should single moms remain single until their kids are older?

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  • Copper
    Copper Members Posts: 49,532 ✭✭✭✭✭
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    No there not....

    I know 3 people personally that left their kids with their new man and in one case the man beat the child to death the other two was sexually abused..

    nothing happened to them except a pity party

  • whatevathehell
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    should anybody other than a single mom really have an opinion on this?

    but to answer the ? no..
    In fact I think it would be better for everybody(her and the kids) if she had at least a ? buddy to release some of that tension....she would be aggy as ? without.
  • Kat
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    ^^ I agree with that, not just for the sexual release but also for the companionship.
  • whatevathehell
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    zombie wrote: »
    yes
    unwack me you ? .
  • fuc_i_look_like
    fuc_i_look_like Members Posts: 9,190 ✭✭✭✭✭
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    These hoes aint gonna listen tho.
  • zombie
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    zombie wrote: »
    yes
    unwack me you ? .

    don't confuse me for your father you ? made ?
  • fuc_i_look_like
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    Kat wrote: »
    ^^ I agree with that, not just for the sexual release but also for the companionship.

    But thats how yall became single mothers in the first place
  • MARIO_DRO
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    Kat wrote: »
    Alot of women date solely for the free babysitting.

    I have an acquaintance like that...she has a daughter too.

    I just smh @ that.

    WHAT?!?!?!

    SO SHE DATES DUDES JUST SO HE CAN WATCH HER KID WHEN SHE WANTS TO GO OUT?
  • Copper
    Copper Members Posts: 49,532 ✭✭✭✭✭
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    some ? in here be so anxious to get co-signs from female posters they come off sounding like ?
  • Kat
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    Kat wrote: »
    Alot of women date solely for the free babysitting.

    I have an acquaintance like that...she has a daughter too.

    I just smh @ that.

    WHAT?!?!?!

    SO SHE DATES DUDES JUST SO HE CAN WATCH HER KID WHEN SHE WANTS TO GO OUT?

    Nah, more for like when she has to work. She leaves her daughter with babysitters alot in general though.

    I don't trust people enough for that type of ? . Daycare is bad enough but at least I knew there were plenty of witnesses.
  • MARIO_DRO
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    Kat wrote: »
    Kat wrote: »
    Alot of women date solely for the free babysitting.

    I have an acquaintance like that...she has a daughter too.

    I just smh @ that.

    WHAT?!?!?!

    SO SHE DATES DUDES JUST SO HE CAN WATCH HER KID WHEN SHE WANTS TO GO OUT?

    Nah, more for like when she has to work. She leaves her daughter with babysitters alot in general though.

    I don't trust people enough for that type of ? . Daycare is bad enough but at least I knew there were plenty of witnesses.

    YOU CANT WATCH HER CHILD?.. OR ATLEAST GET PAID TO DO SO?
  • atribecalledgabi
    atribecalledgabi Members, Moderators Posts: 14,063 Regulator
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    Piyonce wrote: »
    No but they should be a lot more cautious/aware of the men they bring around their kids. Too much ? tomfoolery afoot to be introducing kids all ? nilly.

    everything posted after this is just ? liking the sounds of their keys clicking really
  • deadeye
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    Kat wrote: »
    mama gotta have a life too.

    ;)



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    @Omega_Conflict

  • Kwan Dai
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    I don't think Men or Women should be introducing BF and GF to their children. Soon to be spouses or spouses only.
  • DNB1
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    Sounds stupid to me.

    So yo life stops because the father of yo kids left you so no more dating until there 18?

    However, single mothers shouldn't be so desperate to settle with the first ? that wants to beat and don't mind the fact she got kids. This also is stupid but is happening every day.
  • Mike.
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    Kwan Dai wrote: »
    I don't think Men or Women should be introducing BF and GF to their children. Soon to be spouses or spouses only.
    why do say that my moms been with the same ? since i was eight and they'll never be married and i met him the same day she met him
  • Kat
    Kat Members Posts: 50,667 ✭✭✭✭✭
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    Kat wrote: »
    Kat wrote: »
    Alot of women date solely for the free babysitting.

    I have an acquaintance like that...she has a daughter too.

    I just smh @ that.

    WHAT?!?!?!

    SO SHE DATES DUDES JUST SO HE CAN WATCH HER KID WHEN SHE WANTS TO GO OUT?

    Nah, more for like when she has to work. She leaves her daughter with babysitters alot in general though.

    I don't trust people enough for that type of ? . Daycare is bad enough but at least I knew there were plenty of witnesses.

    YOU CANT WATCH HER CHILD?.. OR ATLEAST GET PAID TO DO SO?

    I've offered to do it for free many times cause her daughter is my daughter's age and they like each other.

    She's never taken me up on it so I don't know what the deal is there.

    Whatever.
  • MARIO_DRO
    MARIO_DRO Members Posts: 14,425 ✭✭✭✭✭
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    Kat wrote: »
    Kat wrote: »
    Kat wrote: »
    Alot of women date solely for the free babysitting.

    I have an acquaintance like that...she has a daughter too.

    I just smh @ that.

    WHAT?!?!?!

    SO SHE DATES DUDES JUST SO HE CAN WATCH HER KID WHEN SHE WANTS TO GO OUT?

    Nah, more for like when she has to work. She leaves her daughter with babysitters alot in general though.

    I don't trust people enough for that type of ? . Daycare is bad enough but at least I knew there were plenty of witnesses.

    YOU CANT WATCH HER CHILD?.. OR ATLEAST GET PAID TO DO SO?

    I've offered to do it for free many times cause her daughter is my daughter's age and they like each other.

    She's never taken me up on it so I don't know what the deal is there.

    Whatever.

    PROBABLY DONT TRUST YOU, OR THINKS THAT YALL GOT ROACHES...
  • deadeye
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    Star Nine wrote: »
    Copper wrote: »
    Take it one step further...

    Should women be charged with child endangerment when they leave the child with these molestors/ abusers?

    you know single mothers cant be held accountable for their actions


    @desertrain10

  • Kat
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    Man please..our house is spotless, and she already told me one of her babysitter's has bedbugs in her apartment.

    I'm thinking she just doesn't want to make that drive when there are closer options.
  • Kwan Dai
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    Kwan Dai wrote: »
    I don't think Men or Women should be introducing BF and GF to their children. Soon to be spouses or spouses only.
    why do say that my moms been with the same ? since i was eight and they'll never be married and i met him the same day she met him

    Reread what you typed and you tell me.

  • Recaptimus_Prime360
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    @ are you leaving yo child alone wit a ? you don't even fully know???
  • Kwan Dai
    Kwan Dai Members Posts: 6,929 ✭✭✭✭✭
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    There is so much focus on the extreme cases. However, there is a such thing as perception or even conditioning. Especially if it's something that has been going on over time. Doing the turnstile thing wreaks of insecurity, and instability.