Pros / Cons About Marriage
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Its not for everybody. Fact.
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@2stepz_ahead ....Yeah, that's what I was asking and u addressed it. That last part" About losing ya gig" is the Ghetto Gospel right there. I hope fellow bruhs on here NEVER experience this one. Might hurt a man's pride when he finds out he's been played the whole time and wifey bounces or belittles you when you need her the most. Layoff threats at an old gig and you would hear the Whites and azn's say " My wife is gonna leave me." straight face and serious as ever. I get it now. Soak it up young brehs. Only place game is " Told and not Sold.". Stay up.
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@2stepz_ahead ....Yeah, that's what I was asking and u addressed it. That last part" About losing ya gig" is the Ghetto Gospel right there. I hope fellow bruhs on here NEVER experience this one. Might hurt a man's pride when he finds out he's been played the whole time and wifey bounces or belittles you when you need her the most. Layoff threats at an old gig and you would hear the Whites and azn's say " My wife is gonna leave me." straight face and serious as ever. I get it now. Soak it up young brehs. Only place game is " Told and not Sold.". Stay up.
said part is....alot of chicks don't care of the reason why....
if a ? don't wanna work an aint ? is the same as a ? who lost his job but actively looking for work.
integrity and character mean nothing. you must find a chick who takes these words with weight.
an if she has a decent father who keeps the mom from looking outta control...you might be good. I seen chicks with dads but the mother constantly takes his ? . -
Pro:
After a long day of dealing with ? at the work place, you come home to a nurturing wife and a delicious home cooked meal featuring your favorite foods.... She even made dessert too.. How about that?
Cons:
After a long struggle day at work dealing with ? , you're headed home finally to relax! and before you get into your car, the wife calls you asking you to pick up some bullsh*t ingredients at the grocery store for a disgusting vegan dish that she wants to prepare.
Upon arriving at home with all the wrong ingredients she proceeds to yell at you for the first 22 minutes of your arrival and guilts you into leaving back out to go get the correct ingredients at the store.
meanwhile, she's been home all day doing absolutely nothing but looking for new sh*t to buy off of Amazon and deciding whether she should reply to the plethora of thirsty emails from random dudes she shares a message board forum with. -
Pros: There is no pros. It's nothing a wife can do that a girlfriend can't besides give permission to let you die in a hospital. Not really a pro but that's all I got.
Cons: Not enough time in the day
I believe in marriage. I just don't believe in the man-made laws of a divorce. -
con- being reduced to 1 room in a house you paying mortgage on.
fukk a mancave....I want say so in all decorations, all around the house.
why walk into a house an see only one person's ideas? that's not team ? . that's the small ? people overlook....but then be surprised when she try to control everything else.
more dudes need to hold they chicks accountable for fukkery...but also be willing to be held accountable.
? keep acting like lil ? don't matter...yea it do. -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »atribecalledgabi wrote: »
Naw but stuff like women mostly are the ones the end relationships... women settling ...women havin that back up plan... them taking all ur ? and older married men telling younger men not to marry or they wouldn't if they could 're do it..all are true
But all that is predicated on the notion of women being out to get you...
@atribecalledgabi. How you gonna ask that man anything when I'm the one that posted the info.
It's not about If "all women are like that" but enough of them are. The funny part about it is that female friends will stand back and watch their girl plot on a ? wallet. Either by getting pregnant and hooking him up on cs or getting married with the intention of getting divorced after alimony is a factor.
You not gonna sit here and gaslight a ? . There are too many stories from divorced ? , ? whose bms withhold the children and stories from divorce attorneys for you to try to insinuate that I'm paranoid. -
Pro, living with your kids,
Con once you say i do you relinquish all power. Money, sex, freedom, some people lose religion. I think I'm gonna tell my son not to get married. Its a retirement plan for women and a go to hell pass for men -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »atribecalledgabi wrote: »
Naw but stuff like women mostly are the ones the end relationships... women settling ...women havin that back up plan... them taking all ur ? and older married men telling younger men not to marry or they wouldn't if they could 're do it..all are true
But all that is predicated on the notion of women being out to get you...
@atribecalledgabi. How you gonna ask that man anything when I'm the one that posted the info.
It's not about If "all women are like that" but enough of them are. The funny part about it is that female friends will stand back and watch their girl plot on a ? wallet. Either by getting pregnant and hooking him up on cs or getting married with the intention of getting divorced after alimony is a factor.
You not gonna sit here and gaslight a ? . There are too many stories from divorced ? , ? whose bms withhold the children and stories from divorce attorneys for you to try to insinuate that I'm paranoid.
I have also seen women stand back an watch they girl fukk up they marraige...no advice...no "girl that ain't right". my wife tries to keep it 100 with her friends.. while most may appreciate it...I'm not so sure they will do they same in return.
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some people are in live with being in love but not maintaining said love.
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also....looking at her sphere of influence.
how she comments on hoe-ism
how she responds to certain movies....
like I said.....alot of little ? -
Some women want to get married just to post wedding pics on the gram and Facebook....and don't give a d*mn about what happens after the wedding.
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Hahahahaha. This thread reads like a bunch of horror stories
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Hahahahaha. This thread reads like a bunch of horror stories
depends in how you look at it.
the mentality is changing...people are more selfish.
but working a job can have the same horror stories with companies being more selfish.
but here's the thing tho...
more people will show loyalty to a job than they do their mate. even when both will call to cut you, both are looking out for themselves an both can be a come up for you if you play your cards right. -
I don't see how it's any different than long term shacking up..just with some legal benefits. Until it goes bad, then it could be a hassle. Marriage is a legal decision that seems to be viewed as a true display of commitment for some reason.
Pros: Partner in life..it feels good to have someone that knows the good, bad and ugly (mostly
) and is still down for the ride.
Cons: Sometimes you feel trapped especially when ? isn't peachy. -
Don't let ? project their ? ups in life on to you.
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You ? sounding like a bunch of scorned ? in here man
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Brehs I hope y'all under 30 R soaking this up. Save u a lotta heartache down the road. U see @2stepz_ahead go it S.L.A.P. ( Sounding Like A Plan) but he keeps emphasizing " The Little Things." 4 a reason. Remember:. "SMALL SPARKS START BIG FIRES!". U don't wanna play Fireman in ya relationship. Hold ya nuts and check her! U beta believe she'll do it to you regarding dissatisfaction. By not being scared to lose a woman, that woman will hold onto you stronger.
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JoshuaMoshua wrote: »You ? sounding like a bunch of scorned ? in here man
why can't it be keeping it 100 about the potential pitfalls?
too many people paint perfect pictures an sugarcoat. but when you don't then it's miserable ? -
Ok so now lets hear from our happily married people.
The floor is yours.
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2stepz_ahead wrote: »JoshuaMoshua wrote: »You ? sounding like a bunch of scorned ? in here man
why can't it be keeping it 100 about the potential pitfalls?
too many people paint perfect pictures an sugarcoat. but when you don't then it's miserable ?
Nobody said that marriage was gonna be perfect, anybody with a functioning brain could tell you that. It's just a legally recognized relationship, my issue is with the people in here making it seem like a death trap. -
Ok so now lets hear from our happily married people.
The floor is yours.
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They can't do it...they're crying as they type and keep hitting backspace.
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When you get married, you take on your bad days as well your spouses, which makes for more bad days. If you're not strong enough to keep your bad days to yourself, and not bring them home while leading your household, and at the same time have the poise, and emotional intelligence to not catch feelings when her bad days cross into your world and still stay sturdy, don't even go ring shoppin dog.
Kids, as beautiful as they are, add to the stress load because now your time is not yours anymore and many find themselves, losing themselves in the daily struggle of doing what you have to instead of what you want to and fighting those feelings of regret that exist because you want your time back, and there's nothing wrong with that, you're human, and we're selfish at times. You gotta find the jewels within parenthood that make it worth while Mine gave me so much ? fuel to be better, I can't imagine going back to the ? I was. If you not built for that, or you don't think you have a mate that is.... hit the showers.
Look at it like this, Marriage is the NBA of relationships. If you can't get through menial, or big problems when it's just 1 on 1 with some commitment, but still a unlocked door. If one or the other finds themselves looking at the unlocked door during every dispute, and get to sayin ? like they unsure, don't get married. Because when that door locks.... It's real, we playin for keeps, and the cost of losing is super high.
As a man, you have to be stable enough to take on a woman and all her emotions, and try to remain who she fell in love with, while also keeping her at least feeling secure by providing, leading, teaching and protecting her, and your children. Being a woman has it's own pressures, but i'm not no woman so i'll leave that to them to explain. If you choose a partner for the right reasons, and you're certain you're both war ready, make it happen, be fruitful, and have a beautiful life together, and raise children that will hopefully learn from your example and do the same.
The most important attribute a wife can have is commitment, loyalty, and persistence, that's what being ready for anything life throws at you and staying the course is all about. All the stay togethers I know had one common thread of advice YOUNG ? YOU GON GO THROUGH SOME ? , WITH MARRIAGE, SO MAKE SURE YOU'RE BOTH READY.
And If I could add 2 rules to that, the first rule is make sure you keep the love for each other first. The second rule is don't forget rule number 1. It's the heartbeat of the whole thing, so take care of each other, mind body and spirit.
Ain't ? sweet, at all. Bring your hard hat. You come ready to dig out a foundation and plant the field instead of thinking the work is done once you leave the altar. You'll be aight. And remember, MEN LEAD. PERIOD.
Marriage is beautiful, but you gotta put the pain in to keep it rockin.
Synergy ? . Find a dope person and you keep being dope, and make a doper person. That's why we here.
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blackgod813 wrote: »
Real ? tears!!!
But for real after reading that I was like please let this ? be done with the ether -
@JoshuaMoshua Don't U have life teach U a lesson" fam. They're very expense, time consuming and costly when u allow that 2 take place. U look a gift horse in the mouth I see huh? Ya hindsight vision will be ya 20/20. Life's experiences R 2 B shared to spare others. Don't be afraid 2 open up too.
