True Life: I'm a woman, I don't want kids, and marriage isn't a priority
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Sorry I have to disagree with you on this.
Look at Oprah. She once said if she had had children, or actually if the child she had at 14 would have lived, her life would have been hella different. And she wasn't meaning in a good way.
I don't know about you. But I would trade all the children in the world for Oprah's life. She has traveled the world many times over, has an amazing career and met ammazing people. Besides that she has a big heart and feels fulfilled helping others. I think that is the type of person T/S is. She said something about charity. I can't hate on that. She is thinking of others.Her legacy will be helping others. It doesn't have to be a child.
These ? not Oprah bruh. They ass aint gonna have ? to do. But i aint mad at them. They probably wont be good mothers anyways. -
lol @ usin the most outrageous exception to the rule, Oprah, as reason why u dont want kids. *sIGH*
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ummm
what the hell does oprah have to do with anything???
Men are soo strange
@shuffles
you're right about me liking to prepare when making certain types of decisions
but I just don't desire children -
I can digg your stance...
I'm not the one for kids and marriage either...
I'm too selfish and i value my individual freedom more than anything...
Nothing is wrong with having kids or being married..it just isnt for me.. -
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why waste some good child bearing hips? thats the magic of the ? , it brings people in the world, don't waste it.
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Sounds like my type of chick
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Sorry I have to disagree with you on this.
Look at Oprah. She once said if she had had children, or actually if the child she had at 14 would have lived, her life would have been hella different. And she wasn't meaning in a good way.
I don't know about you. But I would trade all the children in the world for Oprah's life. She has traveled the world many times over, has an amazing career and met ammazing people. Besides that she has a big heart and feels fulfilled helping others. I think that is the type of person T/S is. She said something about charity. I can't hate on that. She is thinking of others.Her legacy will be helping others. It doesn't have to be a child.
ROFL @ the Oprah argument -
first im a female. second i was just refering to her because like Oprah other woman choose to focus on their career more and forgo a husband and children. She, like many other women seem very happy without children and a husband.
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Seriously, I don't
And it's not a knock against mothers, its just not something I desire for myself
Many think women are biggest critics of a woman not wanting children
But I find that men are the ones who cast the most judgement
The same ones, screaming no marriage, no this, no that
Are the same ones quick to talk ? about a woman choosing to do what she wants for her body and her future
I've dated guys who at first, thought it was cool, or maybe just didnt take what I said seriously
but as we progress and get more serious, all of a sudden it becomes this big deal
Im like "dude, I told you thats not what I want for my future, you and your mom need to ? "
its annoying
FYI if your under 23 stay the ? outta this convo
sounds more like a bitter woman post. same chicks claimin they dont want kids are the ones with the most -
lol @ usin the most outrageous exception to the rule, Oprah, as reason why u dont want kids. *sIGH*
yall ? foolin yalselves you if you think oprah isnt bitter about being single and childless. she may not show it but i bet it bothers the ? out of her -
you dont want to be sleeping around with different dudes for the rest of your life
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I don't see a point in trying to convince somebody with a strong opinion like this otherwise. She's showing us who she is. She doesn't like kids she referred to them as "They Snotty ? ". That ? was crazy lol she said the only kids a dude could have would have to be 14/15....Those aren't even kids, those are teenagers, teenagers have sex lol they're pre adults.
So IMO Haute is saying she's a jump off. Come and go as she pleases,all that free the world make a change ? is Bull.
Most normal people are working towards being stable enough to have a family. The whole world keeps moving by procreation(it's a problem when you have to be that literal).
So when a human being says what she's saying , it basically amounts to don't take me serious, just ? me, give me money and keep it pushing.
Most of the women who say they don't want kids, are saying they would rather have money. They to me, sound like the perfect sidewoman. She just wants ? and maybe a few dollas. You ? them and leave them alone. Tell them yeah I'm on the same level, yeah u my girl, yea yeah yeah, ummm can you go by the condoms(check), you on birth control(check), and have your damn fun with them. When you meet your real dream woman wholesome girl, wants to have a fam and such, you leave the hautes.
When and if you Divorce, go back with the HAUTES lol
I say don't convince someone otherwise or catch feelings, use them as they would like to be used. -
A old ass 44 single woman is not a good look
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So you don't think Oprah could've had a Husband, and kids if she wanted to?
of course she dont want anybody to get any of that money
all that damn money who she gonna give it to?
her kids wouldve took on that dynasty
maybe she's a selfish woman -
edwardnigma wrote: »I don't see a point in trying to convince somebody with a strong opinion like this otherwise. She's showing us who she is. She doesn't like kids she referred to them as "They Snotty ? ". That ? was crazy lol she said the only kids a dude could have would have to be 14/15....Those aren't even kids, those are teenagers, teenagers have sex lol they're pre adults.
So IMO Haute is saying she's a jump off. Come and go as she pleases,all that free the world make a change ? is Bull.
Most normal people are working towards being stable enough to have a family. The whole world keeps moving by procreation(it's a problem when you have to be that literal).
So when a human being says what she's saying , it basically amounts to don't take me serious, just ? me, give me money and keep it pushing.
Most of the women who say they don't want kids, are saying they would rather have money. They to me, sound like the perfect sidewoman. She just wants ? and maybe a few dollas. You ? them and leave them alone. Tell them yeah I'm on the same level, yeah u my girl, yea yeah yeah, ummm can you go by the condoms(check), you on birth control(check), and have your damn fun with them. When you meet your real dream woman wholesome girl, wants to have a fam and such, you leave the hautes.
When and if you Divorce, go back with the HAUTES lol
I say don't convince someone otherwise or catch feelings, use them as they would like to be used.
post of the day right here...she'll make a good sugar mama in her 40's -
So wait, now Haute is destined to spend life as a jump off because she chooses not to be a Wife and Mother?:-/
Your logic here is flawed, it's as if you view Women as objects, that have to fufill the purpose you set for them. Women are human beings, we are free to make our own choices as to what we do with our lives, and our bodies. Just because some of us choose to reject the roles society has for us, doesn't mean that we are less "Womanly", and worthy of love than our counterparts that do.....
I don't think it's more so not being worthy of love
it's just the context of that "love" gets redefined when a woman decides she is going to reject mainstream social mores
basically if you letting a man hit that on a consistent and you aren't a wife, at some point you become equivalent to a jumpoff in a lot of people's eyes :shrugs -
you guys need reading glasses at no point did I say I did not want to marry, I just said it wasn't a priority
and lol @ 'normal' people chasing a family
You mean the same 'normal' people who have
1. Kids out of wedlock and babby mama drama
or
2. The ones getting divorced
excuse me for not following the heard, and going after what I find fulfilling -
Yung_Souf_Money wrote: »you dont want to be sleeping around with different dudes for the rest of your life
lmao
do you men hear yourselves???
If I wanted to sleep around, children would not stop me, there are mothers who do it
And I have had and will continue to pursue committed relationships and hope when I find the right person, to get married
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I don't think it's that cut and dry.....a couple can have a lasting, meaningful realtionship without being married to one another. I hardly think that a Woman is a jumpoff if she's in a healthy, and loving relationship.
but it is that cut and dry in America(and a lot of other countries)
just cause you decide to deviate doesn't mean that society is going to embrace your choice to do something different
basically between you and ya man, you both are a loving couple, but to everybody else, you are basically his jump cause you aren't willing to make it official
I'm not saying that society is right, I'm just saying what it is
a marriage certificate does still actually count for something
and LOL @ Oprah being an example of what a woman should aspire to be in life...............she got masses of women brainwashed LOL -
you guys need reading glasses at no point did I say I did not want to marry, I just said it wasn't a priority
and lol @ 'normal' people chasing a family
You mean the same 'normal' people who have
1. Kids out of wedlock and babby mama drama
or
2. The ones getting divorced
excuse me for not following the heard, and going after what I find fulfilling
real talk, i once met a female who had a similiar outlook, and while we were talking there was a huge awkwardness because we both knew ? would only go but so far, cuz we both wanted different things outta life...(family/kids wise) but we got along great, and ? was definitely fun while it lasted
fast forward a couple of years....we saw eachother on yahoo messenger, and she says she kinda regrets being so hard and stubborn about that ? , she feels she missed out on something beautiful, especially given that i'm quite comfortable in a relationship that's taking me towards that family direction....she doesn't know what the hell she wants now....cuz her head and her plan tells her no kids.....marriage isn't a priority...
but she kinda feels a sort of resentment towards those who found happiness in their families that they built....
not saying that will be you, but just something to swish around -
SMH @ that Oprah tag
what did she win?
money doesn't mean ? when you actually have it
that's what they don't tell mofos when they say "money is the root of all evil" -
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and its funny a few years ago this wasn't such an issue
but now the men I usually go for are hitting 30
they want to 'settle down'
I'm fine with marriage, and if I meet the right person I would gladly take it to the next level
But the next level for me, does not involve kids
and thats part of the reason me and my ex just couldn't see eye to eye
he was ready to take that step, but him and his mother would not stop with this baby business,
and I can't do it, at least not just for the sake of having a husband
children are something you should desire, and I just dont desire they snotty little ?
Props to you for being honest with yourself, your partner, and defining what you want for yourself. If the others can't get with it, so be it. Also, that is very annoying; especially if you said not gonna happen from jump -
I made it:)
Tell me how she's didn't win? She's rich, she helps people doing what she loves every day......so you mean to tell me that because she didn't take the domestic route she lost at life?
anybody who's paid attention to ya posting style star obviously knows you made that tag LOL
and yeah, she did lose at life in a sense cause being rich doesn't mean a damn thing in the end
you help a couple people, you live well and then you die
what about continuing what you started by leaving your own DNA on this world to continue making the same impact
I hope I never make so much money that I become insulated from other people by default.........that's got to be a horrible way to live :shrugs -
Haute do your thing! Eventually you will look back and say damn I lived a good life or you will regret your stance. Either way you did it. Some people need a family to complete themselves, some dont!
And to me Oprah is a prime example of a women putting her career over everything. She is comfortable with her decision. She may regret it at sometime but I dont see it happening. Gale got htat cooch onlock and Stedman stay mad! LOL J/K
