My Dad Told Me To Never Have Kids Or Get Married
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i'm still getting married.....
R yall having kids? have yall discussed that yet? Timeframe and ? ? Don't hold that convo off ? -
Go back to lookin at the dudes you like. SMH
appreciate u displaying the feelings u caught ....
me cracking on ya corny ass=me liking guys ....? ? outta here u aging ass young ? . -
Conflict210 wrote: »that ? look like Benard Hopkins
yea he the same ? thats trying to sway cats into believing he only 26 ... wats crucial is that he says he got the face of a 18 year old ? .... his eyes must be aging quick too because they're fooling the ? out of that guy .... -
stilldat_dude wrote: »R yall having kids? have yall discussed that yet? Timeframe and ? ? Don't hold that convo off ?
at the very least another 2 years...
we real super selfish with our time right now...
i mean even with wedding planning, and me trying to get back intoschool ? gonna be jectic, but we both realize the next 2 years or so is going to be the best time for us, and the only time we truly have to ourselves..
so we do a lotta just us ? and say ? everyone else right now...
when u start adding kids, and too much family & social activities in the mix...it's harder to spend personal QT with eachother, so we tryna maximize that out right now -
Sound advice. Marriage got to be the dumbest ? you can do logically speaking. I know ? love their girl...she ur world an all.
But how you gonn apromise forever to someone? Youve know them 3-5 yrs and say...yup thats it, i aint looking no more. I respect cats that get married and try to start a fam wit a good woman...just aint for me. Bachelor Lifestyle...get down...or GET down
LOL at bolded- that was funny for some reason
I don't really know any happily married people anymore so I'm going to have to agree. -
why so they wont age like pork in the sun .....?
^^^^ And I'm corny.....?appreciate u displaying the feelings u caught ....
me cracking on ya corny ass=me liking guys ....? ? outta here u aging ass young ? .
You the one actin like I ? yo ? . -
^^^^ And I'm corny.....?
You the one actin like I ? yo ? .
lame ass .... quit catching feelings wit ya old ass .... ? old enought to be my pops but actin like a lil ? .... SMH -
lame ass .... quit catching feelings wit ya old ass .... ? old enought to be my pops but actin like a lil ? .... SMH
Good chance I am. -
very very wise advice. and coming from a married man with children makes it even more worthy of consideration.
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My mom said some ? like that too, she told me no man should even think about getting married in his 20s.
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at the very least another 2 years...
we real super selfish with our time right now...
i mean even with wedding planning, and me trying to get back intoschool ? gonna be jectic, but we both realize the next 2 years or so is going to be the best time for us, and the only time we truly have to ourselves..
so we do a lotta just us ? and say ? everyone else right now...
when u start adding kids, and too much family & social activities in the mix...it's harder to spend personal QT with eachother, so we tryna maximize that out right now
I never understood why couples wanna have a child right after they get married. Then be mad 10 years later cause they didn't get to do couple ? . -
stilldat_dude wrote: »I never understood why couples wanna have a child right after they get married. Then be mad 10 years later cause they didn't get to do couple ? .
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stilldat_dude wrote: »I never understood why couples wanna have a child right after they get married. Then be mad 10 years later cause they didn't get to do couple ? .
right....depending on how the next 2 years go.. ? ...we might hold back even longer.. i wanna go on some trips... -
Woooow... sounds about correct.. my dad said that to me at age 12.. suggested I get a vasectomy (i didn't)... both my parents been trying to ditch me since age 8! lived with a lot of different people growing up. My aunt raised me...
don't feel bad champ... Kids i might do if I have to.. I like kids, as long as they have respect and basic manners. kids are cool w/me.
Now marriage on the other hand... NO THANK YOU -
i'm still getting married.....
We know ? ...
Long as I get my invite and that list I ask for from CrySxyCool, things will go as "planned".... -
i'm still getting married.....
*salutes*
ya'll betta not never get divorced...........I'll counsel the both of ya'll with a pistol to make ya'll stay together -
right....depending on how the next 2 years go.. ? ...we might hold back even longer.. i wanna go on some trips...
that's a good idea. You can still have fun but it's different when you gotta make plans and make plans for your kids too. good luck du! -
LOL at dudes still thinking marriage is about love
Marriage is a business move, you marry someone because you have a dependant person that will hold you down, can communicate with you well and yall share similar future goals. Also you have 100% trust in this person.
If those 4 things arent in the equation, the situation should not equal marriage..? all that love and romance ?
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nthngis4vr& alwyzisalie wrote: »that's a good idea. You can still have fun but it's different when you gotta make plans and make plans for your kids too. good luck du!
thankya darling -
I know he cares about us or he woulda left like 10 million other black fathers
He just says weird ? from time to time -
LOL at dudes still thinking marriage is about love
Marriage is a business move, you marry someone because you have a dependant person that will hold you down, can communicate with you well and yall share similar future goals. Also you have 100% trust in this person.
If those 4 things arent in the equation, the situation should not equal marriage..? all that love and romance ?
<~~married dude
so how many times a year do you have sex with your wife -
Yo, for real? I'm kinda older than a lot of people on here (mid-late 30's) and don't say a whole lot (I prefer to be entertained) but I wanted to weigh in on this one. My parents never said anything like this to me but I know that ? forbid, if anything ever happened with me n my wife (almost 10 years now), I would NEEEVVVVEEERRR do this again with someone else. I will do everything in my power to make us work until one of us is dead and gone, but I can say with absolute certainty that the amount of effort it takes is not something I am willing to invest in anyone else, ever again. One and done.
Marriage is a business move, you marry someone because you have a dependant person that will hold you down, can communicate with you well and yall share similar future goals. Also you have 100% trust in this person.
Agreed, to an extent. Love and attraction help to get you started and then the rest keeps it moving. 100% trust might be impossible (like the "perfect man/woman")---but a good 90% is very helpful, if not absolutely necessary. -
American Loo VII 3D wrote: »That wasnt meant as a diss. but sometimes the truth can be so sharp its like a knife.
there are millions of ppl that love their families yet secretly wish they could do it all over
I think this is true! His pops could have just left...at least he stuck around even tho he secretly feels that way!
TS your pops good people even if that ? stung a little. -
King Erauno wrote: »so how many times a year do you have sex with your wife
Too much math involved in that, id say at the minimum we have sex 3 times a week
Been married 2 years now, no kids, im 23
Du, from your posts i've read it seem like your mind right, i wish you the best
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