Woman Dumps Man For Being Broke, Then Finds Out He's Actually Rich
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Busta Carmichael
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I [F26] have been dating Will [M27] for most of 2014; I met him on New Years Eve, we exchanged numbers, scheduled a coffee date and have been seeing each other ever since. He's tall and shy, with long thick hair like Eddie Vedder. He lives in an older house by himself and drives a 1997 Toyota. He dresses very casually - I don't think he even owns a collared shirt - and all his clothes are minimum 1-2 years old. For income, he told me he "ran a few websites" and picked up piece-work as a 'session guitarist'. He is also very frugal. He never took me out for fancy dinners or anything. In the beginning it was always coffee dates, walks, hikes, etc. If we go out, he insists on 'pre-drinking' and refuses to buy drinks at a bar. Most nights he was content staying in, watching Netflix and playing his guitar.
I never outright asked how much money he made, but given his lifestyle, clothes, furnishings, etc. plus the fact that he rarely worked, I assumed it wasn't much. I would lightly ? him with questions about the future, if he had any career goals - he would say that he "saw me in his future", but also he was "happy the way things were".
I have Facebook and am on it every day, usually when work is slow. Lately my newsfeed has been filled with my peers getting married, buying houses, having babies, and other various accolades. I can't help but feel jealous by this; it seems like everyone but me is making significant gains in their lives and relationships. Three weeks ago, after seeing a girl I knew from high school buy her 3rd property with her husband, it felt like my relationship with Will was juvenile and had no future.
The next time I was over at Will's (after he served me potato soup for dinner and was torrenting a documentary for us to watch later) I ended the relationship. I was perfectly honest about everything - he was a great guy, I loved him and his personality, but I felt he lacked career/life ambition and we wanted different things for the future. He sat and listened to everything, seemingly unmoved by it. When I finished talking, he said "fine by me" and asked me to leave. I went to hug him on my way out, instead he just guided me out the door and slammed it shut behind him.
With prior boyfriends, we'd still talk or text a bit after we'd be broken up. Sometimes we'd even still hook up. I dunno, I've just never had a 'bad break-up' and always try to remain on good terms. I haven't heard a fukking word from Will, even after texting him multiple times and calling him once.
I saw two of Wills friends at the gym today. I went over and made small talk, asked how he was, etc. I tried to explain myself, saying he was a great guy but our views on money and the future didn't seem to mesh. To this, one friend chuckled to himself and walked away. I asked the other friend WTF that's about it, and he says "Yeah, we heard. The thing is, Will's loaded. He inherited his grandpas land which is leased to oil and gas companies. I've seen the quarterly checks he gets and they're more than my yearly salary. Good luck getting him to spend it, though. He has a 'if it aint broke, dont fix it' type mentality. Just look at that piece of ? he drives!"
This has completely baffled and upset me. I dated him for 10 months when I thought he was penniless, proof I'm not a fukking gold-digger. I am a 26 year old woman who needs to be pragmatic, I can't just indefinitely date someone with the future being so uncertain. He could've said something, ANYTHING during our break up when I was explaining my doubts about our relationship. Instead he said nothing, and now he refuses to talk to me. It makes absolutely no sense.
I just feel so low right now. If a man with disposable income meets a woman he likes, doesn't he want to treat her? He said he "saw me in his future", why didn't he care enough to share these things with me? He could have easily kept our relationship alive by being forthcoming. Someone please help me make sense of this situation.
*TL;DR - My boyfriend kept his wealth a secret from me throughout our entire relationship. I ended the relationship on the pretext that he wasn't money/career motivated, he didn't say anything to the contrary. *
http://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromos...ne_please_help_make_sense_of_my_exboyfriends/
Lol the ether burns slow
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Lol'd at "fine by me"
That ether is going to plague her forever the process already started by her posting this to reddit. Never judge a book by its cover unfortunately though you can't really pull ? without stunting a little bit. Dude should maybe upgrade his whip but he probably doesn't care. I admire that -
He wasn't gon break bread no way.. good for him
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I can relate to this..... Anyway if this is true, she should go ahead and move on
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Lmao!
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lol stupid ?
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I never outright asked how much money he made, but given his lifestyle, clothes, furnishings, etc. plus the fact that he rarely worked, I assumed it wasn't much. I would lightly ? him with questions about the future, if he had any career goals - he would say that he "saw me in his future", but also he was "happy the way things were".
To be honest, the majority of women would break up with a man for this, as they will say, "he has no ambition." -
He's cheap. Doesn't matter how much money he has.
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babelipsss wrote: »He's cheap. Doesn't matter how much money he has.
Seems to me he was treating her good. He's smart with his money. She was being childish and wanted dude to be her sugar daddy.
"He didn't buy me drinks at the bar" nah ? we got drinks at home -
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Shes a leech but only one of them has money now.
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If he told her he had money she would of tried to marry him and ? him for his money
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Yeah.....so I'm not really seeing the ether here guys
Sounds like buddy was a square with a lot of guap and she wanted someone with a lil more ambition
No harm, no foul -
That Jordan gif got me rollin.
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This has completely baffled and upset me. I dated him for 10 months when I thought he was penniless, proof I'm not a fukking gold-digger. I am a 26 year old woman who needs to be pragmatic, I can't just indefinitely date someone with the future being so uncertain. He could've said something, ANYTHING during our break up when I was explaining my doubts about our relationship. Instead he said nothing, and now he refuses to talk to me. It makes absolutely no sense.
The first bold is a ? lie. The second bold makes all the sense in the world. Why would I want to take you seriously if your outlook on life is purely viridescent. It's like Eddie Griffen said on Ed-ucation (skit on Dr. Dre's 2001) "What happened to fallin in love with a ? with a bus pass? Just cuz you love the ? ..."I just feel so low right now. If a man with disposable income meets a woman he likes, doesn't he want to treat her? He said he "saw me in his future", why didn't he care enough to share these things with me? He could have easily kept our relationship alive by being forthcoming. Someone please help me make sense of this situation.
No. Not unless she proves herself worthy of that. (first bold)
(secong bold) Or she could've not been a typical golddigging ? . Why the ? you need to know what's in his pockets? SHE could've easily kept the relationship alive by going with the flow. ? ethered herself by showing her true colors. Now she's ? and the reasoning is specifically about money. His homeboy walking off laughing was more ether by the way.
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The only thing I'm confused by is how you date somebody for 10 months and have no idea where their source of income is coming from.
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Yeah.....so I'm not really seeing the ether here guys
Sounds like buddy was a square with a lot of guap and she wanted someone with a lil more ambition
No harm, no foul
Yea it bothers her because she obviously wants him back
She said "if he only told me be had money then the relationship could've progressed"
I.e. if I knew u were rich I wouldn't leave you. Noting to do with ambition bruh. -
Pure comedy! It's ALWAYS about the money.
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Hilarious, but I don't think it's real.
Seemed like a letter written by someone trying to send a message or make some kind of social statement. -
In the words of the ghetto poet T.I. "If it ain't about tha money, don't be hitting me up.... ? miss me with it"
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Busta Carmichael wrote: »Yeah.....so I'm not really seeing the ether here guys
Sounds like buddy was a square with a lot of guap and she wanted someone with a lil more ambition
No harm, no foul
Yea it bothers her because she obviously wants him back
She said "if he only told me be had money then the relationship could've progressed"
I.e. if I knew u were rich I wouldn't leave you. Noting to do with ambition bruh.
Right. She likely woulda spent all that ? 's money up then left him after he was broke and hit him with that same ambition line. -
I'd be ? my friends were going around telling folks I was rich.
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WTF does his so call lack of ambition have to do with this ? going out and getting her own? Dating him didn't or shouldn't have stopped this ? from going after anything she wanted financially. ? wanted to keep up with the Jones' cause of all the ? her facebook friends were doing all the while the dude she with is one of the Jones' LLS
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that's how rich people stay rich. props to dude. these women want to find out how much money you have and spend it all... in his case he was trying to make sure she liked him for him and not his money.
FDB. BALL OUT MY ? -
Story seems fake but LOL! just in case.
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The only thing I'm confused by is how you date somebody for 10 months and have no idea where their source of income is coming from.
This. If this is real that relationship wasn't going anywhere anyway. He didn't feel comfortable enough to tell her about his income, plus his vague statements about their future tells me that she was just someone to do for the time being.
