out i had another
kid, from stepping out on her. I asked if she would stay with me, and if she would allow me
to have the kid as apart of my kids with her's life. She said she would.
So, i'm not really believing that, but, imma keep pressing the limits, might as well find out her thoughts.
So, i said, well, what if i had a mistress, you down with that?
She said she wouldnt like it, but, would try to accept it.....
At THAT, i went ahead and interjected: Hey, dont say you'd be down, and go cop some
revenge/side ? . I aint with that. Either be with me, or not. I know it would be a double standard,
but, "you dont get a ? back like that". She answered that she'd never be with another man if we
were still together...........
?
At this point, im thinking i'm getting trolled. I reinterated that these were hypothetical questions.....
So, i went full "Big Love" with it.
I was like...... well, would you be down with me having a mistress that lives in the crib with us?
You know they do ? like that in Spain???? What if we had a kid?
Long pause.
She was like...... Well, I wouldnt share my bed with another woman, if that's what you thinking.
But you are a great man, and i'd put up with things i shouldnt, just to be in your life. I cant go back
to other men. I'd hope you wouldnt put me in that position, but i can't say id walk away. I asked what
about your family, what they'd think of you? She said ? them. SHe also said, if i ever had another kid,
she'd want them under my roof, so all my kids could grow up together.
Am i right in thinking she bullshittin?
Or should i take this as a free pass to have a side piece and not hide it?
Try to keep the insults to the minimum and the insights to the max.
I dont have an in state side piece lined up, nor do i have any kids coming,
nor do i plan to move in another chick. Im just trying to find out what the ?
is wrong with her lol.
Comments
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Its a set up ....
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She either cheating already, or she's encouraging you to ? up so she looks good in divorce court.
Those were my two initial thoughts.
Or maybe she truly doesn't give a ? . *shrugs*
Couldn't be me I know that. -
Yeah... i was definately agreeing with Ms. Southern's post while the convo was going on.
Even tho, she has always hinted that she dont consider me gettin head on the side cheating..
But yeah, im thinking its a trap
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Does she have opportunity to cheat?
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Every breathing person has the opportunity...
but, when i was seriously looking for a way out,
i hacked every mode of communication she had
and kept track for 3 months. nothing.
Texts, calls, facebook, email. (yeah that ? was weak,
but i was looking for a way out)
So i dont think she cheating. Plus the performance a ? put on
last night... yeah, she aint gettin it nowhere else lol. -
lol..you are soo full of yourself Norman.
Maybe she doesn't care cause she's like let somebody else suck that dudes ? ..? . -
*refuses to read TOP
I clicked feelings accordingly -
smh at that ? Chi.
@kat i aint full of myself.
im asking cuz her answers confused me.
If i were full of myself, i'd expect answers like that.
And by the way, i know its your default mode to "bring a ? ego down"
but save that ? . Long as i aint coming in here trying to bring you down,
miss me with that ? . -
ehh,
it's what I do -
smh..nobody is trying to bring you down, although you could use some bringing down every once in awhile.
It was just the flip side of what you said yourself, never get too comfortable cause you never know.
Honestly I can't call it, who knows what she's thinking. She is white and from around that Midwest area so maybe she's down with that Big Love ? . -
? be with her or not be with her. These hypothetical questions are very passive aggressive. You're waiting for her to give you a go to cheat. Who wants to lay in the same bed with a liar? If polygamy is your thing, then tell her and give her a choice to stay or leave. Bro. Seriously. You both need couples therapy. Cause I know she has a lot to say but don't want to hurt your feelings.
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Hmm get a DNA test on your kids asap. Isn't this the same lady that "trapped" you? I think I recall you stating that you pay all the bills and take care of her? Da ? ? You think she give a ? about you stepping out? she basically just told you she been ? the whole hood yes this includes rayray Tyrone junbug manman an nem
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dont u already have a sidepiece?
if so then u need to do like ur hairline and fallback on them questions...u bout to get caught. -
? if you want to live that polyamorous life be direct with it.
Cheatin is a violation of trust. So basically what your wife is tellin you is
if you want some other ? be direct. DOnt be a ? about it hidin
other hoes on the side havin kids and makin a fool out of her.
Your wife s'posed to be your ace ? boon, at the same time though.
I dont trust white folks and white ? are included in that demograph.
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? if you want to live that polyamorous life be direct with it.
Cheatin is a violation of trust. So basically what your wife is tellin you is
if you want some other ? be direct. DOnt be a ? about it hidin
other hoes on the side havin kids and makin a fool out of her.
Your wife s'posed to be your ace ? boon, at the same time though.
I dont trust white folks and white ? are included in that demograph.
You should've just quoted me bruh -
charlie_danger wrote: »? if you want to live that polyamorous life be direct with it.
Cheatin is a violation of trust. So basically what your wife is tellin you is
if you want some other ? be direct. DOnt be a ? about it hidin
other hoes on the side havin kids and makin a fool out of her.
Your wife s'posed to be your ace ? boon, at the same time though.
I dont trust white folks and white ? are included in that demograph.
You should've just quoted me bruh
? I took the time to click this thread and to read that long ass OP [L?]
Imma say what I came to say [Mr. Brown voice]
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MzGrahamBitches wrote: »lol..you are soo full of yourself Norman.
Maybe she doesn't care cause she's like let somebody else suck that dudes ? ..? .
Yeah... so... we gonna act like she wasnt thinking ? , but typed dudes? -
lol @ Mr Browns voice
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ahh ? ...
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Some women can't leave. Does she work? Can she sustain by herself with the kids if you two were to split?
That was probably her thought process. -
you lose for asking hypotheticals. feelings usually come afterwards
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cuzzin norm while you at it go jump over the gates at the white house with a turban on. and make sure you wearing some sweat pants with arabic writing all across them. dey aint gone shoot you bro, just hollar "dont shoot"
when the secret service comes.
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In all that ? I read all I got of it is wasted time and her getting some new ? . Pause.
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move out and dont eat her cooking anymore
thank me later adultery -
Nothing good will come of those questions. She probably thinking you want to do that and may be giving you rope to hang yourself.
