Do certain events/gatherings still have significant meanings when dating?
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was talking to a podnuh of mine and he was telling me that this girl he "involved" with invited him to a wedding. They havent been "involved" for that long, so he declines the wedding invite. Maybe a week later, she invites him to a Christening of her homegirls kid or something.
I told him i didnt think it was a good idea b/c women view certain events differently from men and that events like weddings, christenings, etc...arent a good look for you IF you dont plan on it going anywhere serious.
What say ya'll IC?
Do these events/gatherings mean something when you just casually involved with someone or you should only attend these events if ya'll getting serious?
NOTE: im not limiting the choices to just weddings and christenings, but basically any event where in all likelihood, she is trying to introduce a dude to fam, friends, etc... as her s/o, while the dude is just trying to smash.
I told him i didnt think it was a good idea b/c women view certain events differently from men and that events like weddings, christenings, etc...arent a good look for you IF you dont plan on it going anywhere serious.
What say ya'll IC?
Do these events/gatherings mean something when you just casually involved with someone or you should only attend these events if ya'll getting serious?
NOTE: im not limiting the choices to just weddings and christenings, but basically any event where in all likelihood, she is trying to introduce a dude to fam, friends, etc... as her s/o, while the dude is just trying to smash.
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Just go for the food n drinks. ? the underlying motive
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Just go for the food n drinks. ? the underlying motive
so you in the business of selling dreams Trollio? lol -
if you don't want to meet her friends and family cuz you know you don't rock with her like that.. then that's what it is.....
i mean i guess some people are shy or anti social....but i see no reason to turn down invitations unless you just not that serious and don't wanna mix messages -
I'd dump that ? after that.
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if you don't want to meet her friends and family cuz you know you don't rock with her like that.. then that's what it is.....
i mean i guess some people are shy or anti social....but i see no reason to turn down invitations unless you just not that serious and don't wanna mix messages
bolded...thats what im saying
my pov is attending those types of gatherings just sends a bunch of mixed messages -
In my opinion, weddings and ? as dates have never had any more significance than dinner and a movie or some ? like that.
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naw i don't wanna meet your friends n fam if we just ? buddies,
i only want to meet your peoples if i genuinely ? with you -
mryounggun wrote: »In my opinion, weddings and ? as dates have never had any more significance than dinner and a movie or some ? like that.
idk about that fam...i;ve known a few chicks that caught wedding and baby fever when they've attended certain events with their s/o or whoever the guy was at the time
the guy, wasnt with all of that, but the girl was thinking the situation was more than what it was -
If I ain't bout to take u to meet my fam..then I aint tryna meet yours.
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She probly just wanted him to go to show her fam she can pull a ?
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everyone is there for a good time, the meaning is pointless to most
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everyone is there for a good time, the meaning is pointless to most
is katie your wife's real name or the generic becky one that the IC gave her?
semi-srs question -
the latter
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Yeahh I'm not Rollin to a wedding if that ain't one of my mains. That, to me means "couples" activity.
It's levels to it.
Some chics u don't even "public" -
Cinco speaking that real
i guess wifing chicks all ? nilly is the new wave -
Same ? happened to me 2 years ago.
Was regularly banging this tater-thot, who happened to have a 4 year old son. His birthday was coming soon so she asked me if I could buy him a present.
I was like cool, I'll get the lil homie some kind of electronic toy so he'll be preoccupied whenever I try to grab a ? .
Went to Chuck E Cheeses with the present & got "ambushed" by her friends & family being introduced as her "new man."
The broad saw the look of surprise on my face, when I gave her a "what the ? " look. She responded with a Kanye type shrug.
Top it off, her baby Father was there with some goons mean-mugging a ? . Lil Napoleon sized ? was short enough to get on the rides with his kid.
Starting thinking to myself if these ? try to jump me, I'm grabbing the first ? & ddt his ass into Chucky's band.
I would advise anyone to respectfully decline any invitation to an event from a female that comes with a hallmark card.
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If he doesnt have any intention of getting serious with the girl, then it would be a no on both events.
If he does want to get serious with her, but they are still feeling eachother out in the beginning stages, I would probably attend the wedding, but not the christening. -
I don't like weddings and not religious so I'm good
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Some events are definitely special. Thanksgiving means you're in there.
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Yeah that's gonna be a no from me dog. I learned my lesson about just going anywhere you been invited by a broad, went to a barbeque with this chick who I was just ? one time just 'for the food' ran into another chick I was ? at the BBQ..... turned out they were sisters..... yeah I'll let you guess how this story ends.
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Of course women will see some simple ? as " A Moment" or some significant statement your trying to make by going or taking her to a place. My Mom came in town once and the chick I was dating I told her " We gone have lunch with my Mom 2mrw.". She freaked the ? out! ? , I'm not sure if I'm ready for this, what do u think she'll say, does she know about me? I went, man we going to eat man y u tripping? Moms know when the "bring her around" is the " bring her around" for her thoughts but not approval. Ol girl was very educated too far from a bird but I learned from that moment they have sky views while we just 10 toe stepping not looking @ it through their eyes.
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Meh, she could be trying to get more serious or maybe she just needs a +1 to go to events with her...it's just a date.
Depends on the female I suppose. -
Meh, she could be trying to get more serious or maybe she just needs a +1 to go to events with her...it's just a date.
Depends on the female I suppose.
so just because you can bring a +1 means you're going to?
I mean, you can drive with ya feet, but that dont necessarily make it a good idea -
Meh, she could be trying to get more serious or maybe she just needs a +1 to go to events with her...it's just a date.
Depends on the female I suppose.
so just because you can bring a +1 means you're going to?
I mean, you can drive with ya feet, but that dont necessarily make it a good idea
I mean if I'm ? you and you're the type that can be brought out in a public setting, why not? It's not that serious.
How he's introduced would play a part. I'd introduce him as a friend.
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ok, i see your pov, but in my OP, i said i told him that he shouldnt go if he didnt think it was going anywhere even close to being serious.
now in that example, the girl thinks its one thing while its clearly another.
does you position still stand?
