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Tantric sex, anyone?
I got this article from mindbodygreen.com:
Throw the words “tantric sex” at your Tinder date and they'll likely be intrigued and intimidated. To most people, the idea of tantric sex sounds exciting, unique, and maybe more pleasurable. But only a small percentage of those people know what it actually is.
In many cultures, sex is considered merely recreational. Tantric sex is an ancient Eastern spiritual practice thought to expand consciousness and join together the polarities of masculine and feminine energy into a whole.
“Tantric sex is the ancient key to sexual pleasure and psychic power, attained through a set of rituals,” says Ashley Thirleby, author of Tantra: The Key to Sexual Powers. She goes on to explain that tantric sex can “enable you to reach new heights of sexual pleasure and ... tap your sexual energy for creative use in other areas of your life … [You] are in [your] most intense state of conscious and subconscious concentration during sexual involvement. Tantra teaches ways to carry this intense focus of concentration into all areas of life.
“The rituals make it possible to enjoy sex more often, for longer periods of greater pleasure than you have ever known before. And the more frequently you have sex, the more quickly and powerfully your sexual energy will regenerate itself … “In Tantra, all faculties — physical, mental, emotional — are stimulated as strongly as possible, then controlled, to bring ever-higher pleasure.”
Other than the spiritual element, what makes tantric sex different from Western sex and separate from the sexual culture in countries like the U.S.? In her book, Thirleby describes Tantra as “free of the hypocrisy that pervades … religious orders that seek enlightenment and truth through asceticism (primarily self-denial in sex). Tantra believes the path to enlightenment is through increased sexual activity.”
Unlike the “bone-and-go” sex many of us have become accustomed to, Tantra is a deeper sexual experience that most people enjoy. All it takes is the right information and an open mind.
1. Prepare your space.
Prep the bedroom or whatever area you plan to use (living room, etc.) with lots of comfortable pillows and soft bedding. Place lots of lighted, but mostly unscented candles, around the area — safely away from anything flammable. Keep the lighting completely off or on the dimmest setting.
Place glasses of water or a light wine within reach for both you and your partner to enjoy throughout the session. You may even wish to provide light snacks to keep your energy up or to feed to each other. If you wish to scent the area, use an essential oil diffuser with a relaxing scent (lavender is a good choice).
2. Prepare yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Come to the experience with an open mind and an open heart. If something makes you uncomfortable, you can skip it, but try to work through any feelings of discomfort. Those feelings usually come from a place of shame. Throughout the practice, remain playful and show curiosity to find new forms of pleasurable interaction.
Take a shower or bath, either alone or together, but try to refrain from any sexual touching. Stand facing each other and stretch however suits you to release any tension.
Dress in comfortable, nonrestrictive clothing. Underwear, lingerie or shorts, and a loose shirt work well. You can practice tantra in the nude if you prefer. But because tantra is about a slow buildup of sexual energy, it's often helpful to start clothed.
3. Begin the process of slowly building sexual energy — the tantra.
After stretching and showering/bathing, sit in front of each other and get comfortable. You may want to sit cross-legged, or drape your legs over each other so the energy from your ? zones is in closer proximity. You can also try the Yab-Yum position: The male partner sits down cross-legged, while the female sits down on top of his legs and faces him.
Look into each other's eyes for a long time — the eyes are the windows to the soul. It will feel uncomfortable at first, but continue to look into each other's eyes as long as it takes to become comfortable with the practice. There is no standard amount of time for this. Once you feel comfortable, a connection has been established. That is the goal. That is the precise sense of connection you need to enjoy tantric sex. Maintain eye contact throughout the practice.
4. Follow these steps in order.
Breathe together. Slow down your breaths, and sync your inhales and exhales. Breathe in and out simultaneously while looking into each other's eyes. If you like, you can place your hand on your partner's chest to feel their heart beating.
Once you’re breathing together and fully connected through eye contact, offer your partner some words to connect you further. Some examples include “I love __ about you” or “I feel pleasure when you __.” Be truthful in your statements and say exactly how you feel without fearing how it may be perceived. Take turns sharing statements.
Very lightly and slowly move your fingertips across parts of your partner's body to awaken the nerves and heighten sensation, maintaining eye contact. Tease your partner by brushing your fingers close to the ? and ? but not actually touching them.
If you are not already in Yab-Yum position, move into it. Embrace and breathe together.
Practice a few tantric kisses. “With your lips slightly open and touching, inhale together gently and exhale together, sharing and synchronizing the same breath.” Only then should you join your lips in a soft, slow, sensual kiss.
Give each other a full-body tantric massage. The receiving partner will begin face-down. The giving partner will begin to gently massage non-erogenous zones for several minutes, then proceeding to the erogenous zones.
You can go with a hand-only massage, or incorporate other textural tools, such as pieces of fabric, feathers, or wax. Once you've massaged your partner fully face-down, have them partner flip over and perform the same type of massage. A tantric massage is not about sexual stimulation, so do not try to bring your partner to orgasm.
The final step of the practice can be to have sex. Alternatively, you can end the practice simply by lying together in a relaxed, blissful state. Intercourse is not the focus of tantric sex. It is just one of the possible choices on the path.
If you do have sex, proceed slowly, and choose a position (or positions) that heightens your connection with your partner and preferably allows you to maintain eye contact. Most importantly, don’t lose the consciousness of the act. Stay focused and grounded in the moment, patiently allowing energy to build within yourselves and your connection.
You can explore the elements of tantra for as long as you like. There’s no time limit. It’s all about exploring pleasure in the way you most enjoy. -
Seen that s*** on Real Sex.
Meh, it's different. I'd try it at least once. Buy my touchy feely azzz would pretty much break the tantric circle, and commence to eating, ? , or sexing. Lol -
Most common positions:
The pow-wow
The hot seat
The tidal wave
The G force
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That Hot Seat is the bidness
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tantric sex IS the ? ...and the orgasms intense for both parties...but it's extremely intimate, your partner's pretty much gotta be someone u love, not just someone you're hitting...
once u get past whatever barriers tho, your partner's gonna feel pretty much uninhibited afterward (from a guy's POV). she's no longer gonna worry (as much) about her weight, or whether one ? 's bigger than the other, or anything like that, once y'all have made it to that level. and, if she hadn't been having orgasms before then, she's likely to wanna focus until she orgasms regularly/has multiple orgasms (note, NOT the same as ? ).
^^you're also more likely end up having orgasms at the same damn time, too lol. that's not exclusive to tantric sex tho. -
You'll be shocked as too how many folks, surprisingly women, who don't know the difference b/t ? and orgasm.
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BrideofKilla wrote: »Tantric sex, anyone?
I got this article from mindbodygreen.com:
Throw the words “tantric sex” at your Tinder date and they'll likely be intrigued and intimidated. To most people, the idea of tantric sex sounds exciting, unique, and maybe more pleasurable. But only a small percentage of those people know what it actually is.
In many cultures, sex is considered merely recreational. Tantric sex is an ancient Eastern spiritual practice thought to expand consciousness and join together the polarities of masculine and feminine energy into a whole.
“Tantric sex is the ancient key to sexual pleasure and psychic power, attained through a set of rituals,” says Ashley Thirleby, author of Tantra: The Key to Sexual Powers. She goes on to explain that tantric sex can “enable you to reach new heights of sexual pleasure and ... tap your sexual energy for creative use in other areas of your life … [You] are in [your] most intense state of conscious and subconscious concentration during sexual involvement. Tantra teaches ways to carry this intense focus of concentration into all areas of life.
“The rituals make it possible to enjoy sex more often, for longer periods of greater pleasure than you have ever known before. And the more frequently you have sex, the more quickly and powerfully your sexual energy will regenerate itself … “In Tantra, all faculties — physical, mental, emotional — are stimulated as strongly as possible, then controlled, to bring ever-higher pleasure.”
Other than the spiritual element, what makes tantric sex different from Western sex and separate from the sexual culture in countries like the U.S.? In her book, Thirleby describes Tantra as “free of the hypocrisy that pervades … religious orders that seek enlightenment and truth through asceticism (primarily self-denial in sex). Tantra believes the path to enlightenment is through increased sexual activity.”
Unlike the “bone-and-go” sex many of us have become accustomed to, Tantra is a deeper sexual experience that most people enjoy. All it takes is the right information and an open mind.
1. Prepare your space.
Prep the bedroom or whatever area you plan to use (living room, etc.) with lots of comfortable pillows and soft bedding. Place lots of lighted, but mostly unscented candles, around the area — safely away from anything flammable. Keep the lighting completely off or on the dimmest setting.
Place glasses of water or a light wine within reach for both you and your partner to enjoy throughout the session. You may even wish to provide light snacks to keep your energy up or to feed to each other. If you wish to scent the area, use an essential oil diffuser with a relaxing scent (lavender is a good choice).
2. Prepare yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Come to the experience with an open mind and an open heart. If something makes you uncomfortable, you can skip it, but try to work through any feelings of discomfort. Those feelings usually come from a place of shame. Throughout the practice, remain playful and show curiosity to find new forms of pleasurable interaction.
Take a shower or bath, either alone or together, but try to refrain from any sexual touching. Stand facing each other and stretch however suits you to release any tension.
Dress in comfortable, nonrestrictive clothing. Underwear, lingerie or shorts, and a loose shirt work well. You can practice tantra in the nude if you prefer. But because tantra is about a slow buildup of sexual energy, it's often helpful to start clothed.
3. Begin the process of slowly building sexual energy — the tantra.
After stretching and showering/bathing, sit in front of each other and get comfortable. You may want to sit cross-legged, or drape your legs over each other so the energy from your ? zones is in closer proximity. You can also try the Yab-Yum position: The male partner sits down cross-legged, while the female sits down on top of his legs and faces him.
Look into each other's eyes for a long time — the eyes are the windows to the soul. It will feel uncomfortable at first, but continue to look into each other's eyes as long as it takes to become comfortable with the practice. There is no standard amount of time for this. Once you feel comfortable, a connection has been established. That is the goal. That is the precise sense of connection you need to enjoy tantric sex. Maintain eye contact throughout the practice.
4. Follow these steps in order.
Breathe together. Slow down your breaths, and sync your inhales and exhales. Breathe in and out simultaneously while looking into each other's eyes. If you like, you can place your hand on your partner's chest to feel their heart beating.
Once you’re breathing together and fully connected through eye contact, offer your partner some words to connect you further. Some examples include “I love __ about you” or “I feel pleasure when you __.” Be truthful in your statements and say exactly how you feel without fearing how it may be perceived. Take turns sharing statements.
Very lightly and slowly move your fingertips across parts of your partner's body to awaken the nerves and heighten sensation, maintaining eye contact. Tease your partner by brushing your fingers close to the ? and ? but not actually touching them.
If you are not already in Yab-Yum position, move into it. Embrace and breathe together.
Practice a few tantric kisses. “With your lips slightly open and touching, inhale together gently and exhale together, sharing and synchronizing the same breath.” Only then should you join your lips in a soft, slow, sensual kiss.
Give each other a full-body tantric massage. The receiving partner will begin face-down. The giving partner will begin to gently massage non-erogenous zones for several minutes, then proceeding to the erogenous zones.
You can go with a hand-only massage, or incorporate other textural tools, such as pieces of fabric, feathers, or wax. Once you've massaged your partner fully face-down, have them partner flip over and perform the same type of massage. A tantric massage is not about sexual stimulation, so do not try to bring your partner to orgasm.
The final step of the practice can be to have sex. Alternatively, you can end the practice simply by lying together in a relaxed, blissful state. Intercourse is not the focus of tantric sex. It is just one of the possible choices on the path.
If you do have sex, proceed slowly, and choose a position (or positions) that heightens your connection with your partner and preferably allows you to maintain eye contact. Most importantly, don’t lose the consciousness of the act. Stay focused and grounded in the moment, patiently allowing energy to build within yourselves and your connection.
You can explore the elements of tantra for as long as you like. There’s no time limit. It’s all about exploring pleasure in the way you most enjoy.
Sounds intriguing but definitely for true couples who care and put time in their relationship. This is real love ? and knowing me the whole showeing together with distance wouldn't last long at all lol. -
Recaptimus_Prime360 wrote: »You'll be shocked as too how many folks, surprisingly women, who don't know the difference b/t ? and orgasm.
Shed some light on the unknowing y'all...
What's the difference between having an orgasm and ? ? -
BrideofKilla wrote: »Recaptimus_Prime360 wrote: »You'll be shocked as too how many folks, surprisingly women, who don't know the difference b/t ? and orgasm.
Shed some light on the unknowing y'all...
What's the difference between having an orgasm and ? ?
Aiight lemme see if I remember how it was explained to me...
For women who don't make noise when the juices flow is just ? . When your whole body reaches a point when you can't control it that's orgasm.
...this how it was explained to me.
A woman can ? multiple times and still keep going. An orgasm tho is felt throughout her whole body. Its uncontrollable. It will drain her. Which is why some of them collapse afterwards. -
All that making love ? is kinda wack. One of ex's tried to play sum pretty ricky one. I had to stop and throw tha radio out tha room. I'm still a yung pup. I'm just here to ?
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GodNThaBuild'n wrote: »All that making love ? is kinda wack. One of ex's tried to play sum pretty ricky one. I had to stop and throw tha radio out tha room. I'm still a yung pup. I'm just here to ?
I would've went with some different musical selections... Also if music is played I feel it shouldn't be louder than me. I want to hear the sound of sex over anything else.
But there are some grown and sexy songs that make for good background noise...
One of my favorites:
https://youtu.be/6bSPnmp47Mc -
No. No songs, no radio period. She gon be tha only that's loud anyways. ? I'll talk ? a lil bit tho
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? I know I done ? up when I nut and I get up out tha bed quit and she hit me with tha "oh you gon just get up and treat me like a hoe" line. Damn all tha cuddling ? too
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Nut so good sumtimes and give tha hank hill -
I hate music during sex too .....just bedsprings and ? and panting
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GodNThaBuild'n wrote: »No. No songs, no radio period. She gon be tha only that's loud anyways. ? I'll talk ? a lil bit tho
Music, lighting, aroma therapy... Do men care about any of this when making love?
As a woman, I'd like to have all of my senses simulated...
Also, what do you say to further your partner's arousal?
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BrideofKilla wrote: »GodNThaBuild'n wrote: »No. No songs, no radio period. She gon be tha only that's loud anyways. ? I'll talk ? a lil bit tho
Music, lighting, aroma therapy... Do men care about any of this when making love?
As a woman, I'd like to have all of my senses simulated...
Also, what do you say to further your partner's arousal?
No one tries to do all that for Brenda down the street.
At best she can get background Jimmy Fallon...and the smell of dank n socks.
Now for your s/o that ? is different -
? talk imo has to be genuine. Has to be one of those "in the moment" kinda thing.
Had one chick who wanted me to do that, and it just felt forced. I wasn't in that kinda mood. So I'm literally sittin there trying to think of what to say, while I'm hittin her from the back. Smh.
I've done it before, but only when me and that person was caught up on the moment. When that happens, it takes things to a whole nutha level. You be sayin s*** that makes all the sense in the world. But then when you think back afterwards, you be like "Da f***? Did I really tell her I wanna f*** her ? like 2 yaks sumo wrestling in chocolate pudding???" -
ChillaDaKilla wrote: »BrideofKilla wrote: »GodNThaBuild'n wrote: »No. No songs, no radio period. She gon be tha only that's loud anyways. ? I'll talk ? a lil bit tho
Music, lighting, aroma therapy... Do men care about any of this when making love?
As a woman, I'd like to have all of my senses simulated...
Also, what do you say to further your partner's arousal?
No one tries to do all that for Brenda down the street.
At best she can get background Jimmy Fallon...and the smell of dank n socks.
Now for your s/o that ? is different
Makes sense...
Love making>>>straight ? IMO... -
BrideofKilla wrote: »ChillaDaKilla wrote: »BrideofKilla wrote: »GodNThaBuild'n wrote: »No. No songs, no radio period. She gon be tha only that's loud anyways. ? I'll talk ? a lil bit tho
Music, lighting, aroma therapy... Do men care about any of this when making love?
As a woman, I'd like to have all of my senses simulated...
Also, what do you say to further your partner's arousal?
No one tries to do all that for Brenda down the street.
At best she can get background Jimmy Fallon...and the smell of dank n socks.
Now for your s/o that ? is different
Makes sense...
Love making>>>straight ? IMO...
He aint for you, sweet raven -
BrideofKilla wrote: »ChillaDaKilla wrote: »BrideofKilla wrote: »GodNThaBuild'n wrote: »No. No songs, no radio period. She gon be tha only that's loud anyways. ? I'll talk ? a lil bit tho
Music, lighting, aroma therapy... Do men care about any of this when making love?
As a woman, I'd like to have all of my senses simulated...
Also, what do you say to further your partner's arousal?
No one tries to do all that for Brenda down the street.
At best she can get background Jimmy Fallon...and the smell of dank n socks.
Now for your s/o that ? is different
Makes sense...
Love making>>>straight ? IMO...
He aint for you, sweet raven
Not looking for advice on my own relationship... Just seeing what methods produce the best outcome. -
BrideofKilla wrote: »ChillaDaKilla wrote: »BrideofKilla wrote: »GodNThaBuild'n wrote: »No. No songs, no radio period. She gon be tha only that's loud anyways. ? I'll talk ? a lil bit tho
Music, lighting, aroma therapy... Do men care about any of this when making love?
As a woman, I'd like to have all of my senses simulated...
Also, what do you say to further your partner's arousal?
No one tries to do all that for Brenda down the street.
At best she can get background Jimmy Fallon...and the smell of dank n socks.
Now for your s/o that ? is different
Makes sense...
Love making>>>straight ? IMO...
He aint for you, sweet raven
Née grow didnt you just beg a light skinned woman with a voice deeper than Biggie to take yo cherry -
That thread has nothing to do with this thread
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BrideofKilla wrote: »GodNThaBuild'n wrote: »No. No songs, no radio period. She gon be tha only that's loud anyways. ? I'll talk ? a lil bit tho
Music, lighting, aroma therapy... Do men care about any of this when making love?
As a woman, I'd like to have all of my senses simulated...
Also, what do you say to further your partner's arousal?
I know I do.
If it's one if those nights where we can take our time, then yeah enjoy the whole moment of it. Having that kinda setting is relaxing. Makes you slow down, and take your time.
As to what I say to further the arousal...nothin. It's about what I DO. I don't say much b/c I enjoy watching a woman's reaction on the things I do to her. Watching her getting pleased turns me on.
For example if I'm eating the ? , it doesn't take long for me to find a woman's "spot". So when I do, instead of just going ahead and make her ? , I take my time wit it. Tease her a lil bit. Stretch it out more. So that way I let all that energy build up inside her. Then when focus strictly back on that particular spot that'll make her ? , it's more intense for her. Like watching a volcano erupt (especially if she's a squirter). -
Recaptimus_Prime360 wrote: »BrideofKilla wrote: »Recaptimus_Prime360 wrote: »You'll be shocked as too how many folks, surprisingly women, who don't know the difference b/t ? and orgasm.
Shed some light on the unknowing y'all...
What's the difference between having an orgasm and ? ?
Aiight lemme see if I remember how it was explained to me...
For women who don't make noise when the juices flow is just ? . When your whole body reaches a point when you can't control it that's orgasm.
...this how it was explained to me.
A woman can ? multiple times and still keep going. An orgasm tho is felt throughout her whole body. Its uncontrollable. It will drain her. Which is why some of them collapse afterwards.
there no such thing as ? , ? is a term created by the porn industry, the "? "
