Are Men Intimidated By Strong, Smart and Successful Women?
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Shuffington wrote: »nah...
for a long time i dodged that type cuz i wasnt ready to be the type of man I thought they wanted
a lot of those type of women are gonna hold you to a certain standard, and I just wanted to bask in my aintshitness for a little while longer
I think this is me.
I've dated some great women in my day,but when we've reached a certain point in the relationship, I came to the conclusion that I just didn't want to deal with the rigors and responsibility of a FULL-TIME commitment.
It doesn't mean that I want to f*ck around with multiple birds and be a play boy…no! .. I just know myself. I'm at peace when I'm immersed in solitude. Everything that I find exciting to do … I can do by myself … I love women … but in all seriousness there isn't one thing about a committed relationship that I can say really excites me like that.
Creating a baby in my image and likeness or Spending my life with someone is not on my all-time dream list, either.
Gimme a part-time girlfriend tho and Im good.
Are you completely honest/upfront with women about your views, needs, wants, etc ...when u first -
scorpio4lfe wrote: »scorpio4lfe wrote: »What you think you want and what you actually need are two very different things.
Reality is always different always.
Women get caught up trying to compete with their "girlfriends" on what a good man is/what he should be they lose sight on what's important most.
They sit and try to base their relationship on novels. When most qualities they seek in a mate they're lacking themselves.
You have to be honest with yourself and embrace the person you actually are. Yes we all strive to be better but do you knowyourself. Are you happy with the person you are today?
Can you admit all your flaws? Would you accept those same flaws when choosing a mate.
Now the financial chapter.
But do she got dat ass?? Lol...yeah we know your first question when considering a mate.
Dat A.S.S. is just an acronym for something more.
Enlightened me, sir?
I don't want to intrude on your thread and take focus off the topic ill speak on it another time. -
Nah, but most of those women beat you over the head wit that ? .. Or have this vibe about them that you can just sense..Its almost cold like.. ? would love a woman like that with the success and she can hold her own.. But not those "I got this and that so what can you do for me?" Ass ? ..
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See what we have here is a severe case of delusional nothin ass hoes.
Now....I admit, there are some men who are intimidated by a woman like Phylicia Rashad. But for the most part, a woman like that is rare bro. The rest of these hoes think that they're that type of woman and they are very very very very very(30 more times) far from it.
These are the delusional nothin ass hoes I mentioned earlier. No ? , nobody is intimidated by you. You just get on my got dam nerves period. -
numbaz...80's baby wrote: »See what we have here is a severe case of delusional nothin ass hoes.
Now....I admit, there are some men who are intimidated by a woman like Phylicia Rashad. But for the most part, a woman like that is rare bro. The rest of these hoes think that they're that type of woman and they are very very very very very(30 more times) far from it.
These are the delusional nothin ass hoes I mentioned earlier. No ? , nobody is intimidated by you. You just get on my got dam nerves period.
Who the ? u think u talking to ? ? ? Ain't nobody delusional and definitely not a nothing ass hoe. Shut your stupid ass up and ? u and ur ? ? nerve. I'd bust ur ass in your muthafuckin mouth.
*Woosah*
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Bruh I been saying this for years. Again, women are never wrong even when they are wrong as two left shoes. How many times we got to tell these broads that we aint complicated like they are? LOL at "on my level". That term is always coming out of a females mouth. A lot of females(not all) put more of their focus on other/bonus ? than they do the personality. Men don't do this "levels" ? . This how most of us men look for women.Just like you said, you females use that meme to console eachother. Men don't give af about your "credentials" unless a man has decided to make you his wife.
The fact is that most women who use this excuse have terrible personalities that most men would choose to avoid.
Men and women are supposed to complement eachother within a relationship yet a lot women these days are trying to be the man in within a given relationship. Y'all really think that getting a master's in blah blah or getting that high paying job is gonna automatically net you a man but that's not how it works
Females don't like hearing this tho, so most girls refuse to accept beneficial advice
1. Physical attraction (do she got dat azz?/WhatDatMoufDo)
2. Check the personality (crazy, ratchet, brat, entitled, stupid, self esteem, scorned)
3. Other/bonus ? later (not really a deal breaker to us at all)
THAT'S IT!!!!!! These chicks never think to themselves, "Am I just not girlfriend or wife material? Am I just good to date and ? ?". Don't none of them want to face that reality lol.EVERY FEMALE THINKS THEY ARE WIFE/RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL lol. Real talk, this "strong woman/level" ? only ? with our manhood depending on how females use it. A lot of them seriously don't understand this simple fact.
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scorpio4lfe wrote: »numbaz...80's baby wrote: »See what we have here is a severe case of delusional nothin ass hoes.
Now....I admit, there are some men who are intimidated by a woman like Phylicia Rashad. But for the most part, a woman like that is rare bro. The rest of these hoes think that they're that type of woman and they are very very very very very(30 more times) far from it.
These are the delusional nothin ass hoes I mentioned earlier. No ? , nobody is intimidated by you. You just get on my got dam nerves period.
Who the ? u think u talking to ? ? ? Ain't nobody delusional and definitely not a nothing ass hoe. Shut your stupid ass up and ? u and ur ? ? nerve. I'd bust ur ass in your muthafuckin mouth.
*Woosah*
Now back to our regular programming.
Shut up ? .....I talking about hoes in general. Idk you....
You caught feelings tho. Go woosah in a trunk hoe -
numbaz...80's baby wrote: »scorpio4lfe wrote: »numbaz...80's baby wrote: »See what we have here is a severe case of delusional nothin ass hoes.
Now....I admit, there are some men who are intimidated by a woman like Phylicia Rashad. But for the most part, a woman like that is rare bro. The rest of these hoes think that they're that type of woman and they are very very very very very(30 more times) far from it.
These are the delusional nothin ass hoes I mentioned earlier. No ? , nobody is intimidated by you. You just get on my got dam nerves period.
Who the ? u think u talking to ? ? ? Ain't nobody delusional and definitely not a nothing ass hoe. Shut your stupid ass up and ? u and ur ? ? nerve. I'd bust ur ass in your muthafuckin mouth.
*Woosah*
Now back to our regular programming.
Shut up ? .....I talking about hoes in general. Idk you....
You caught feelings tho. Go woosah in a trunk hoe
Being that I made the thread and the constant inference of "you" along with your opening statement....one can only conclude your comment was directed toward them. Ignorance is bliss tho isn't it? I apologize for allowing you to evoke a negative reaction and use such expletives in the Grown and Sexy forum.There are intelligent ways to debate without "going" there. I shouldn't have done that. You are free to your opinion, no matter how baseless it may be. -
The_Jackal wrote: »Maybe it's because I'm still younger but I honestly have not met a women who was 100% independent.
Dawg what circles u be running in that u cant find an employed chick w/ a car & her own spot? Broke ass hoodrats? Nah but forreal, it's not THAT hard to find. Some yall need to aim higher damn -
Bruh, you see ? usually admitting to this with no ? given(? don't even slow down they game either smh). The question is, how many females do this? Porn stars and skrippas don't even do this............................enter the "? SHAMING" movement lol.nah...
for a long time i dodged that type cuz i wasnt ready to be the type of man I thought they wanted
a lot of those type of women are gonna hold you to a certain standard, and I just wanted to bask in my aintshitness for a little while longer
While it's 100% true a lot of the "I'm a strong woman" ? is a cover for some insecurity this quote here is also something a lot more dudes need to admit to themselves too. It'd calm a lot of that anger towards women who really are on their game in life and turn down ? they know ain't about ? at the time
No need to pull your usual balancing gimmick this time bruh.
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scorpio4lfe wrote: »Being that I made the thread and the constant inference of "you" along with your opening statement....one can only conclude your comment was directed toward them. Ignorance is bliss tho isn't it? I apologize for allowing you to evoke a negative reaction and use such expletives in the Grown and Sexy forum.There are intelligent ways to debate without "going" there. I shouldn't have done that. You are free to your opinion, no matter how baseless it may be.
Shorty, stop tryna be passive aggressive. Let's get back on topic.
Being the host of this thread, you're doing a masterful job at dodging a very pressing question ~
What are "Strong, Smart, and Successful" qualifiers for as they pertain to the success of a Relationship between two people?
Furthermore, why are femmes so prone to crafting bulleted lists of requirements, as opposed to being drawn to vibes and energies ( physical attraction being one of them ), like men? -
She from south louisiana bruh, they like right up there with florida females.scorpio4lfe wrote: »Being that I made the thread and the constant inference of "you" along with your opening statement....one can only conclude your comment was directed toward them. Ignorance is bliss tho isn't it? I apologize for allowing you to evoke a negative reaction and use such expletives in the Grown and Sexy forum.There are intelligent ways to debate without "going" there. I shouldn't have done that. You are free to your opinion, no matter how baseless it may be.
Shorty, stop tryna be passive aggressive. Let's get back on topic.
Being the host of this thread, you're doing a masterful job at dodging a very pressing question ~
What are "Strong, Smart, and Successful" qualifiers for as they pertain to the success of a Relationship between two people?
Furthermore, why are femmes so prone to crafting bulleted lists of requirements, as opposed to being drawn to vibes and energies ( physical attraction being one of them ), like men?
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I'm dealing with a chick who just graduated from pharmacy school & is starting residency in June & by next summer she'll be making 100k.
Hopefully I can make her a success story for the "strong" black women out there who die alone. -
scorpio4lfe wrote: »Being that I made the thread and the constant inference of "you" along with your opening statement....one can only conclude your comment was directed toward them. Ignorance is bliss tho isn't it? I apologize for allowing you to evoke a negative reaction and use such expletives in the Grown and Sexy forum.There are intelligent ways to debate without "going" there. I shouldn't have done that. You are free to your opinion, no matter how baseless it may be.
Shorty, stop tryna be passive aggressive. Let's get back on topic.
Being the host of this thread, you're doing a masterful job at dodging a very pressing question ~
What are "Strong, Smart, and Successful" qualifiers for as they pertains the success of a Relationship between two people?
Furthermore, why are femmes so prone to crafting bulleted lists of requirements, as opposed to being drawn to vibes and energies ( physical attraction being one of them ), like men?
I'm not dodging any question. And if you read my first comment you would see its not a bulleted list of requirements. What I listed are the qualities I think a Strong, Smart and Successful woman possess. As I stated but I will state again for you is its not about accolades, degrees or accomplishments....I believe if a woman possess the qualities that I listed previously her focus when considering a mate is building together whether it's emotionally, mentally, financially, spiritually, etc. -
BARON_$AMEDI wrote: »
She from south louisiana bruh, they like right up there with florida females.scorpio4lfe wrote: »Being that I made the thread and the constant inference of "you" along with your opening statement....one can only conclude your comment was directed toward them. Ignorance is bliss tho isn't it? I apologize for allowing you to evoke a negative reaction and use such expletives in the Grown and Sexy forum.There are intelligent ways to debate without "going" there. I shouldn't have done that. You are free to your opinion, no matter how baseless it may be.
Shorty, stop tryna be passive aggressive. Let's get back on topic.
Being the host of this thread, you're doing a masterful job at dodging a very pressing question ~
What are "Strong, Smart, and Successful" qualifiers for as they pertain to the success of a Relationship between two people?
Furthermore, why are femmes so prone to crafting bulleted lists of requirements, as opposed to being drawn to vibes and energies ( physical attraction being one of them ), like men?
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@scorpio4life you provin the point , man aint nobody tryna go back n forth battlin over the big piece of chicken wit yall Robin Givens in Boomerang lookin ass broads man
You know how many pies n cakes n ? you coulda baked in the last few hours? -
I love a strong ? in charge. women get a lot of ? done when in charge. Ooooh and the clothing they wear when they know they running ?
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@scorpio4life you provin the point , man aint nobody tryna go back n forth battlin over the big piece of chicken wit yall Robin Givens in Boomerang lookin ass broads man
You know how many pies n cakes n ? you coulda baked in the last few hours?
I'm baking while I'm debating. A boss chick does that but I wouldn't expect u to know that. -
scorpio4lfe wrote: »Being that I made the thread and the constant inference of "you" along with your opening statement....one can only conclude your comment was directed toward them. Ignorance is bliss tho isn't it? I apologize for allowing you to evoke a negative reaction and use such expletives in the Grown and Sexy forum.There are intelligent ways to debate without "going" there. I shouldn't have done that. You are free to your opinion, no matter how baseless it may be.
Shorty, stop tryna be passive aggressive. Let's get back on topic.
Being the host of this thread, you're doing a masterful job at dodging a very pressing question ~
What are "Strong, Smart, and Successful" qualifiers for as they pertain to the success of a Relationship between two people?
Furthermore, why are femmes so prone to crafting bulleted lists of requirements, as opposed to being drawn to vibes and energies ( physical attraction being one of them ), like men?
Lol @ this notion that men are these simple creatures who want for very little ...they just want someone cute who'll laugh at their jokes
Maybe that is true for you
But most the men i personally know who are over the age of 25, established and know their worth demand more from the ladies they choose to get serious with
Or in other words if that woman doesnt have the ability to stimulate all or most of his senses ...and she can't match his grind...she pis only destined to be a ?
If you are going to invest substantial amount of time and energy into a relationship, its nothing wrong with that
Its actually smart
Can help ppl avoid a lot of disappointment in the future
And most importantly can help to prevent one from being taken advantage of
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Good Thread
A strong woman could mean anything to anyone...
A chick that's cooking and cleaning and making sure the kids are on the bus but has a HS/12th grade education is a strong woman in some eyes..
Hell a lot of ppl mothers on here didn't finish HS but yet they would consider their mothers strong women, and I believe in my heart that everybody mother isn't a head of such and such department or have 2 or 3 degrees..
It just all boils down (to me) on what a strong woman is to you...some may feel a strong woman isn't the one with the degrees and ? salary...one may say that woman is a handful to deal with and vice versa if she just has a HS diploma
So it just all comes down to what fits well for you in your life...
It's all about her 'actions' more than what's on paper for me most of the time that makes her a strong woman...
Can she reserve season Pelicans/Saints tickets and at the same time, Go to a PTA meeting at the school..? like that
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desertrain10 wrote: ».. most the men i personally know who are over the age of 25, established and know their worth demand more from the ladies they choose to get serious with
Or in other words if that woman doesnt have the ability to stimulate all or most of his senses ...and she can't match his grind ..
I'm a little different, sure.
There are very few people twice my age that can match my grind / income, so I don't sit around holding people to lofty standards.
Of course I want someone with ambition, goals, income, etc.. But what good is any of that if we can't chill, talk, laugh, joke, vibe, etc? Relationships span far beyond bills being paid. After the bills are paid and all of our responsibilities are taken care of, then what? -
aint no one intimidated by a woman who works or ha a degree lol to be real Im happy cuz thats more income for the both of us..... men dont like the im better than u attitude or trying to be the man or disrespect a lot of women in that category seem to project. just cuz u have degrees or a good job doesnt make u a good mate.
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The 80s baby dude mention Ms Rashard
But (to me) her character she played (yea I know character) on The Cosby resembled a strong woman, even if she wasnt a lawyer, she still in my eyes would be a strong woman
Hell even Florida Evans off Good Times displayed (I don't think she finished school or work) what a strong woman was to me and she was no where near a ? plus salary...
Some may say Gina off Martin was good strong woman..
So it's again all about what fits well for you in your life IMO..
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scorpio4lfe wrote: »@scorpio4life you provin the point , man aint nobody tryna go back n forth battlin over the big piece of chicken wit yall Robin Givens in Boomerang lookin ass broads man
You know how many pies n cakes n ? you coulda baked in the last few hours?
I'm baking while I'm debating. A boss chick does that but I wouldn't expect u to know that.
U better not burn them cookies
While we're at it, what exactly is a 'boss chick' ?
Pay ya own bills? Own crib? Own car? Good job?
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scorpio4lfe wrote: »@scorpio4life you provin the point , man aint nobody tryna go back n forth battlin over the big piece of chicken wit yall Robin Givens in Boomerang lookin ass broads man
You know how many pies n cakes n ? you coulda baked in the last few hours?
I'm baking while I'm debating. A boss chick does that but I wouldn't expect u to know that.
U better not burn them cookies
While we're at it, what exactly is a 'boss chick' ?
Pay ya own bills? Own crib? Own car? Good job?
Thats an ADULT.
See there you go with putting words in my mouth. Please refer to the last quality I mentioned in my list of qualities a strong woman possess. U have ADHD, don't you??? Imma need you to pay attention when you are talking to me.
For the record, all adults don't own a home or have an occupation that commands a 6 digit salary...livin in an apt and making a honest living doesn't make u less of an adult. But you are the genius.
