Woman Rejected On Tinder, Feminists Lose Their Mind
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When a man Michelle Thomas met through Tinder passed on a second date because he was looking for "someone slimmer," the blogger penned a sharp-tongued letter that's earned her internet acclaim.
Thomas is a London-based blogger and cafe manager, the Mirror reports. Last month, she went on a date with a man she met through Tinder, the popular location-based dating app. The date, which included drinks, dinner and a walk along the South Bank, went swimmingly. It even ended with a kiss.
But the next day, Thomas received the following message from her date:
"You're cheeky and funny and just the sort of girl I would love to go out with if only my body and mind would let me. But I fear it won't," he wrote.
He went on to praise Thomas' personality, but then criticized her body. He told her that his "mind gets turned on by someone slimmer," and he would love to marry her, if only she "were a slip of a girl."
Thomas was on another date when she received the message. Her new date returned from the bathroom to find her in what she described as "a flood of tears."
After a few days, Thomas published a 10 paragraph response on her blog, I Will Pay One Pound for Your Story.
She wrote that the man's letter was "nothing short of sadistic," and "the forensic detail in which you express your disgust at my body is truly grotesque. The only possible objective for writing it is to wound me."
The fiery letter ends with, "P.P.S. You're not 5'11."
Thomas' letter has taken the internet by storm, and she's being praised by many as a feminist hero.
"You go Girl!! You are beautiful and for him to be judging your body I sure hope his is perfect!" one woman commented on her post.
English comedian Sarah Millican also showed her support for Thomas in an Instagram comment, writing, "All power to you lady."
In just three days, Thomas tweeted that her post received over 30,000 views. Her story was picked up by The Mirror, the Daily Mail, Cosmopolitian, the Huffington Post, and many others.
However, not all of the feedback Thomas has received has been positive. One commenter on her blog praised the man for giving Thomas "an honest answer as to why he would be cutting your relationship short."
Another said that Thomas' anger was misguided. "He didn't shame you for being fat, all he said was he wasn't attracted to fat women," he wrote.
Thomas is determined to continue a conversation about body shaming, and doesn't seem to be paying much attention to the negative feedback.
When a man Michelle Thomas met through Tinder passed on a second date because he was looking for "someone slimmer," the blogger penned a sharp-tongued letter that's earned her internet acclaim.
Thomas is a London-based blogger and cafe manager, the Mirror reports. Last month, she went on a date with a man she met through Tinder, the popular location-based dating app. The date, which included drinks, dinner and a walk along the South Bank, went swimmingly. It even ended with a kiss.
But the next day, Thomas received the following message from her date:
"You're cheeky and funny and just the sort of girl I would love to go out with if only my body and mind would let me. But I fear it won't," he wrote.
He went on to praise Thomas' personality, but then criticized her body. He told her that his "mind gets turned on by someone slimmer," and he would love to marry her, if only she "were a slip of a girl."
Thomas was on another date when she received the message. Her new date returned from the bathroom to find her in what she described as "a flood of tears."
After a few days, Thomas published a 10 paragraph response on her blog, I Will Pay One Pound for Your Story.
She wrote that the man's letter was "nothing short of sadistic," and "the forensic detail in which you express your disgust at my body is truly grotesque. The only possible objective for writing it is to wound me."
The fiery letter ends with, "P.P.S. You're not 5'11."
Thomas' letter has taken the internet by storm, and she's being praised by many as a feminist hero.
"You go Girl!! You are beautiful and for him to be judging your body I sure hope his is perfect!" one woman commented on her post.
English comedian Sarah Millican also showed her support for Thomas in an Instagram comment, writing, "All power to you lady."
In just three days, Thomas tweeted that her post received over 30,000 views. Her story was picked up by The Mirror, the Daily Mail, Cosmopolitian, the Huffington Post, and many others.
However, not all of the feedback Thomas has received has been positive. One commenter on her blog praised the man for giving Thomas "an honest answer as to why he would be cutting your relationship short."
Another said that Thomas' anger was misguided. "He didn't shame you for being fat, all he said was he wasn't attracted to fat women," he wrote.
Thomas is determined to continue a conversation about body shaming, and doesn't seem to be paying much attention to the negative feedback.
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somebody caught feelings...After a few days, Thomas published a 10 paragraph response on her blog, I Will Pay One Pound for Your Story. -
Thomas was on another date when she received the message. Her new date returned from the bathroom to find her in what she described as "a flood of tears."
She was already on to the next one but still felt entitled to blame a man for not wanting her smh
Oh and
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? is shaped like a chicken nugget
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Lmao, you cant get mad at him
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Meh.
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not really fat....but not slim either....cant be mad if thats what he likes
? was funny tho...and he got her some extra followers
ole boy on the second date hit it
everybody won -
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Typical female ? .
Women post on dating sites all the time about their requirements. How they prefer a tall man, or a guy with a bald head, or tattoos, and a beard. All these requirements that a man has to have before they even judge him worthy for them to even talk to, let alone go on a date with him.
But that's ok.
Yet when it comes to females, we're supposed to accept them as is, and if we don't we're sexist ? ? Miss me with that. Just another example of a women not liking it when the game is turned on them. -
? is shaped like a chicken nugget
lol i love big women.. and even i opened that spoiler and thought
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Women can't handle rejection, much less grapple with the reason(s) WHY they're being rejected.
Either lose weight or find someone who likes bigger girls. In either case, shorty needs to grow up. -
Broads always tryna change a ? but it's a problem when we don't like them the way they are...
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Meh.
You are the only fat ? I want to ? . My sex demons are waiting for your big ass -
Feminists are full of contradictions.
They claim they don't wanna be viewed as sexual objects but at the same time will try and publicly embarrass you if you don't view them that way -
That's the annoying thing with these feminists.not this again! wrote: »Typical female ? .
Women post on dating sites all the time about their requirements. How they prefer a tall man, or a guy with a bald head, or tattoos, and a beard. All these requirements that a man has to have before they even judge him worthy for them to even talk to, let alone go on a date with him.
But that's ok.
Yet when it comes to females, we're supposed to accept them as is, and if we don't we're sexist ? ? Miss me with that. Just another example of a women not liking it when the game is turned on them.
Tell a man he's too short? No prob.
Tell a woman she's fat and all hell brakes loose.
The woman can lose the weight but a man has no control over growing taller.
I blame all these pussified men who allow feminist extremists to spew their ? double standard opinions.
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From the sound of it he really liked her personality, and the date went really well. That's why, I presume, he felt compelled to write and explain why he couldn't proceed with the courtship. He wasn't trying to wound her, though I don't doubt that he did.
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Wtf man, people hyper sensitive - there's a reason why she got a notebook covering the lower half of her face btw
Bish looking like the cartoon joker with that jawline
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Used to be a time fat hoes knew they place
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not really fat....but not slim either....cant be mad if thats what he likes
we've found the other dude she was out with... -
Busta Carmichael wrote: »
I have seen threads with bigger women in Ill Pix with most dudes saying they'd smash.
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And that has exactly what to do with my thread?A Talented One wrote: »Busta Carmichael wrote: »
I have seen threads with bigger women in Ill Pix with most dudes saying they'd smash.
Does the guy she dated post in Illpix? Dude is white and prolly liked pencil shaped pale ? . Like you
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Without seeing his actual entire message to her, it's hard to tell. But based on what is mentioned in the O/P...get all the way the ? outta here.
-? wasn't mean or disrespectful.
-He had enough courtesy to tell her why he wasn't moving forward as opposed to just disappearing, which was well within his right.
-? sent her a private message. It ain't like he went on FB and wrote on her wall, 'I would move forward with dating you...but you kinda big, ma! Tough luck!'.
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She's that kind of chubby that has no shape. Like a slab of clay. Just real slabby.. no contour
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She caught feelings like this
somebody caught feelings...After a few days, Thomas published a 10 paragraph response on her blog, I Will Pay One Pound for Your Story.
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Bruh, someone gotta explain this ? to me. I just went and read his reply. What more did she want from the ? ! The ? was OVERLY apologetic and nice. And I guess I can see how it might sound condescending, but seriously GTFOH! Check this ? out!!!!!
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Hey Michelle, sorry been super busy at work today ? .
Thanks for a wonderful evening last night. I really enjoyed your company and actually adore you. You're cheeky and funny and just the sort of girl I would love to go out with if only my body and mind would let me. But I fear it won't.
I'm not going to bull***t you... I f***ing adore you Michelle and I think you're the prettiest looking girl I've ever met. But my mind gets turned on my someone slimmer.
Shallow? It's not meant to be. It's the same reaction you get when you read a great author or see an amazing image, or listen to a piece of music you love, it has that instant reaction in you that makes you crave more.
So whilst I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality (and ? ...I really, really am), I can't say the same about your figure. So I can sit there and flirt and have the most incredibly fun evening, but I have this awful feeling that when we got undressed my body would let me down. I don't want that to happen baby. I don't want to be lying there next to you, and you asking me why I'm not hard.
There are certain triggers that fire my imagination into life and your wit and intelligence are the beginning of that process which would inevitably end up in the bedroom. With just one result....
I'm so disappointed in myself Michelle because I've genuinely not felt this way about anyone in ages, but I'm trying to be honest with you without sounding like a total ? .
We could be amazing friends, we could flirt and joke and adore each other and.... f*** me... I would marry you like a shot if you were a slip of a girl because what you have in that mind of yours is utterly unique, and I really really love it.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm trying to avoid bigger pain in the future by telling you now so we don't have to go through that embarrassment. I'm a man... With all the red hot lusts of a man and all the failings of a man and I'm sure of my own body and its needs.
Please try and forgive me. I adore you ?
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he ? up by over explaining tho...lol
