Fair or Foul: Women Anonymously Discuss Regretting Having Their Children and Becoming Single Mothers
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The_Jackal wrote: »I said it before, I'll say it again, KIDS ARE WOAT!
Kids are great but it's hard af to be a good parent. -
CeLLaR-DooR wrote: »lol @ "Bein' a single mother isn't for everyone" its not for anyone fam. Even if you don't struggle with money, its a lonely existence
A single mother is an unmarried mother so are we talking about single mothers who have no father for their children and no family and no friends? Because yes I can see that being a lonely existence. otherwise it's just ? hard if you have those things, some or all. -
Having children is not really as stressful as some people make it out to be as long as you can a decent job children are not that stressful
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dallas' 4 eva wrote: »I'm noticing in a lot of these stories these broads just sat there and got talked into having a baby by a man even though they wanted to get rid of it. Lmao like really you basically got hoodwinked into being a single mother. 'Never let ? make you a mother before love makes you a wife.'
This
In most of these posts these females are still refusing to take responsibility
They think forcing a child on a man is gonna make a man stay but it usually does the opposite -
CeLLaR-DooR wrote: »lol @ "Bein' a single mother isn't for everyone" its not for anyone fam. Even if you don't struggle with money, its a lonely existence
A single mother is an unmarried mother so are we talking about single mothers who have no father for their children and no family and no friends? Because yes I can see that being a lonely existence. otherwise it's just ? hard if you have those things, some or all.
Don't do this, @Westie. -
Better they speak that truth than throw out the garbage rhetoric of "my child was a blessing!"
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mryounggun wrote: »CeLLaR-DooR wrote: »lol @ "Bein' a single mother isn't for everyone" its not for anyone fam. Even if you don't struggle with money, its a lonely existence
A single mother is an unmarried mother so are we talking about single mothers who have no father for their children and no family and no friends? Because yes I can see that being a lonely existence. otherwise it's just ? hard if you have those things, some or all.
Don't do this, @Westie.
Do what? I'm asking what he meant. Why don't you ever shut up the ? that say outrageous things? I didn't even say anything out of pocket. -
Having children is not really as stressful as some people make it out to be as long as you can a decent job children are not that stressful
If you think that you're a ? parent. -
*No kids post*
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I agree as well…My daughter is seventeen now and I still have regrets….I am still trying to make peace with myself about having her…As a child I never wanted to have kids or a family..for that matter…I felt I wanted to explore the world and live my life on my terms…I joined the military and loved it…I allowed myself to get married and 3 years we separated and I found myself pregnant…We discussed it and I kept her but I ended up having to get out the Navy as both of us couldn’t deploy and didn’t really have anyone else to care for our daughter…Over the years I have delayed my dreams to be a Mom..I looked at my friends I was stationed with retiring now and honestly it hurts…I love my daughter but my feelings of not having kids has never waivered…I truly believe it’s not meant for everyone'
-Danyella Lanier, LA
Imagine her daughter, 17 be catching her mom just staring at her sometimes, don't even know, she wish she killed your ass 17 years ago. -
dallas' 4 eva wrote: »the dukester wrote: »I personally know a broad like this.
She let a ? ? smash raw-dog & seed her up, then bounced (no surprise there).
Now she works at ? job, with ? hours, and ? pay.
Now she complains about how her son is holding her back in life. "Nobody wants a single mom, ? wanna take me to Jarred, (not for a ring) but for a smash & dash."
I told her (after I smashed) that you can't let these nig-nogs go ? just because they said they'll pull out. At the end of the day, we all make the bed we sleep in.
LMAO
Haha, shame on me for going after "low hanging fruit."
That round apple just looked too juicy to pass up.
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I think it's different for women than men. I wouldn't say being a parent isn't stressful, but I've noticed my wife tends to stress more and over more things than me. That's why you need two parents because both ways of going about things have merit. -
CeLLaR-DooR wrote: »lol @ "Bein' a single mother isn't for everyone" its not for anyone fam. Even if you don't struggle with money, its a lonely existence
Is it? So you can't feel fulfilled without a man?
You can't be surrounded by friends and family and your child and feel whole?
I think that statement is a bit general.
Being a single parent is hard, but so are plenty of things in life.
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Whether we want to admit it or not... We all live with regrets.. It's a part of life..
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Single parenthood seems like it'd be an absolute nightmare tbh. Having kids is hard enough with 2 people, I can't even fathom having to take care of them alone. You know, unlike when you are babysitting those lil ? never leave!
It depends on the type of person you are. Some women weren't made to be mothers and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Some women find joy in motherhood even at its lowest points. -
CeLLaR-DooR wrote: »lol @ "Bein' a single mother isn't for everyone" its not for anyone fam. Even if you don't struggle with money, its a lonely existence
Is it? So you can't feel fulfilled without a man?
You can't be surrounded by friends and family and your child and feel whole?
I think that statement is a bit general.
Being a single parent is hard, but so are plenty of things in life.
You need a ? to do everything or you're worthless on the IC.
I'm sure none of these ? were raised by single mothers though. -
Spoken like a truly emotionally and physically battered single mom
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The Lonious Monk wrote: »
I think it's different for women than men. I wouldn't say being a parent isn't stressful, but I've noticed my wife tends to stress more and over more things than me. That's why you need two parents because both ways of going about things have merit.
Need is subjective. Ideally two parents are great but that's not everyone's reality. There are a lot of things in this world you do to the best of your ability regardless of your circumstances, and you can still do them well. Single motherhood and fatherhood is one of those things. -
Sometimes you pick the hand, and sometimes you're given the hand. Either way u gotta play it. Regrets will destroy you if you allow them. Do this thread with women in these same situations who had the children aborted and the OP will probably be longer.
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Sometimes you pick the hand, and sometimes you're given the hand. Either way u gotta play it. Regrets will destroy you if you allow them. Do this thread with women in these same situations who had the children aborted and the OP will probably be longer.
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And real talk, it dont sound like a lot of these women mad at the children, they mad they picked the wrong ? . Kids aint have ? to do with that. Like it or not, that emotional wall aint that high, and daughters especially will feel that energy thats being carried. Something really wrong with that, but life is life. I respect their struggle. I just wish it wasnt like that.
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CeLLaR-DooR wrote: »lol @ "Bein' a single mother isn't for everyone" its not for anyone fam. Even if you don't struggle with money, its a lonely existence
A single mother is an unmarried mother so are we talking about single mothers who have no father for their children and no family and no friends? Because yes I can see that being a lonely existence. otherwise it's just ? hard if you have those things, some or all.
By single mother, I mean mother who doesn't live with her partner or isn't in a committed relationship with the child's father or a step father.CeLLaR-DooR wrote: »lol @ "Bein' a single mother isn't for everyone" its not for anyone fam. Even if you don't struggle with money, its a lonely existence
Is it? So you can't feel fulfilled without a man?
You can't be surrounded by friends and family and your child and feel whole?
I think that statement is a bit general.
Being a single parent is hard, but so are plenty of things in life.
It may be a general statement but its generally true. I never said you can't be fulfilled without a man. There are many ways to lead a full life without gettin' married or bein' in a long term relationship. This is about actual day to day life though. Its cool when your mum is nice and visits a lot and helps out and your friends come over every now and then to take the kid out and babysit so you can try get back out there but most days from after you wake up early to take the pitny dem to school, you're alone until they get back. Then when they do get back you can't have real conversations with them. I kno' parents all think their kids are smart and mature but its not the same as talkin' to an adult. After bed time its the same ? .
You could even have a job and a decent social life (rare) but still a child is a burden and if you have to suffer it alone, you're gonna be lonely.
Personally though, no sympathy from me man how you gettin' finessed into havin' a child? We all kno' men ain't a damn thing. The ones whose guys left after like 4 years though wooooo ? . -
This thread has a zionist media agenda feel just springing up on Father's Day like this.
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Its cool when your child finally becomes old enough to have a proper conversation with though. I kno' a lotta people who are like best friends with their mums, who tend to be quite youngish
