Ladies, Taking a Guys Virginity, Yes or No?
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krazedpoetess wrote: »You can't have self control and discipline and have sex before 25? What is the big deal about having sex with just one person ever in your life? Why would anybody want to do that? If someone feels that is important then I wouldn't want to be with them for sure because they have some unrealistic ideas about sex and relationships. I said 25 because by then you should have been rid of our fanatical beliefs about sex and relationships. I know I got rid of mine before then. I'm not sayin dude has to have some long track record and list of women. Even if he only has had one partner before me it's not big deal. I just figure anybody who doesn't have sex even tho they are grown probably doesn't have a good reason for not having sex.
Also let me add... I don't think that there is something wrong with just guys who haven't had sex before the age of 25... I think the same for women. I can't think of a single good reason why someone would be a ? after 25 and the one you provided doesn't seem to ME (i'm emphasizing ME because I know others feel differently) to be a ? .
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got dayum we losing out chea
the churren need guidance for real
shorty that is some scallowag logic right there...............no wonder we got so many mofos running around here lost -
Good sweet mother of all that's pure and sacred. What??
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blakfyahking wrote: »..................
got dayum we losing out chea
the churren need guidance for real
shorty that is some scallowag logic right there...............no wonder we got so many mofos running around here lost
How is that "Scallowag" logic? To each his own. if someone chooses to wait more power to em I guess. I used to believe that it was important to be a ? til marriage and didn't lose my virginity til I was about 21 (and even then I had a hard time dealing with all the guilt from having done it). I spent the next 2 years or so NOT having sex and making celibacy/virginity out to be a much bigger deal than it really was. Then I got with my current boyfriend and we have a great and loving relationship and I'm very happy that I have a sexual relationship with him. I could have held out on sex and held on to a bunch of ridiculous ideals that really don't even mean much and missed out on the joy of a meaningful AND sexual relationship with someone I love very much. I just don't see the point of purposefully depriving yourself of sex as though it really means something in the long run. And anybody who purposefully does so is usually doing it for religious reasons (and I aint a fan of religion) or something to make themselves feel superior to those that are sexually active. -
What's wrong with being a ? after 25??, AND GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Nothing WRONG with it.... But if you are purposefully a ? I just don't see the point of it. And unless the guy can give me a damn good reason for being a ? ... I really don't see myself ever in life being with one. -
krazedpoetess wrote: »Nothing WRONG with it.... But if you are purposefully a ? I just don't see the point of it. And unless the guy can give me a damn good reason for being a ? ... I really don't see myself ever in life being with one.
for some people only having sex until marriage or a commited relationship is a good reason for them......smh @ the bolded...u are truly lost -
lol...KP done went and grew up on us..
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krazedpoetess wrote: »Nothing WRONG with it.... But if you are purposefully a ? I just don't see the point of it. And unless the guy can give me a damn good reason for being a ? ... I really don't see myself ever in life being with one.
Who are you? LOL!!!
Getwitcha -
if he been jerking off since 12 is he still a ? ?
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I didn't expect anything else.blakfyahking wrote: »SMH & LOL @ the logic in this thread -
What if a person doesn't care for sex????
How can you not care for something you've never tried?
I could understand a dude that is celibate but an older guy that hasn't gone there at all? A little weird. -
I was officially robbed of my innocence a few birthdays ago lol, my ex was bragging on how she had a ?
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What if a person doesn't care for sex????
Like Kat says... How could they not care for something they've never had? Also... unless this person is lacking hormones... I don't see how they don't have any sexual desire... and if they have no sexual desire... i certainly wouldn't date them. -
copperkid27 wrote: »for some people only having sex until marriage or a commited relationship is a good reason for them......smh @ the bolded...u are truly lost
That's a good reason for them. I understand wanting to wait until you are in a committed relationship... but I don't want to be anyone's first relationship either. I couldn't date someone waiting til marriage either cuz I'm not waiting til marriage. -
lol...KP done went and grew up on us..mr.getwitcha wrote: »Who are you? LOL!!!
Getwitcha
LMAO Life experience certainly does teach you a lot. And these ppl in here are in here raving about virginity like it somehow makes you a better person. There is no guarantee that anyone based on sexual history or lack thereof will be a good mate. That's just life. People have preferences and we were asked about our preference. I just don't see myself with someone that views sex and relationships in a way that idolizes virginity. -
krazedpoetess wrote: »Like Kat says... How could they not care for something they've never had? Also... unless this person is lacking hormones... I don't see how they don't have any sexual desire... and if they have no sexual desire... i certainly wouldn't date them.
Asexuality aka. non sexuality, in its broadest sense, is the lack of sexual attraction and/or the lack of interest in and desire for sex. -
Smdh @ these responses Idk why folks think b/c ppl choose to live to certain standards in life something has to be wrong with them. Just live your life how you see fit and don't worry about what the next is doing.
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krazedpoetess wrote: »LMAO Life experience certainly does teach you a lot. And these ppl in here are in here raving about virginity like it somehow makes you a better person. There is no guarantee that anyone based on sexual history or lack thereof will be a good mate. That's just life. People have preferences and we were asked about our preference. I just don't see myself with someone that views sex and relationships in a way that idolizes virginity.
You sound salty as hell. lol. pastor must have been droppin those scriptures on you at church.................
and yes, you are right, being a ? wont make you a better mate.
moral of story. Do whats best for you. -
krazedpoetess wrote: »You can't have self control and discipline and have sex before 25? What is the big deal about having sex with just one person ever in your life? Why would anybody want to do that? If someone feels that is important then I wouldn't want to be with them for sure because they have some unrealistic ideas about sex and relationships. I said 25 because by then you should have been rid of our fanatical beliefs about sex and relationships. I know I got rid of mine before then. I'm not sayin dude has to have some long track record and list of women. Even if he only has had one partner before me it's not big deal. I just figure anybody who doesn't have sex even tho they are grown probably doesn't have a good reason for not having sex.
Also let me add... I don't think that there is something wrong with just guys who haven't had sex before the age of 25... I think the same for women. I can't think of a single good reason why someone would be a ? after 25 and the one you provided doesn't seem to ME (i'm emphasizing ME because I know others feel differently) to be a ? .
those two traits aren't exclusive to someone who is a ? ...another assumption you're making about a person there isn't a big deal about having sex before marriage...i had lost my virginity when I was 16...i don't see a big deal about people who ? or people who choose not to ? until they're married...being a ? past a certain age has nothing to do with ohlding on to fanatical beliefs about sex...you're just assuming someone who doesn't have sex just MUST have some fairy tale land idea of what it's supposed to be like and that's just false...there's plenty of people, especially women, who ? like rabbits and still believe in that knight in shining armor ? ......of course you can have discipline and self control and still have sex...common sense should tell you there's more than one way to exhibit certain traits...abstaining from sex is just one of them...but to say that seeing those traits being shown in someone that you could have a potential romantic interest in and saying those same traits are unattractive or a turn off is just ass backwards because you're saying that you want the opposite of that... -
A males virginity means nothing in our society, I don't see why a women would care about being a guys first unless she would be worried that the sex wouldn't be good but then again if that's on her mind then she must not be worth a damn.
Kat and Ms. s are women in there 30s so the men they ? anit gonna be virgins most likely unless they on some ? ? going after High school ? LOL. -
I would do it I don't see why there would be a problem.
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hell naw
you young, crazy ass, tight pants wearing, lil' b listening, here lemme put highlights in my hair a lá wiz khalifah ?
make my ?
really dry
like super dry
and that ? ain't right
LMAO!! ... & LMAO again!! lol...
LOL @ that shid aint right. -
I guess the same reason a man would care about a woman's firstA males virginity means nothing in our society, I don't see why a women would care about being a guys first unless she would be worried that the sex wouldn't be good but then again if that's on her mind then she must not be worth a damn.
Kat and Ms. s are women in there 30s so the men they ? anit gonna be virgins most likely unless they on some ? ? going after High school ? LOL.
If I met a guy who chose to save it, for whatever reason
I think I would just be concerned about managing expectations -
I think I would just be concerned about managing expectations
I can respect this answer
this makes some logical sense -
those two traits aren't exclusive to someone who is a ? ...another assumption you're making about a person there isn't a big deal about having sex before marriage...i had lost my virginity when I was 16...i don't see a big deal about people who ? or people who choose not to ? until they're married...being a ? past a certain age has nothing to do with ohlding on to fanatical beliefs about sex...you're just assuming someone who doesn't have sex just MUST have some fairy tale land idea of what it's supposed to be like and that's just false...there's plenty of people, especially women, who ? like rabbits and still believe in that knight in shining armor ? ......of course you can have discipline and self control and still have sex...common sense should tell you there's more than one way to exhibit certain traits...abstaining from sex is just one of them...but to say that seeing those traits being shown in someone that you could have a potential romantic interest in and saying those same traits are unattractive or a turn off is just ass backwards because you're saying that you want the opposite of that...
I don't remember saying that... or maybe I'm not understanding what you mean. Either way, I wouldn't want to be anyone's first. That's my main point. I haven't met a ? over 25 that didn't have beliefs that I find ridiculous regarding sex and relationships. Maybe one day I'll meet that exception and I'll change my views. -
rofl this ? went and got turned the ? out.
*waits for DG, Bx or Shawtycake to comeback next posting like confused ? *
