should single moms remain single until their kids are older?
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its not that he wont marry her she wont marry him if thats what you mean
and they just a longstanding relationship not everyone gets married
im 23 now and i met him a 8 -
It Ain't Ralph Doe wrote: »
its not that he wont marry her she wont marry him if thats what you mean
and they just a longstanding relationship not everyone gets married
im 23 now and i met him a 8
Let's just leave it at, it's my opinion. That's peace. I'm glad things worked out for moms and yourself.
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some ? in here be so anxious to get co-signs from female posters they come off sounding like ?
so what you really expect these broads to do, just sit around and play with themselves till the child grow up or die?
you ? ? me with this petty ? . Man, these ? aint did nothing to you. If they aint ya thang then dont be bothered with em. Its like crucifying crackheads, what the ? for, let em live.
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Sounds stupid to me.
So yo life stops because the father of yo kids left you so no more dating until there 18?
However, single mothers shouldn't be so desperate to settle with the first ? that wants to beat and don't mind the fact she got kids. This also is stupid but is happening every day.
I agree with everything except the bolded....come on now, if ya credit aint perfect then you gotta take whateva ride you can get ya dig? -
Yes, the safety of children is petty as ? ...
The mothers ? is what really matters... -
It Ain't Ralph Doe wrote: »
its not that he wont marry her she wont marry him if thats what you mean
and they just a longstanding relationship not everyone gets married
im 23 now and i met him a 8
Exactly.
The point of all this is, make a smart choice and don't be having various dudes running through your house in front of your kids.
Get to know him first, then introduce the kid/kids.
Waiting till you're damn near married to meet the kids? That's ? . -
No there not....
I know 3 people personally that left their kids with their new man and in one case the man beat the child to death the other two was sexually abused..
nothing happened to them except a pity party
Maybe it's different on Texas
And WTF ??? Three people you know personally ??? I hope you don't associate yourself with them anymore -
Probably off topic. But what is the purpose of staying with a person long term if the intent isn't marriage. I find rather idiotic to not want marriage but want a long term relationship. Especially from a Man's perspective.
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Marriage isn't for everyone ....
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It Ain't Ralph Doe wrote: »
its not that he wont marry her she wont marry him if thats what you mean
and they just a longstanding relationship not everyone gets married
im 23 now and i met him a 8
Exactly.
The point of all this is, make a smart choice and don't be having various dudes running through your house in front of your kids.
Get to know him first, then introduce the kid/kids.
Waiting till you're damn near married to meet the kids? That's ? .
How is this ? when children have nothing to do with your relationship? If, it's something you want fine but I find it rather selfish dragging people in that don't have a choice in the matter.
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Probably off topic. But what is the purpose of staying with a person long term if the intent isn't marriage. I find rather idiotic to not want marriage but want a long term relationship. Especially from a Man's perspective.
And that's your right to feel that way, just know that everybody is different. -
Probably off topic. But what is the purpose of staying with a person long term if the intent isn't marriage. I find rather idiotic to not want marriage but want a long term relationship. Especially from a Man's perspective.
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funny b/c I didn't name nameswhatevathehell wrote: »some ? in here be so anxious to get co-signs from female posters they come off sounding like ?
so what you really expect these broads to do, just sit around and play with themselves till the child grow up or die?
you ? ? me with this petty ? . Man, these ? aint did nothing to you. If they aint ya thang then dont be bothered with em. Its like crucifying crackheads, what the ? for, let em live.
nowhere did I say they should wait till the child grows up...but I expect them to put their kids b4 busting a nut and act like responsible individuals with kids to raise....
animals don't leave their kids around someone they don't know ..yet these hoesMsSouthern wrote: »No there not....
I know 3 people personally that left their kids with their new man and in one case the man beat the child to death the other two was sexually abused..
nothing happened to them except a pity party
Maybe it's different on Texas
And WTF ??? Three people you know personally ??? I hope you don't associate yourself with them anymore
1 was a classmate from back in the day
1 is a cousin actually ( she actually checked her kid out of school to see this man after he molested her and was on his was back to prison)
and the other was my mothers co-worker -
ThirdEyeFive wrote: »Yes, the safety of children is petty as ? ...
The mothers ? is what really matters...
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this guy.......... -
Yeah they ain't got nothing but baggage and another ? kid to bring to the table, who would sign up for that? ?
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Probably off topic. But what is the purpose of staying with a person long term if the intent isn't marriage. I find rather idiotic to not want marriage but want a long term relationship. Especially from a Man's perspective.
And that's your right to feel that way, just know that everybody is different.
Really? You think? Now could you be so kind as to explain the want for a long term monogamous relationship but not marriage?
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ThirdEyeFive wrote: »
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It Ain't Ralph Doe wrote: »
its not that he wont marry her she wont marry him if thats what you mean
and they just a longstanding relationship not everyone gets married
im 23 now and i met him a 8
Exactly.
The point of all this is, make a smart choice and don't be having various dudes running through your house in front of your kids.
Get to know him first, then introduce the kid/kids.
Waiting till you're damn near married to meet the kids? That's ? .
How is this ? when children have nothing to do with your relationship? If, it's something you want fine but I find it rather selfish dragging people in that don't have a choice in the matter.
You seem like the type of dude that would get with a single mother but you ain't trying to "play daddy".
It was very important to me how my daughter interacted with him and how he interacted with her.
Why would I invest all that time up to the point of engagement, just to find out he's not who I envision as a father figure? She may drive him crazy..he might want out.
I'm not saying introduce them right away, but IMO if you're going to be with me it's a package deal and I need to see that interaction.
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this remind me of that time when damobb2deep was like
"best way to a woman's heart is to win the kids over first"
or some ? like that..... -
-Divorce
-Lunch ?
-Her taking half
-Being labeled a SFLAN (sucka for love ass ? )
-Running into some ? in the street who tell you they used to gang bang her raw
etc.
A lot of these ? are terrified. -
<--- no belief in religion and no respect for the law..
so get married for what!!?
<--- married to The Game.. -
It Ain't Ralph Doe wrote: »
its not that he wont marry her she wont marry him if thats what you mean
and they just a longstanding relationship not everyone gets married
im 23 now and i met him a 8
Exactly.
The point of all this is, make a smart choice and don't be having various dudes running through your house in front of your kids.
Get to know him first, then introduce the kid/kids.
Waiting till you're damn near married to meet the kids? That's ? .
How is this ? when children have nothing to do with your relationship? If, it's something you want fine but I find it rather selfish dragging people in that don't have a choice in the matter.
You seem like the type of dude that would get with a single mother but you ain't trying to "play daddy".
It was very important to me how my daughter interacted with him and how he interacted with her.
Why would I invest all that time up to the point of engagement, just to find out he's not who I envision as a father figure? She may drive him crazy..he might want out.
I'm not saying introduce them right away, but IMO if you're going to be with me it's a package deal and I need to see that interaction.
I just don't believe that a Man or Woman needs to meet the children to find out if they are in fact father or mother material. I believe a man or woman of sound mind could come to healthy conclusion through conversation and time spent.
Well I am not that type. I am the type that wouldn't get involve with a woman who has children without marriage being the intended outcome.
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BOSSExcellence wrote: »<--- no belief in religion and no respect for the law..
so get married for what!!?
<--- married to The Game..
you talkin like a pisces right now
oh wait..
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Yeah they ain't got nothing but baggage and another ? kid to bring to the table, who would sign up for that? ?
Same opinion on single dads I assume ?
