is this true about single mothers?
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Regardless of how you spin it, A male figure is needed in the household. No slight on your efforts but it's just the reality of our society.
no one has denied that... but the thread was about women subconsciously teaching their daughters to make the same mistakes they did... or their sons to become like their fathers... which she is saying is not true... ? I agree..
i think negative stereotypes of single mothers does lead to generalizations... to make it "her fault" when that is not always the case... she could be widowed.... there are so many things that can be the cause..
but hey I'm not too keen on stereotypes anyway... jmo... -
Its no wonder our community suffers like it does. The broken family household is tearing us apart. These chicks are choosing to not procreate with the winners in our society they are choosing the ? , the vile, the unclean, then cry about the babies and consequences later. Lets just be real about it and stop coddling these hoes
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Its no wonder our community suffers like it does. The broken family household is tearing us apart. These chicks are choosing to not procreate with the winners in our society they are choosing the ? , the vile, the unclean, then cry about the babies and consequences later. Lets just be real about it and stop coddling these hoes
also I have said this plenty of times but get negative reactions all the time.. black people need to start looking at themselves as individuals instead of as a group.. we are the only race if one of us does something bad we all look bad... makes no sense..
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Its no wonder our community suffers like it does. The broken family household is tearing us apart. These chicks are choosing to not procreate with the winners in our society they are choosing the ? , the vile, the unclean, then cry about the babies and consequences later. Lets just be real about it and stop coddling these hoes
And how would you define these "winners" in society? That has nothing to do with the outcome of a relationship between two people. People are people no matter how much of a "winner" he is. If the ? don't work out, you have 2 choices. Stay and deal with it or leave -
I guess we were due for a single mothers thread.mryounggun wrote: »I'd say that's true of most people, single mother or otherwise. MOST people are too quick to blame others for their behaviors or actions instead of looking in the mirror. No one can MAKE you do anything. You ALWAYS hold responsibility for the choices you make.
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Life in some way is a GAMBLE. Dpending on your education and CHOICES the ODDS may be big or not.
LOVE AND REALTIONSHIP IS THE BIGGEST LIFE GAMBLE IMO. until we have a thelepathy ability we will stiil progressing in the dark.
When it comes to rrlashionship NO ONE IS SAFE. MONEY AND WEALTH ARE NO GARANTEE FOR A SUCCESSFULL RELATIONSHIP
POVERTY NEITHER
INTELLIGENCE, STREET KNOWLEDGE DIPLOAMS ET... cannot garantee that you will make the good choices.
That being said its not because you have failed in the relationship gamble that you have to instill anti trust and anti relationship into the mind of your children. they are already suffering from the separtion / divorce. Plus their fear of the unknown is severly increased because of that situation.
Single parents have to teach their children that what happened to them is THEIR LIFE STORY not them childrens. And that they should still have trust in life and love and believe that they will succeed in their relationships. its a fail to transmit your sourness and anger to your loved ones.
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Plus the parents need to stop actin blind to the facts. If you let your teenager get outside on night chances are they WILL ? .
When on earth will parents place a ? on the living room table a and train these kids on placing A ? DAMN CONDOM!!!
YOU LET YOUR CHILDREN WATCHING PORN
YOU LET YOUR TEENAGERS GO TO THE CLUB
BUT YOU FREEZE WHEN IT COMES TO LEARNING THEM HOW TO HAVE SAFE SEX!!!
You cannot seat on both sides of the fence. Be realistic with your children. -
I Self Lord & Master wrote: »It aint even that deep
The kids end up ? up cause this single parent baby mama ? jus simply doesnt work
PERIOD
Wrote a paper on this ? in college. It goes all the way back to slavery. ? is deeper than rap. -
CashmoneyDux wrote: »I Self Lord & Master wrote: »It aint even that deep
The kids end up ? up cause this single parent baby mama ? jus simply doesnt work
PERIOD
Wrote a paper on this ? in college. It goes all the way back to slavery. ? is deeper than rap.
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? women only talk that "choice" ? when they're deciding to ? their unborn. Other than that you're not going to get a ? to take responsibility for her actions. Just not going to happen.
Also, not all single mothers are in a bad relationship with the father. Just because two people break up doesn't mean they're at each other's throat. SOME males/females are capable of putting differences to the side for the greater good.
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? women only talk that "choice" ? when they're deciding to ? their unborn. Other than that you're not going to get a ? to take responsibility for her actions. Just not going to happen.
Also, not all single mothers are in a bad relationship with the father. Just because two people break up doesn't mean they're at each other's throat. SOME males/females are capable of putting differences to the side for the greater good.
(Emphasis on SOME).
CLICHES AND GENERALIZATIONS WONT MAKE THINGS PROGRESSING.
At the end of the day WE NEED EACH OTHER. Instead of shaming and waging a battle of sexes ist high time we reflect on our society and social environment.
Cause these two elements have a huge impact on our relationships.
THE PROBLEM I SEE ON OUR WESTERN SOCIETY
- too much antigonism between men and women.
- we are not educated to share but to FAST AND FURIOUSLY CONSUMMING.
- the dialogue has been enpoverished by MONEY. All that ' i got money so im aight alone dont need anyone' cant hide the heavy use of anti depressors and drugs.
That will lead to my next threads
ARE WESTERN SOCIETY ARE MADE FOR COMMITMENT AND LONGLASTING COUPLES?
ARE WE POISONED SOCIETYWISE BY MONEY?
MEN AND WOMEN : HOW DO WE REINSTALL COMMUNICATION?
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You say some ? about about single mothers black hoes be running ready to turn up boy
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Or these females just accept responsibility and reality. You drop your panties for a boy in a mans body that wasn't about accepting his responsibility in fathering a child. So you teach the son or daughter the truth, so that curse doesn't manifest into a generational curse. You don't get mad at the child, get angry or vindictive and raise them up in a incorrect way. But then again, alot get bitter because they lil girls themselves.
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Or these females just accept responsibility and reality. You drop your panties for a boy in a mans body that wasn't about accepting his responsibility in fathering a child. So you teach the son or daughter the truth, so that curse doesn't manifest into a generational curse. You don't get mad at the child, get angry or vindictive and raise them up in a incorrect way. But then again, alot get bitter because they lil girls themselves.
not say you but people in general promote "boyish behavior".... "don't love these hoes".... "smash and dash"... "Bros before hoes" ect... are all the things you will high five your ? for doing but bash the female he does it to... you can't have it both ways.. honestly ? get vindictive as well.. but again there are so many other reasons a female may be a single mother... her ? a "ain't ? dude" is only one...
btw people should put as much effort into teaching their sons " you make that baby you stay there for that baby" (not necessarily with the woman) that would curb alot of issues as well... -
I grew up knowing lot of kids with moms only where their biological fathers left them and never to be heard from again. Or comes around once in a blue moon but never be there for them in their actual lives. I'm lucky to have both parents... And to all you useless deadbeats out there, either own up to what you did, choice you made, or think with your head first next time, not the one down there. Same for the girls. Easy come, easy go. Good things should take time, not overnight.
There's certain aura and things that make single moms(not the divorced or widowed) and baby daddies who they are. It's negative energy, you just know when you see them or talk to them. G-h-e-t-t-o. But this is food chain, easy lays will get pumped and dumped early on, and the ones who did the dumping will move on. Hence lots of teenage single moms out there, tend to be less intelligent or slutty in nature. Classy ones will stay put and wait for the Mr.Right. It's harsh nature, you get what you deserve though. -
That's what happen when you get women doing all the choosing
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damobb2deep wrote: »Or these females just accept responsibility and reality. You drop your panties for a boy in a mans body that wasn't about accepting his responsibility in fathering a child. So you teach the son or daughter the truth, so that curse doesn't manifest into a generational curse. You don't get mad at the child, get angry or vindictive and raise them up in a incorrect way. But then again, alot get bitter because they lil girls themselves.
not say you but people in general promote "boyish behavior".... "don't love these hoes".... "smash and dash"... "Bros before hoes" ect... are all the things you will high five your ? for doing but bash the female he does it to... you can't have it both ways.. honestly ? get vindictive as well.. but again there are so many other reasons a female may be a single mother... her ? a "ain't ? dude" is only one...
btw people should put as much effort into teaching their sons " you make that baby you stay there for that baby" (not necessarily with the woman) that would curb alot of issues as well...
PREACH! The same ones screaming "You must have messed with ain't ? ? " be the same ones screaming in the next breath "? these hoes" "? in't ? but hoes and tricks" ? what does that make you.
Stop the madness.
Crazy thing is you never know what kind of father a man will be until he has his first child. You would hope if the relationship doesn't work out between the parents, they would adult enough to know there is a difference between being a father and being a mate. Some belive it's synonymous and that's unfortunate. It's just difficult to gauge what the outcome would be while in the relationship when it's just the 2 of you. -
scorpio4lfe wrote: »damobb2deep wrote: »Or these females just accept responsibility and reality. You drop your panties for a boy in a mans body that wasn't about accepting his responsibility in fathering a child. So you teach the son or daughter the truth, so that curse doesn't manifest into a generational curse. You don't get mad at the child, get angry or vindictive and raise them up in a incorrect way. But then again, alot get bitter because they lil girls themselves.
not say you but people in general promote "boyish behavior".... "don't love these hoes".... "smash and dash"... "Bros before hoes" ect... are all the things you will high five your ? for doing but bash the female he does it to... you can't have it both ways.. honestly ? get vindictive as well.. but again there are so many other reasons a female may be a single mother... her ? a "ain't ? dude" is only one...
btw people should put as much effort into teaching their sons " you make that baby you stay there for that baby" (not necessarily with the woman) that would curb alot of issues as well...
PREACH! The same ones screaming "You must have messed with ain't ? ? " be the same ones screaming in the next breath "? these hoes" "? in't ? but hoes and tricks" ? what does that make you.
Stop the madness.
Crazy thing is you never know what kind of father a man will be until he has his first child. You would hope if the relationship doesn't work out between the parents, they would adult enough to know there is a difference between being a father and being a mate. Some belive it's synonymous and that's unfortunate. It's just difficult to gauge what the outcome would be while in the relationship when it's just the 2 of you.
Wish I could 1/2 Cosign lol but I agree with the bold -
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scorpio4lfe wrote: »And how would you define these "winners" in society? That has nothing to do with the outcome of a relationship between two people. People are people no matter how much of a "winner" he is. If the ? don't work out, you have 2 choices. Stay and deal with it or leave
While I understand the point you're trying to make, it isn't very cohesive.
How is it that relationships with these ? that are supposedly relationship material result in single Parent households?
It would seem that some of these more favorable characteristics would carry over, but things don't always work out that way..
If you want a ? to go out with and ? , a boyfriend essentially, then sure. But don't get surprised when being good company and providing good ? don't translate to being a good and/or present Father. Own up to what you want, but don't argue that who's most fun to chill with also struck you as a great Father..
A good Boyfriend/Girlfriend ≠ a good Father/Mother, unfortunately, and this is where a lot of people get caught up.. -
Its no wonder our community suffers like it does. The broken family household is tearing us apart. These chicks are choosing to not procreate with the winners in our society they are choosing the ? , the vile, the unclean, then cry about the babies and consequences later. Lets just be real about it and stop coddling these hoes
This ? is true. For example, Ima use somebody that everybody.....know Ciara has a baby by Future but is salty ass hell when the ? leave and making songs about it.......like damn ? he must've kept the other 9 kids and 9 BM's a secret.
Plain and simple, females like to ? with the dope boys and scumbags but want a "real man"/good guy to save em when they been ran thru the mud. The ? is funny to me. Facebook is FULL of these women and a lot of em single mothers -
I Self Lord & Master wrote: »
It's not stinging me at all, but if I or one of the other handful of IC ladies don't check yalls ? male ? who will?
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scorpio4lfe wrote: »damobb2deep wrote: »Or these females just accept responsibility and reality. You drop your panties for a boy in a mans body that wasn't about accepting his responsibility in fathering a child. So you teach the son or daughter the truth, so that curse doesn't manifest into a generational curse. You don't get mad at the child, get angry or vindictive and raise them up in a incorrect way. But then again, alot get bitter because they lil girls themselves.
not say you but people in general promote "boyish behavior".... "don't love these hoes".... "smash and dash"... "Bros before hoes" ect... are all the things you will high five your ? for doing but bash the female he does it to... you can't have it both ways.. honestly ? get vindictive as well.. but again there are so many other reasons a female may be a single mother... her ? a "ain't ? dude" is only one...
btw people should put as much effort into teaching their sons " you make that baby you stay there for that baby" (not necessarily with the woman) that would curb alot of issues as well...
PREACH! The same ones screaming "You must have messed with ain't ? ? " be the same ones screaming in the next breath "? these hoes" "? in't ? but hoes and tricks" ? what does that make you.
Stop the madness.
Crazy thing is you never know what kind of father a man will be until he has his first child. You would hope if the relationship doesn't work out between the parents, they would adult enough to know there is a difference between being a father and being a mate. Some belive it's synonymous and that's unfortunate. It's just difficult to gauge what the outcome would be while in the relationship when it's just the 2 of you.
I think it goes back to women having the ultimate choice of keeping or aborting that makes your argument a little hard to agree with. I agree with u that there are tons of ain't ? ? in the world. I'll even accept your premise that there are men who completely switch up after a woman gets pregnant (even though I believe the majority of these situations are more about the woman being blinded by love type), but if a woman decides to make a unilateral decision to bring a child in the world knowing how difficult it is, how do u sympathize with that when things get difficult??
That's like me voluntarily getting a job then getting upset at my coworker for not assisting me with my workload. This is not excusing these dead beat ? that aren't in their kids lives, but chicks have to stop playing the victim roles when yall knew the type of ? you were dealing with. As a rule of thumb, I don't mess with women that are from a single parent home that don't at least have a positive relationship with their real dad. You're asking for extra baggage. Sure, they're hard to find, but if u looking for quality, shouldn't u be discerning in who u choose?? -
bununs alias wrote: »why do yall talk like these women are getting themselves pregnant ?
It's "their body" though.
Since it's her body, the woman has the ultimate power to decide whether or not she's going to go through with the pregnancy.
Basically, it takes two to make a baby.....but only one person has all the power. -
scorpio4lfe wrote: »Its no wonder our community suffers like it does. The broken family household is tearing us apart. These chicks are choosing to not procreate with the winners in our society they are choosing the ? , the vile, the unclean, then cry about the babies and consequences later. Lets just be real about it and stop coddling these hoes
And how would you define these "winners" in society? That has nothing to do with the outcome of a relationship between two people. People are people no matter how much of a "winner" he is. If the ? don't work out, you have 2 choices. Stay and deal with it or leavescorpio4lfe wrote: »Its no wonder our community suffers like it does. The broken family household is tearing us apart. These chicks are choosing to not procreate with the winners in our society they are choosing the ? , the vile, the unclean, then cry about the babies and consequences later. Lets just be real about it and stop coddling these hoes
And how would you define these "winners" in society? That has nothing to do with the outcome of a relationship between two people. People are people no matter how much of a "winner" he is. If the ? don't work out, you have 2 choices. Stay and deal with it or leave
I think...in this scenario....the winners are defined as good fathers who choose to play an active role in their children's lives.