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man idk i aint married but most guys tell me dont EVER get married. a guy at my work got divorced and his wife got the house a couple cars and he had to pay her half out of his retirement which he had to give her a quarter of a mill. he was like @ineedpussy is their any ? out there worth a quarter of a mill and i said hell naw...then he says dont ever get married then.
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Pops treat my Mother the exact way I'd treat my wife if I was married. Told me one time in my adult life that if he had it to do all over again, he would not have gotten married. Powerful to your point @ineedpussy. They'll be on 52 yrs Married in 2 weeks.
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i mean, past the pros and cons, first people should realize marriage aint for everybody.
marriage, just like anything else, has to be done right.
you got a good job and a 401k, and you marrying a ? that doesnt even work? you done ? up from the get go.
marry someone on your level. you a professional making x amount of dollars? marry a chick who is a proffesional and makes money in the same range.
marry someone who believes the same thing you do, you religious? make sure she is too. you family oriented? make sure she is too.
whatever your level of maturity is, make sure the person you are marrying is there too. you more mature then her and yall both bout to get married? you ? up.
you cant find the person to meet this criteria? well ? it, wait till you do. who the ? gets married just to get married?
follow these simple rules and there is a high chance your marriage will be one that works out.
Real facts right here. My homie had the perfect marriage on paper they both make good bread have 2 beautiful lil ones and wife came home one day and said she doesn't believe in marriage anymore SMH blew my mind how that could happen cause they got along great. Point is I believe the mental maturity was off with one of them
I mean any marriage can end, regardless of right it was.
To me the idea is to try to limit risk. Life is all about risk management, marriage aint different.
Another thing people should do is wait till they are at a minimum 28+ to marry. At that point a person knows if they are marriage material or not.
Some people are just not marriage material.
I went out with some homegirls the other night and I said this exact thing. I said "if you were born in the 90s and got married before 28, you wack af"...my best friend is my age (26) and another of our friend is 24...both married....I was like "yep, y'all hoes too!" Lol
Like seriously there is no need to be married that young in this day and age where we have so much more access to/know so much more about the world. -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »i mean, past the pros and cons, first people should realize marriage aint for everybody.
marriage, just like anything else, has to be done right.
you got a good job and a 401k, and you marrying a ? that doesnt even work? you done ? up from the get go.
marry someone on your level. you a professional making x amount of dollars? marry a chick who is a proffesional and makes money in the same range.
marry someone who believes the same thing you do, you religious? make sure she is too. you family oriented? make sure she is too.
whatever your level of maturity is, make sure the person you are marrying is there too. you more mature then her and yall both bout to get married? you ? up.
you cant find the person to meet this criteria? well ? it, wait till you do. who the ? gets married just to get married?
follow these simple rules and there is a high chance your marriage will be one that works out.
Real facts right here. My homie had the perfect marriage on paper they both make good bread have 2 beautiful lil ones and wife came home one day and said she doesn't believe in marriage anymore SMH blew my mind how that could happen cause they got along great. Point is I believe the mental maturity was off with one of them
I mean any marriage can end, regardless of right it was.
To me the idea is to try to limit risk. Life is all about risk management, marriage aint different.
Another thing people should do is wait till they are at a minimum 28+ to marry. At that point a person knows if they are marriage material or not.
Some people are just not marriage material.
I went out with some homegirls the other night and I said this exact thing. I said "if you were born in the 90s and got married before 28, you wack af"...my best friend is my age (26) and another of our friend is 24...both married....I was like "yep, y'all hoes too!" Lol
Like seriously there is no need to be married that young in this day and age where we have so much more access to/know so much more about the world.
@atribecalledgabi where your pics at tho? -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »i mean, past the pros and cons, first people should realize marriage aint for everybody.
marriage, just like anything else, has to be done right.
you got a good job and a 401k, and you marrying a ? that doesnt even work? you done ? up from the get go.
marry someone on your level. you a professional making x amount of dollars? marry a chick who is a proffesional and makes money in the same range.
marry someone who believes the same thing you do, you religious? make sure she is too. you family oriented? make sure she is too.
whatever your level of maturity is, make sure the person you are marrying is there too. you more mature then her and yall both bout to get married? you ? up.
you cant find the person to meet this criteria? well ? it, wait till you do. who the ? gets married just to get married?
follow these simple rules and there is a high chance your marriage will be one that works out.
Real facts right here. My homie had the perfect marriage on paper they both make good bread have 2 beautiful lil ones and wife came home one day and said she doesn't believe in marriage anymore SMH blew my mind how that could happen cause they got along great. Point is I believe the mental maturity was off with one of them
I mean any marriage can end, regardless of right it was.
To me the idea is to try to limit risk. Life is all about risk management, marriage aint different.
Another thing people should do is wait till they are at a minimum 28+ to marry. At that point a person knows if they are marriage material or not.
Some people are just not marriage material.
I went out with some homegirls the other night and I said this exact thing. I said "if you were born in the 90s and got married before 28, you wack af"...my best friend is my age (26) and another of our friend is 24...both married....I was like "yep, y'all hoes too!" Lol
Like seriously there is no need to be married that young in this day and age where we have so much more access to/know so much more about the world.
@atribecalledgabi where your pics at tho?
Mind ya business... -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »atribecalledgabi wrote: »i mean, past the pros and cons, first people should realize marriage aint for everybody.
marriage, just like anything else, has to be done right.
you got a good job and a 401k, and you marrying a ? that doesnt even work? you done ? up from the get go.
marry someone on your level. you a professional making x amount of dollars? marry a chick who is a proffesional and makes money in the same range.
marry someone who believes the same thing you do, you religious? make sure she is too. you family oriented? make sure she is too.
whatever your level of maturity is, make sure the person you are marrying is there too. you more mature then her and yall both bout to get married? you ? up.
you cant find the person to meet this criteria? well ? it, wait till you do. who the ? gets married just to get married?
follow these simple rules and there is a high chance your marriage will be one that works out.
Real facts right here. My homie had the perfect marriage on paper they both make good bread have 2 beautiful lil ones and wife came home one day and said she doesn't believe in marriage anymore SMH blew my mind how that could happen cause they got along great. Point is I believe the mental maturity was off with one of them
I mean any marriage can end, regardless of right it was.
To me the idea is to try to limit risk. Life is all about risk management, marriage aint different.
Another thing people should do is wait till they are at a minimum 28+ to marry. At that point a person knows if they are marriage material or not.
Some people are just not marriage material.
I went out with some homegirls the other night and I said this exact thing. I said "if you were born in the 90s and got married before 28, you wack af"...my best friend is my age (26) and another of our friend is 24...both married....I was like "yep, y'all hoes too!" Lol
Like seriously there is no need to be married that young in this day and age where we have so much more access to/know so much more about the world.
@atribecalledgabi where your pics at tho?
Mind ya business...
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What the hell??? Lmaoooo
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A lot of bleeding hearts in this thread.
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The Main Pro: There is nothing better than having that ride or die woman that is mentally, physically, and sexually compatible with you in every way. My ? that is true happiness and you will never have to worry about her running off with your kids and/or paper. Be patient and pick the right one. While I'm writing this my wife is cooking my daughter and I some dinner. Believe me, marriage is amazing if you get the right one.
U made me cry dog fr fr -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »atribecalledgabi wrote: »i mean, past the pros and cons, first people should realize marriage aint for everybody.
marriage, just like anything else, has to be done right.
you got a good job and a 401k, and you marrying a ? that doesnt even work? you done ? up from the get go.
marry someone on your level. you a professional making x amount of dollars? marry a chick who is a proffesional and makes money in the same range.
marry someone who believes the same thing you do, you religious? make sure she is too. you family oriented? make sure she is too.
whatever your level of maturity is, make sure the person you are marrying is there too. you more mature then her and yall both bout to get married? you ? up.
you cant find the person to meet this criteria? well ? it, wait till you do. who the ? gets married just to get married?
follow these simple rules and there is a high chance your marriage will be one that works out.
Real facts right here. My homie had the perfect marriage on paper they both make good bread have 2 beautiful lil ones and wife came home one day and said she doesn't believe in marriage anymore SMH blew my mind how that could happen cause they got along great. Point is I believe the mental maturity was off with one of them
I mean any marriage can end, regardless of right it was.
To me the idea is to try to limit risk. Life is all about risk management, marriage aint different.
Another thing people should do is wait till they are at a minimum 28+ to marry. At that point a person knows if they are marriage material or not.
Some people are just not marriage material.
I went out with some homegirls the other night and I said this exact thing. I said "if you were born in the 90s and got married before 28, you wack af"...my best friend is my age (26) and another of our friend is 24...both married....I was like "yep, y'all hoes too!" Lol
Like seriously there is no need to be married that young in this day and age where we have so much more access to/know so much more about the world.
@atribecalledgabi where your pics at tho?
Mind ya business...
Hoes how -
I wonder how millennials will handle marriage because I swear, these millennials at the job can't even handle the day to day volatility of work.
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Sandinista wrote: »
PRO:
- married men live longer and are healthier, both mentally and physically than single men...by a huge factor:
Ima need this broken out by race because Black Man life expectancy is 65 yrs of age... if you're lucky
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Lot of ? that are married now are only in that position because their wife settled.
Either she was getting up there in age, got kids she comfortable you playing daddy to, or her biological clock ticking. So she figure you are the best she can do, at that moment.
Marriage is nothing but status for females. It legitimizes them in the eyes of other females, at least in regular communities. Black families a whole other trip.
Divorce is the same way. Status. ? got the home alimony and cs. She can sit around all day chase young ? and go to Yoga.
A ? is always looking to better deal your ass. Never forget that. If she see something better she think she can get your ass is gon.
? initiate divorce 70% of the time. They don't go that route unless they already have a new ? lined up.
Think it's a game. These hoes silly but they diabolical at the same time. -
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gloomy as it sounds zuko saying a lot of blunt truths
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gloomy as it sounds zuko saying a lot of blunt truths
"Every woman is out to get you" is true? -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »
Naw but stuff like women mostly are the ones the end relationships... women settling ...women havin that back up plan... them taking all ur ? and older married men telling younger men not to marry or they wouldn't if they could 're do it..all are true -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »
Naw but stuff like women mostly are the ones the end relationships... women settling ...women havin that back up plan... them taking all ur ? and older married men telling younger men not to marry or they wouldn't if they could 're do it..all are true
But all that is predicated on the notion of women being out to get you... -
My parents been married 34 years and they actually love each other, I'm so glad I don't know what a broken home looks like so I can't relate to y'alls stories. You just gotta find the right one bruh, think with your big head ? what your ? says.
Oh yeah I just got engaged on Friday. -
@2stepz_ahead ...Be honest fam and ya post was dope, cosigned U. Any1 else can answer too. Do U open ALL the way up tho with ya wife? Not necessarily keeping secrets but share it all since it is till death do you both part. I'd still feel it as a " Boyfriend / Girlfriend" relationship with kids, house and responsibilities therefore be open and honest still but I'd say fully open with her about 60% only.
are you asking if she knows everything about me?
nah...nobody does but me.
as I am sure I dint know everything about her.
it takes a lifetime to know...some things just never come up..until they come up.
I can say I open up to her with 90-95% of everything. I take care of most things in our life. -
Ayo which one a yall married with reservations in your heart and which one of yall ddnt see the red flags? Lets talk about it
the divorced people -
Lot of ? that are married now are only in that position because their wife settled.
Either she was getting up there in age, got kids she comfortable you playing daddy to, or her biological clock ticking. So she figure you are the best she can do, at that moment.
Marriage is nothing but status for females. It legitimizes them in the eyes of other females, at least in regular communities. Black families a whole other trip.
Divorce is the same way. Status. ? got the home alimony and cs. She can sit around all day chase young ? and go to Yoga.
A ? is always looking to better deal your ass. Never forget that. If she see something better she think she can get your ass is gon.
? initiate divorce 70% of the time. They don't go that route unless they already have a new ? lined up.
Think it's a game. These hoes silly but they diabolical at the same time.
i agree but also disagree.
I am a person who reads between lines.
you have to ask the right questions to know where your ? is going.
most dudes don't care to ask. I think alot if women don't keep it real with another woman about what marraige is or how to keep it together. an then they set up game by telling other chicks it's been "infidelity" in the past so that's why they cheating or cheated. I always call out that ? . they trying to not look selfish but try to look like they have a right.
an losing your job will tell you everything you need to know. -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »atribecalledgabi wrote: »
Naw but stuff like women mostly are the ones the end relationships... women settling ...women havin that back up plan... them taking all ur ? and older married men telling younger men not to marry or they wouldn't if they could 're do it..all are true
But all that is predicated on the notion of women being out to get you...
80% mostly likely are. -
2stepz_ahead wrote: »atribecalledgabi wrote: »atribecalledgabi wrote: »
Naw but stuff like women mostly are the ones the end relationships... women settling ...women havin that back up plan... them taking all ur ? and older married men telling younger men not to marry or they wouldn't if they could 're do it..all are true
But all that is predicated on the notion of women being out to get you...
80% mostly likely are.
but the things is most of those ? are out to get the girls that are out out to get them.. maybe not in the same way but the end result is getting got....because you played a game.. then when the game got too real.. and ? dont wanna play no more.. -
playmaker88 wrote: »2stepz_ahead wrote: »atribecalledgabi wrote: »atribecalledgabi wrote: »
Naw but stuff like women mostly are the ones the end relationships... women settling ...women havin that back up plan... them taking all ur ? and older married men telling younger men not to marry or they wouldn't if they could 're do it..all are true
But all that is predicated on the notion of women being out to get you...
80% mostly likely are.
but the things is most of those ? are out to get the girls that are out out to get them.. maybe not in the same way but the end result is getting got....because you played a game.. then when the game got too real.. and ? dont wanna play no more..
an that's why ? dint want to commit to the game...
