Ladies, Taking a Guys Virginity, Yes or No?

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  • riddlerap
    riddlerap Members Posts: 17,132 ✭✭✭✭✭
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    youngstyles23 wrote: »
    women want a man who can make them feel good, who know what they are doin. if a woman were to be with a man who was inexperienced, they would have to take control of the situation. most women dont like to have control. they want to be controlled, sexually of course. hell, some wanna be controlled in a phases of life, but thats a different topic for a different day. most women just wanna be dominated in a sense, they need that feeling psychologically, its helps them get off. so dealing with a man that is a ? would be viewed as a tremendous burden, one that they wouldnt want.

    even if that is the case, passing up on someone who could be perfect for you just cause of this would be very shortsighted, considering maybe it only takes a few attempts at sex to get it down to what is good for both of you (maybe more, idk), and then you got the rest of your life to have it be the way you really want.
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  • kat2180
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    riddlerap wrote: »
    even if that is the case, passing up on someone who could be perfect for you just cause of this would be very shortsighted, considering maybe it only takes a few attempts at sex to get it down to what is good for both of you (maybe more, idk), and then you got the rest of your life to have it be the way you really want.

    You also have to consider how he may respond to having sex. What if he likes it so much that he wants to experience others partners?

    I just prefer someone that is a little more experienced. Someone that already knows what they're getting into with sex.
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  • blackrain
    blackrain Members, Moderators Posts: 27,269 Regulator
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    kat2180 wrote: »
    lol @ all the males getting offended.

    i think confused is a more accurate term...confused at how a man is somehow less attractive because he hasn't stuck his ? in a bunch of women before he met you...
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  • blackrain
    blackrain Members, Moderators Posts: 27,269 Regulator
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    kat2180 wrote: »
    You also have to consider how he may respond to having sex. What if he likes it so much that he wants to experience others partners?

    I just prefer someone that is a little more experienced. Someone that already knows what they're getting into with sex.

    that's a worry you can have w/ anyone you're with regardless if they're a ? or if they're a former porn star
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  • blakfyahking
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    Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »
    That would be interesting. I wouldn't hold it against him as a reason to dismiss him.
    If we are compatible in all other aspects, he is open minded and was all for being "turned out", I wouldn't turn him down for that.


    I felt some type of way about the bolded



    you freaky little minx you:)
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  • Smo-King Locs
    Smo-King Locs Banned Users Posts: 3,380 ✭✭✭
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    haute wrote: »
    hell naw


    you young, crazy ass, tight pants wearing, lil' b listening, here lemme put highlights in my hair a lá wiz khalifah ?

    make my ?

    really dry

    like super dry

    and that ? ain't right

    but i wear pumps prince, get ya ? wet?
    i put make up wit my girl prince, get ya nookie wet?
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  • Conscious__Nkechi
    Conscious__Nkechi Members Posts: 6,110 ✭✭✭
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    blakfyahking wrote: »
    I felt some type of way about the bolded



    you freaky little minx you:)

    I'm just saying, while I do believe sexual compatibility is as important as being compatible in other regards, if he is open to taking it all the way here, there, all the way 'round and exploring then why would I disregard all of his other amazing qualities because he is a ? ? I wouldn't.
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  • Smo-King Locs
    Smo-King Locs Banned Users Posts: 3,380 ✭✭✭
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    SpeakWhatsRealDotCom wrote: »
    Yes.
    No.
    Of course. Heard the first time isn't really "good", but I'd be excited to share this with a special someone.
    Enjoyable-A deep mental connection..? Sappy, I know.
    ]

    telll me about it my 1st time i had trouble finding the hole...? was embarraassing.... n why the hell ya ass is quoting harry potter?????????????????????????????????????


    and to the ongoing convo wit my brothas, why would u tell a ? u a ? ???? i neva told a ? i was a ? , it was always something in me that told me not 2.....my 1st time i lied my ass off talkin all this Papi grande ? , until it was game time n i couldn't find the hole sweating bullets embarrassed as ? , but good thing she was nice tho...? gotta understand our role we take lead, we take charge we tell these ? what 2 do, it's us, never ask a ? , command the ? ...n ? know that, so when it comes to sex u gotta take charge... ? ain't gonna be feeling a guy who's a ? unless he's famous or rich, cuz he ain't gonna take lead in the bed cause he don't know what he doin, don't let that discourage u tho, just keep lying in 2 to the ? until u get better, fake it till u make it...
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  • Conscious__Nkechi
    Conscious__Nkechi Members Posts: 6,110 ✭✭✭
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    Smo-King Locs wrote: »
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    telll me about it my 1st time i had trouble finding the hole...? was embarraassing.... n why the hell ya ass is quoting harry potter?????????????????????????????????????


    and to the ongoing convo wit my brothas, why would u tell a ? u a ? ???? i neva told a ? i was a ? , it was always something in me that told me not 2.....my 1st time i lied my ass off talkin all this Papi grande ? , until it was game time n i couldn't find the hole sweating bullets embarrassed as ? , but good thing she was nice tho...? gotta understand our role we take lead, we take charge we tell these ? what 2 do, it's us, never ask a ? , command the ? ...n ? know that, so when it comes to sex u gotta take charge... ? ain't gonna be feeling a guy who's a ? unless he's famous or rich, cuz he ain't gonna take lead in the bed cause he don't know what he doin, don't let that discourage u tho, just keep lying in 2 to the ? until u get better, fake it till u make it...

    Smh @ encouraging brothers to lie. None of that is "cool".
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  • Smo-King Locs
    Smo-King Locs Banned Users Posts: 3,380 ✭✭✭
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    Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »
    Smh @ encouraging brothers to lie. None of that is "cool".

    lol,when it comes to women thatz what u gotta do 2 get wat u want,until u manifest the lie(s) 2 reality ...especially when u a ? like me
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  • rose.amoureux
    rose.amoureux Members Posts: 2,046
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    I wouldnt have a problem with it.
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  • blakfyahking
    blakfyahking Members Posts: 15,785 ✭✭✭✭✭
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    Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »
    Smh @ encouraging brothers to lie. None of that is "cool".

    haha @ the irony............

    because majority of the female posts in this thread (and many threads for that matter :( ) encourages these young scrappaz to feel as if they gotta lie to kick it



    females rarely consider the punshment for honesty when they say they are looking for a guy to be truthful at all times
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  • Conscious__Nkechi
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    Smo-King Locs wrote: »
    lol,when it comes to women thatz what u gotta do 2 get wat u want,until u manifest the lie(s) 2 reality ...especially when u a ? like me

    No, you really don't.
    Depends on the kind of woman you want to deal with and the life you choose to live though.
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  • Conscious__Nkechi
    Conscious__Nkechi Members Posts: 6,110 ✭✭✭
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    blakfyahking wrote: »
    haha @ the irony............

    because majority of the female posts in this thread (and many threads for that matter :( ) encourages these young scrappaz to feel as if they gotta lie to kick it



    females rarely consider the punshment for honesty when they say they are looking for a guy to be truthful at all times

    Well I can't speak for them. I will deal with any truth far better than any lie.
    I am not the kind who asks for honesty only to expect the answer I want to hear and then get offended when it's the total opposite or an unexpected answer.
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  • Smo-King Locs
    Smo-King Locs Banned Users Posts: 3,380 ✭✭✭
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    Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »
    No, you really don't.
    Depends on the kind of woman you want to deal with and the life you choose to live though.




    i've been peepin ya posting style 4 a while n i admire ya mind n i know that u know that most women love fantasy...
    blakfyahking wrote: »
    haha @ the irony............

    because majority of the female posts in this thread (and many threads for that matter :( ) encourages these young scrappaz to feel as if they gotta lie to kick it



    females rarely consider the punshment for honesty when they say they are looking for a guy to be truthful at all times



    preach boss



    Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »
    Well I can't speak for them. I will deal with any truth far better than any lie.
    I am not the kind who asks for honesty only to expect the answer I want to hear and then get offended when it's the total opposite or an unexpected answer.


    well in that case i would b honest with u and woman like u...

    lmao, see i just wanna see u happy n satisfied by giving u the expected answers
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  • Conscious__Nkechi
    Conscious__Nkechi Members Posts: 6,110 ✭✭✭
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    Smo-King Locs wrote: »
    i've been peepin ya posting style 4 a while n i admire ya mind n i know that u know that most women love fantasy...


    well in that case i would b honest with u and woman like u...

    lmao, see i just wanna see u happy n satisfied by giving u the expected answers

    Thank you :)

    @ the red font-"Expect the expected and expect the unexpected."

    And it's irritating when people give an answer just to please the one asking. Don't tell me what you think I want to hear, tell me what you really feel and want to say.
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  • Smo-King Locs
    Smo-King Locs Banned Users Posts: 3,380 ✭✭✭
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    Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »
    Thank you :)

    @ the red font-"Expect the expected and expect the unexpected."

    And it's irritating when people give an answer just to please the one asking. Don't tell me what you think I want to hear, tell me what you really feel and want to say.

    wrd, but how can u tell if the typical ? he saying is not how he feeling???

    and watz good wit the pics i wanna see the face behind that beautiful mind
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  • krazedpoetess
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    I really don't see why guys have a problem with most girls saying they don't want a ? . Like I said before... there is no good reason to be a ? after 25. The only reason that would make sense is if you could never get anybody to have sex with you... but Chances are whatever that thing is that keeps him from gettin some... is probably gonna be the reason I wouldn't give dude some either....
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  • blackrain
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    krazedpoetess wrote: »
    I really don't see why guys have a problem with most girls saying they don't want a ? . Like I said before... there is no good reason to be a ? after 25. The only reason that would make sense is if you could never get anybody to have sex with you... but Chances are whatever that thing is that keeps him from gettin some... is probably gonna be the reason I wouldn't give dude some either....

    because there hasn't been one logical reason as to why it's so unattractive other than silly assumptions made about the person that you'd actually have to get to know them to find out if they were true or not...the automatic assumption that something is wrong with a guy who has chosen not to have sex by let's say 25 since you gave that random age, that's just immature to think like that...i mean since when did a man practicing self control, discipline, and a desire to only be w/ one woman become a negative trait? because that's essentially what alot of ya'll are saying....what if that's the reason he hasn't had sex yet? if that's a reason to not give him some then it's no wonder that ? get ? by lying the way they do...
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  • haute
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    Smo-King Locs wrote: »
    but i wear pumps prince, get ya ? wet?
    i put make up wit my girl prince, get ya nookie wet?

    Unless you can create purple rain and the complete sound track to the 80's

    No


    Not at all
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  • 1of1
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    Smo-King Locs wrote: »
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    and to the ongoing convo wit my brothas, why would u tell a ? u a ? ???? i neva told a ? i was a ? , it was always something in me that told me not 2.....my 1st time i lied my ass off talkin all this Papi grande ? . ..

    Word. I lied when I was a ? cuz that ? was a bird like Kat (lol ? , bird, kat). I wouldn't have achieved that 43 seconds of warm slippery wetness if I told the troof.
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  • Copper
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    Smo-King Locs wrote: »
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    telll me about it my 1st time i had trouble finding the hole...? was embarraassing.... n why the hell ya ass is quoting harry potter?????????????????????????????????????


    and to the ongoing convo wit my brothas, why would u tell a ? u a ? ???? i neva told a ? i was a ? , it was always something in me that told me not 2.....my 1st time i lied my ass off talkin all this Papi grande ? , until it was game time n i couldn't find the hole sweating bullets embarrassed as ? , but good thing she was nice tho...? gotta understand our role we take lead, we take charge we tell these ? what 2 do, it's us, never ask a ? , command the ? ...n ? know that, so when it comes to sex u gotta take charge... ? ain't gonna be feeling a guy who's a ? unless he's famous or rich, cuz he ain't gonna take lead in the bed cause he don't know what he doin, don't let that discourage u tho, just keep lying in 2 to the ? until u get better, fake it till u make it...

    i neva told a female I was a ? either...back when i was one....I always felt like it was just gonna lead to an akward situation/talk thus leading to embarrasment....plus women cant hold water much less a secret....smh @ women forcing us to lie because of their immoral values
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  • Copper
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    blackrain wrote: »
    because there hasn't been one logical reason as to why it's so unattractive other than silly assumptions made about the person that you'd actually have to get to know them to find out if they were true or not...the automatic assumption that something is wrong with a guy who has chosen not to have sex by let's say 25 since you gave that random age, that's just immature to think like that...i mean since when did a man practicing self control, discipline, and a desire to only be w/ one woman become a negative trait? because that's essentially what alot of ya'll are saying....what if that's the reason he hasn't had sex yet? if that's a reason to not give him some then it's no wonder that ? get ? by lying the way they do...

    true
    every woman wants faithfullness in a man ....but reject a man who chooses to wait until hes married/in love/commited for sex (b/c if u wait that long its def. a choice) wich shows that he is moral and has a tremendous amount of self-control....i got alot of respect for that now that im older....b/c I know i couldnt have done it
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  • Little JJ
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    I need a woman to take mine or else I'll never lose it.
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  • krazedpoetess
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    blackrain wrote: »
    because there hasn't been one logical reason as to why it's so unattractive other than silly assumptions made about the person that you'd actually have to get to know them to find out if they were true or not...the automatic assumption that something is wrong with a guy who has chosen not to have sex by let's say 25 since you gave that random age, that's just immature to think like that...i mean since when did a man practicing self control, discipline, and a desire to only be w/ one woman become a negative trait? because that's essentially what alot of ya'll are saying....what if that's the reason he hasn't had sex yet? if that's a reason to not give him some then it's no wonder that ? get ? by lying the way they do...

    You can't have self control and discipline and have sex before 25? What is the big deal about having sex with just one person ever in your life? Why would anybody want to do that? If someone feels that is important then I wouldn't want to be with them for sure because they have some unrealistic ideas about sex and relationships. I said 25 because by then you should have been rid of our fanatical beliefs about sex and relationships. I know I got rid of mine before then. I'm not sayin dude has to have some long track record and list of women. Even if he only has had one partner before me it's not big deal. I just figure anybody who doesn't have sex even tho they are grown probably doesn't have a good reason for not having sex.

    Also let me add... I don't think that there is something wrong with just guys who haven't had sex before the age of 25... I think the same for women. I can't think of a single good reason why someone would be a ? after 25 and the one you provided doesn't seem to ME (i'm emphasizing ME because I know others feel differently) to be a ? .
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