Am I Selfish? Do I sound like an old Conservative? Or.....
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Knives Amilli
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Do I just recognize the difference between helping and enabling?
Peep game:
My mother is asking me....and has asked me before to give a little something, anything to help out my cousin (lets call him junebug)...Junebug is currently unemployed, with no means of transportation, jumping from family member to friend as far as living means AND to top it all off, has a very sick and mentally ? infant daughter.
Now I got no problem extending charity. None at all. 'Tis the season and all anyway, I guess.
But, what kills me is this folks: for the past ? , 8 ? years? Junebug has been completely unproductive. He ran the streets of Riverdale/Dolton area of the Chi with his siblings, barely passed high school, has never had a steady job for longer than a month and no consistent or clear goals, and just only in 2012 decided to quit smoking weed.
To sum it up, Junebug has not suddenly fallen on hard times, he just now is in a position where he has to take care of another life, so the stakes are higher.
Now i'm not the shining example of hardwork and I recognize some aspects of my somewhat middle class two parent household suburban privilege. But the thing is? When these ? were out doing nothing, I was going to school and working multiple jobs. At my lowest, I worked 3 jobs, working 13 and 14 hour days. Then I finally joined the military....and well you get the picture.
I kinda feel some type a way about the whole thing. Am I being callous on some pull yourself up by the boot strap ? ? I mean I recognize that Blacks have had a hard time getting jobs during the economic downturn....but this ? wasn't doing to help him self before.....
"Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves." (i'm an atheist, but I agree with the concept)
Peep game:
My mother is asking me....and has asked me before to give a little something, anything to help out my cousin (lets call him junebug)...Junebug is currently unemployed, with no means of transportation, jumping from family member to friend as far as living means AND to top it all off, has a very sick and mentally ? infant daughter.
Now I got no problem extending charity. None at all. 'Tis the season and all anyway, I guess.
But, what kills me is this folks: for the past ? , 8 ? years? Junebug has been completely unproductive. He ran the streets of Riverdale/Dolton area of the Chi with his siblings, barely passed high school, has never had a steady job for longer than a month and no consistent or clear goals, and just only in 2012 decided to quit smoking weed.
To sum it up, Junebug has not suddenly fallen on hard times, he just now is in a position where he has to take care of another life, so the stakes are higher.
Now i'm not the shining example of hardwork and I recognize some aspects of my somewhat middle class two parent household suburban privilege. But the thing is? When these ? were out doing nothing, I was going to school and working multiple jobs. At my lowest, I worked 3 jobs, working 13 and 14 hour days. Then I finally joined the military....and well you get the picture.
I kinda feel some type a way about the whole thing. Am I being callous on some pull yourself up by the boot strap ? ? I mean I recognize that Blacks have had a hard time getting jobs during the economic downturn....but this ? wasn't doing to help him self before.....
"Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves." (i'm an atheist, but I agree with the concept)
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Why you putting yo cousin info out in the streets like that. If I was junebug I would knock the gossip out yo punk ass
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Id tell Junebug to find a damn job, or get squashed.
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Smash_Adams wrote: »? that say 'gossip' are ?
You admitting to your fagtivity? -
Carlton ass ? , u'll never be as real as junebug
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Smash_Adams wrote: »Smash_Adams wrote: »? that say 'gossip' are ?
You admitting to your fagtivity?
I typed it. Get out you feelings bruh.
Nope...no ? to give -
? you got cooties dont e-dap me
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Nope not selfish. ? like ur cuz junebug never really learn how to swim on their own when they got family there to throw that life ring every time they get in a jam. He's probably come to expect it.
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Smash_Adams wrote: »
oh you mad cuz im styling on you? -
He's s Real ? and that's what Real ? do. They struggle and call it hustle and then blame everyone else for their problems.
? him -
Everything is selfish.
If you would have helped him it would only be because you wanted to and doing what you want is selfish. -
help the child and not the parent if you want to be charitable
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Let him die.
You have no obligation to help him or anyone else. -
Do the best u can
nothing more nothing less -
a real ? would teach him to fish...
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Gold_Certificate wrote: »Let him die.
You have no obligation to help him or anyone else.
Obligation isn't the sole determinant of one's actions -
I read your post, and then I realized it doesn't actually conflict with my post.Gold_Certificate wrote: »Let him die.
You have no obligation to help him or anyone else.
Obligation isn't the sole determinant of one's actions -
Stopitfive wrote: »a real ? would teach him to fish...
He obviously doesn't wanna be taught to fish, he wants others to do the fishing for him. -
If obligation were to be the soul determinant of one's actions they would do very little. Presumably no one would even be on this forum.
Personal desire better argues for what one should do rather than obligation. Humans are obligated to do very little. In most instances we are not even obligated to live. -
Stopitfive wrote: »a real ? would teach him to fish...
He obviously doesn't wanna be taught to fish, he wants others to do the fishing for him.
u don't know that. and if it is the case so be it. -
Tell him to join the army.
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Tell him to join the army.
He prolly couldn't pass the ASVAB, on the real. Or basic training for that matter.
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Obviously the Man is keeping him down.
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It is not your responsibility to pickup where he fell off. He is a grown man he made bad choices not you, so he is living in the results of those choices. That is why some people have an entitlement attitude these days, they were never held accountable for their actions and choices.
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Houston Texan wrote: »It is not your responsibility to pickup where he fell off. He is a grown man he made bad choices not you, so he is living in the results of those choices. That is why some people have an entitlement attitude these days, there were never held accountable for their actions and choices.
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hilarious thread
