Dating single moms = woat 75% of the time
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Then don't date them. Problem solved....
its kinda hard to find ones without kids doe lol
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All these ? that be talking about skeeting in these IG hoes and mad because they got kids. The older you get the most likely you'll meet a chick with kids.
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15 Reasons to Avoid Single Mothers (Reasons 15 - 7)
http://community.allhiphop.com/discussion/51000/15-reasons-to-single-mothers/p1
15) Baby Damage
Child birth has a traumatic effect on the female form. Pregnancy leaves stretch marks, saggy ? , and c-section scars. I've also heard that the nookie is even stretch out and it isn't the same anymore. Then there's the weight gain, some chicks NEVER LOSE IT, to never getting their former hot shape back.
14) Babies Interrupt Nutbusting
I've had this happen to me. I was banging a chick and her kid interrupted my sex. Needless to say I was ? . If some kid is going to interrupt the meanest head you've ever gotten, that kid should have your last name.
13) Scheduling and Logistical Problems
Chicks will use this as an excuse to get out of date with you or they may legitimately can't find a baby sitter. Either case it isn't your problem. By avoiding single mothers you effectively eliminate to excuse from ever being used.
12) Is He The One?
This is only a problem if your trying to pursue something other than a ? call. Wanting to spend time with you, but not wanting to bring strange men around her kids, you find yourself only seeing this chick after 10 or 11 PM. You want to move forward, but she has to make sure your the "one," and this could potentially take months. It's bad enough these chicks are "interviewing," you to be a potential boyfriend, but these chicks are now gauging your parenting and fathering skills? AH, HELL NAW!!! ? YOU AND THAT!!! I suggest dealing only with chicks that are readily available to hang out.
11) Rent-A-Daddy
Realizing her mistake, realizing that kids (especially boys need fathers,) The chick gets desperate thus any and every guy has the potential to be "daddy."
10) Double Heart Break
You're with a chick then everything falls apart. You not only do you have to deal with losing the chick, but you've formed a bond with lil' Jimmy. You and Jimmy play HALO together, watch the A's game, toss the ball around, go to the zoo, and things dads do with their sons or daughters. On top of maybe missing the chick, you also miss the kid. The cold part about it is, you may miss the kid more than you the chick.
9) Unnecessary Expenditures
Contrary to that ? women spew about "not needing a man to spend money or take care of their kids," guess what's going to happen if relationship moves forward,YOU'RE GOING TO BE SPENDING YOUR HARD EARNED MONEY ON HER KID!!! You're six months to a year or year an half into a relationship with this chick. You mean to tell me NOT EVEN ONCE, you're not going buy this kid a video game, this month's issue of Batman, a cake for her birthday, some school clothes, or a Christmas present? Or course you will, especially if they father isn't around. Also early in the relationship, if you're feeling the chick, if she can't get a sitter, either you or she will suggest bringing the kid along. Suddenly that romantic evening you had planned for that fly little lounge get tossed out for family outing at Chuck E. Cheese.
8) You Know What She Going To If She Gets Pregnant
There's a school of thought that says single mothers are easy to ? . The irony is that the same chicks that believed in pre-martial sex, when they get pregnant, suddenly have an epiphany, find Jesus, and won't have an abortion. Knowing this fact, do you really want to be this father of this woman's child?
7) Decision Making and Judgment Skills Are On Display
This chick got knocked up by somebody that she was "supposedly in love with." Not only is she a bad judge of character, she's GROSSLY irresponsible. The same guy that's an inattentive, insensate, abusive ? now, is the same guy (at one point in time) she thought the world of, thought she was going to spend not this, but the next lifetime with, and she indulged in coitus with repeatedly without the benefit of protection. -
15 Reasons to Avoid Single Mothers (Reasons 6 - 1)6) You'll Never Be #1
http://community.allhiphop.com/discussion/51000/15-reasons-to-single-mothers/p1
When you're trying to build a relationship with a woman, you should be the focus of the woman's life. It should be about you and her. If she has a kid, you'll NEVER BE #1!!! That's not a bad thing either, but it's something I don't want to deal with, neither should you.
5) Resentful Little ?
I experienced this, (though it didn't happen to me personally,) This chick I'm was dealing with, her best friend is involved with a co-worker. However, baby girl just broke with her "baby's daddy," for good after eight tumultuous years. The daughter though a bright and sweet little girl, is a ? brat. Even though her parents had a ? up relationship, (due to her father and his issues,) it was all she knew. Due to her age, (the little girl is eight,) all she wants is her mom and dad to be together. Being upset, jealous, resentful, and wanting a return to normalcy, the little girl told her grandmother, (my bed buddy's friend's mother,) that her mom loved her new boyfriend more than her.
If you’re dealing with a single mother, not only do you have to win over the chick, you have to win over the kid(s), something that may or may not ever happen. When you’re dealing with a chick, you shouldn't have to worry about a third party trying to sabotage your relationship let alone winning the third party's approval, which again, may or may not ever happen.
4) Reduction in The Number Of Children You Will Eventually Have
We all have an idea of the number of kids we want to eventually have. If you get involved with a woman with children, you can significantly reduce the number of children that you planned on having. If a chick already has 1, 2, 3, or 4 kids, how many more do you expect her to have? Or what if she's one of those women that have problem pregnancies and getting pregnant effects her health or puts her life in jeopardy? Adoption is cool and I'm a big proponent of it, but there's something about having your on kid.
3) You're Not My Dad
You hook up with the chick and eventually the issue of discipline is going to come up. Some kids (being resentful or just being a bratty ? that they can sometimes be,) is inevitably going to pull the "YOU CAN'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!! YOU'RE NOT MY DAD!!!" card. Personally, if I did date single mothers and some ? kid pulled that stunt on me, I would say, "You're right. I'm not your father. Since I have no authority over you and you refuse to listen to me, you need to pack your ? and go live with your dad." This would be a deal breaker for me. In addition, some chicks or the dad would have problem with you disciplining their kid. I'm sorry, if some kid broke one of my G.I. JOEs, I'm whooping his ass.
2) Baby's Daddy
When you're dealing with a chick and you're getting know her, you shouldn't have to deal with kid's father. Some guys unfortunately can't accept the fact that their ex has moved on. Before he was an inattentive ? and didn't give a jolly ? about her. Now that you've entered into the picture, the dude wants to be the ideal boyfriend and a "father of the year," nominee." The guy stars stalking her and may even want to fight you. Even if the chick and guy are on good terms, the guy feels as if he can always smash. He knows her. He knows what she wants to hear and what makes her happy. The next thing you know, your having this conversation. "I've decided to try and make it work with Jimmy's dad." Best way to avoid the situation is to avoid single moms.
1) TAG YOU’RE IT!!!!
This should be the BIGGEST deterrent to EVER dealing with a single mother. In some jurisdictions, I think California is one of them, if you start dealing with a chick with kids, move in with her and things go south. THE CHICK CAN SUE YOU FOR CHILD SUPPORT!!!! She can claim that the her and child have "become accustomed to you supporting the child." YOU COULD END UP POSSIBLY PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR A KID THAT ISN'T EVEN YOURS!!!! Imagine being extorted money because you were doing what you thought was the "right thing." The state doesn't give a rat's ass about the relationship being over or you being a "good guy." The state just does't want the chick on welfare. So as far as your concerned, "TAG, YOU'RE IT!!!"
The only reason why one should EVEN CONSIDER single mom, it's because it's FOR SURE ASS and she's the one doing the pursing. She's being the aggressor, she asked for the number, she's calling and/or texting and she's setting up the date. Even then, she's just there until something better comes along. Instead of putting all the time and effort into M.I.L.F.s that effort should be put towards G.I.L.F.s, Girls I'd Like to ? . -
This ? bout to release a book and a lifetime movie
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My friend once dated this single mom and before I knew it, I was Uncle Kzzl. Slick ? got a pretend father and a pretend uncle outta us, ? two for one deal. The lil dude was a champ, though, we all liked him. A year later my buddy broke up with her.
Seen the mom and the kid in the grocery store one day months after. We exchanged greetings and ? , but it was still awkward. I looked at the little guy like "I ain't Uncle Kzzl no more, bruh". Turned and walked away, never seen them again. That's gotta be some cold ? for a young one. -
More like 90% of the time.
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this ? ive only heard of on the IC. done knocced off plenty of single moms, most of the time it aint the kids its the hoe ass baby daddy's
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HarlemThumzUp wrote: »this ? ive only heard of on the IC. done knocced off plenty of single moms, most of the time it aint the kids its the hoe ass baby daddy's
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My friend once dated this single mom and before I knew it, I was Uncle Kzzl. Slick ? got a pretend father and a pretend uncle outta us, ? two for one deal. The lil dude was a champ, though, we all liked him. A year later my buddy broke up with her.
Seen the mom and the kid in the grocery store one day months after. We exchanged greetings and ? , but it was still awkward. I looked at the little guy like "I ain't Uncle Kzzl no more, bruh". Turned and walked away, never seen them again. That's gotta be some cold ? for a young one.
It really does psychological damage that shows up sometimes as late as adulthood....
Especially for black men....the issues can be similar to abandonment and identity issues/crisis
I always tell my mans n them to be careful with that ? because the same way they help create the problem of women and trust issues is the same way they will help create the next generation of jack boys....? is cold to walk away from lil man but would be even colder if in 15 years lil man was putting a pistol to your face and pulling you out of your own car or doing it to somebody else -
I'll be talking to some single mom off tinder, she feeling me, sending skanky photos, I try to line up a date, she tell me she has her kid during the week and every other weekend.
Why would I ever be interested in dating a girl I can only ? every other weekend!?!?
For real I even say on my tinder profile that I'm not a role model, but these ain't ? ? KEEP matching with me. -
HarlemThumzUp wrote: »this ? ive only heard of on the IC. done knocced off plenty of single moms, most of the time it aint the kids its the hoe ass baby daddy's
Conversation is about dating
allow me to clarify loc... if I got a issue with the BD it aint cuz I fucced and kept it movin , its cuz the ? keep seein me or the kids always bring my name up. -
I wont ? with a ? with bad judgement
Ow ur ex is a ? dealer thats in n out of prison?!? Thats the guy u let ? in u lmao -
the dukester wrote: »I've never had good experiences dating single mom's.
Was smashing this bad joint from the ? Islands. Dark skin with more curves than a snake......She had slanted cat eyes with a huge bubble.
Problem is, she had a lil rug-rat with a "ain't ? " dead beat dad.
Go to her crib to spend the night. I'm going up to her apartment in the elevator, and I notice this ? keeps side eyeing me trying to see what floor I'm going to.
I exit the elevator on her floor, and I notice he peeps his head out to watch me going down the hallway (red flag no.1). I go in her house kicking it with her and I tell her some sucka-ass ? was mean-mugging me in the elevator, and she says, "oh ? !!" That was probably my baby father!!
? starts bamming on the door. Then she tells me this ? got mad guns. I tell her not to open the door, and she tells me to go hide in her son's bedroom. I'm in the room feeling like a sucka, I ask her son "you got any toys with sharp objects?"
"What about some toy guns that look real?" (The kind lil kids like you get shot by cops with) Ole Fisher-Price see & say toy's having Millennial ? !! I decide to jump out the window. I open it up, and look down, and the cars are so small they look like hot wheels and matchbox cars.
Ole Good Times Cabrini Green (temporary layoffs) deluxe apartment in the sky living ass ? !! Her baby daddy still yelling through the door, "imma ? that ? !!" Then somehow, he gets in the house, he starts banging on her son's bedroom door and I grab his big wheel as a weapon.
His son looks at me with a look of bewilderment on face like, "go out there & take your L."
I say ? it. I gotta go out on my shield if I wanna keep banging this broad. I put the big wheel down and get into a boxing stance. Then I hear the cops in the living room (first time ever a ? was glad for their presence).
She comes in the room and apologizes, I tell her it's cool (playing it off, my heart was beating out my chest) I look at her son.....I wanted to tell him ? YOUR FORT!!
Moral of the story.....Single mom's are the woat.
Did still stay the night, get ? and sloppy toppy for your trouble, and have ole girl make you some pancakes, bacon, eggs with cheese, coffee, and freshly squeezed oj in the morning? -
the dukester wrote: »I've never had good experiences dating single mom's.
Was smashing this bad joint from the ? Islands. Dark skin with more curves than a snake......She had slanted cat eyes with a huge bubble.
Problem is, she had a lil rug-rat with a "ain't ? " dead beat dad.
Go to her crib to spend the night. I'm going up to her apartment in the elevator, and I notice this ? keeps side eyeing me trying to see what floor I'm going to.
I exit the elevator on her floor, and I notice he peeps his head out to watch me going down the hallway (red flag no.1). I go in her house kicking it with her and I tell her some sucka-ass ? was mean-mugging me in the elevator, and she says, "oh ? !!" That was probably my baby father!!
? starts bamming on the door. Then she tells me this ? got mad guns. I tell her not to open the door, and she tells me to go hide in her son's bedroom. I'm in the room feeling like a sucka, I ask her son "you got any toys with sharp objects?"
"What about some toy guns that look real?" (The kind lil kids like you get shot by cops with) Ole Fisher-Price see & say toy's having Millennial ? !! I decide to jump out the window. I open it up, and look down, and the cars are so small they look like hot wheels and matchbox cars.
Ole Good Times Cabrini Green (temporary layoffs) deluxe apartment in the sky living ass ? !! Her baby daddy still yelling through the door, "imma ? that ? !!" Then somehow, he gets in the house, he starts banging on her son's bedroom door and I grab his big wheel as a weapon.
Moral of the story.....Single mom's are the woat.
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Drama!!! The jealousy and insecurity of the father of the kid for being more of a father figure to the kid. Or your insecurity being that he will always have a direct line to your horl for life (probably get the ? occasionally). Or the beef that may spark between you and him naturally. Now u getting arrested for some dumb ? or worst. smh not worth it so ill pass on that.
Your ? gon fukkk someone u kno after u get arrested. ~Kevin gates (luca brasi 2)
Ain't that ? facing a charge right now? Wonder if he thinks that goes for his wife? -
@Maximus Rex That's the Ghetto Gospel u posted bruh. Like I said, it's too easy with them. Told one " Yeah, u want the H word alright! Not husband but some HELP! Talking bout " The boys want, we need to take the boys here and there. Sheeed! Let a single dad try that ? ! I throw ? back @ em just like they would 2 a ? man and make it sting just so they know. ? will tell him, her momma and fellow single mama's "I ain't dey dam mama! He want all dat he beta go back to dat ? ."BUT! They let u "GRAB THE ? " Trump Style N E time u want!
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Yo...can they really make you pay child support on a child that isn't really yours?
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Yo...can they really make you pay child support on a child that isn't really yours?
Depends on the state, living situation and marital status.
I know of a dude that had to pay for his wife's child after she cheated and got pregnant from another. -
Last 2-3 years the best women I encountered was with woman with kids.
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Like someone said earlier I ain't gonna date a woman who has a dead beat baby father . Last girl I dated was coparenting. I didn't meet her kids until the 5th month
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detcatinva wrote: »Get over it. Most of us are 26+ the likelihood of us dating a female who has a child is gonna increase the older we get
Date younger
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Me and my woman have been with each other, off and on, for over 3 years. She's 43 and has a daughter that will be 12 later this month. It's been no problems at all, and she don't make me buy things for her daughter.
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If a single mom is feeling you and sees you as a potential breadwinner she's gonna throw that ? better, suck better, treat you better than ANY ? with no kids with the only exception being a ? wanting to have YOUR kids.....those broads are deadly. They know every trick in the book.
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Yo...can they really make you pay child support on a child that isn't really yours?
lol
Truth is definitely stranger than fiction.
Just one of the detriments of living in a patriarchal society.
I'm sure my good friend @desertrain10 would be more than happy to explain this in greater detail.
