The changing reasons why women cheat on their husbands (Article inside)
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Short answer: Females are indecisive ? .
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All im saying is stay single and ? down all these cheating wives.
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monogamy isnt real..EmM HoLLa. wrote: »
SMH @ someone's wife cosigning both these statements
@Kat would u like to share with the group
why even get married if u feel like this?
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How you know he doesn't feel the same?
Why question me?
If everyone lived their own truth without worrying about what works for the next person we'd be in a better place. -
How you know he doesn't feel the same?
Why question me?
If everyone lived their own truth without worrying about what works for the next person we'd be in a better place.
Wait, what?
That's stupid as hell -
How you know he doesn't feel the same?
Why question me?
If everyone lived their own truth without worrying about what works for the next person we'd be in a better place.
I'm only questioning u cuz u post here
yeah I would def ask a dude why he would wife a chick that doesn't believe in monogamy
not sure what the deflection is for when I'm just asking ur opinion
why so serious? -
LEMZIMUS_RAMSEY wrote: »Men don't give the women what they want or need. I've seen many marriages end up being blamed on the man for various reasons. Two of those reasons that are high on the list - sex and communication.
There's no human connections. Everything today is expressed through social media; birthdays, anniversaries, vacations, baby announcements etc. ? seems to have lost its value in the journey for likes, shares and the hope your video or message goes viral. I tell my wife happy birthday w a kiss, hug and some ? I'll do for her. I don't say ? on FB.
Men don't even need women to get pleasure, either. These married men are popping open web browsers and searching up porn fantasies to get off bc wifey ain't doing ? . She's out cheating bc he can't ? or just ain't ? at all.
It's all a lack of deep connection to each other. People don't realize that it doesn't just happen, you have to consistently work on that everyday. Compromise is also something many people don't understand. They're too immature and ? about ? .
I've been w my wife since I was 15. I'm going to be 31 this year. 17 yrs together. 9 yrs married. 6 kids. She works. I stay at home. We have been through open heart surgeries w my 2nd son, which was hell for the first 3 yrs. Then, our 5th son was born and he has allergies, eczema & asthma, and that's a ? load of work, too.
Even through that and typical ? , our sex lives are top notch. Sex every day, every week, every month. We can talk for hours. Humor is on point. We just click. Always have. We are both mature and just don't care to devote our time or energy to ? . Instead of arguing we get angry, don't talk, then talk it out when tempers are cooled. Even then, we hardly ever have any kind of issues with each other. Average argument, fight or being mad at each other is like once a month - if that.
People just don't care to devote time to someone else. Everything is about them. Social media has created this selfish "me, me, me" idea. You have ppl marrying themselves now. Why marry someone when you don't want to work on ? , not even yourself?
I don't get what's hard about being mature and being able to rationally understand and work things out that are necessary in a relationship.
A society addicted to pleasure and perfection doenst understand nor gives a damn about what you are explaning.
In the same situation 9 couples out of ten would have broken up.
We have been to PC:
- when you suck you have been told that you are hated on,
- when you overspend you have been told that its the gov's fault you deserve more money
- you fat /ugly as ? but you are chasing 8s and beyond because what counts is inner beauty,
- you have no relationship values or knowledge but you deserve to have a good longlasting couple
- you wake up every 10 am but you ve been told that you gon be bill Gates or Schwarzeneger
- you have been told that you are not suppose to feel any type and inch of pain.
Pain. Rejection. Not today. No. You dont deserve. You cannot have it if you dont put in work. Your work is ? plain and simple. You sex game is not that good. You need to go to the gym. Stop eating like a pig.
All these harsh but necesary phrases are not tolerated and accepted in our pleasure society.
These words have made the Jordans, the Steve Jobs of the wolrd.
Muthafuckas all get trophies now a days. When I was a kid you were a loser till you worked up to the point where you earned a trophy. Once you earned it you won but if you didn't earn it tough ? and better luck next time. You were better for it in the end. Teaches you perseverance and inner and outer strength.
My little niece right now is mad cause she's a quitter. She's not organized and throws stuff around her room then gets aggy when she can't find ? .
I just brought her home from school and she wants to watch TV but can't find the remote. I tell her "look under your bed, look on the floor next to the bed, under your blanket, under you pillows" she looked under the bed as she did I spotted it under the pillow and didn't say ? .
She gets back up and goes "I can't find it can I use yours?" I say "nope" then she hits me with the "please!" I say "If you really wanted it you'd still be looking for it. Since you gave up you'll never find it and left."
See even though she was right next to me she never finished listening to me. Even though I had communicated the solution to her dilemma "under the pillows". Instead she heard "under the bed" snapped right into that action and tuned me out altogether which didn't serve her well in the end.
A few minutes later she comes to my room and I kick her out cause I'm watching Friday the 13th part something. I find her in her room a few minutes later sleeping. She didn't bother to continue searching. She didn't get instant gratification or my help so she fell asleep upset.
It's all good. She had a field trip and a long day. Rest will serve her better than TV right now. She might even wake back up with the motivation to do something about it.
The point of this rambling antidote is this. She's 7 years old. Age and inexperience is her excuse. However what is the excuse of the adults who conduct themselves with that same level of impatience and entitlement? You see way too much of that today and then these muthafuckas wonder why they suck at life and relationships.
Everybody want to be a winner but nobody wants to earn the victory. If you can't at least build up the house how do you expect it to stand? By expecting someone to build it for you? Ha! Good luck.
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blakfyahking wrote: »How you know he doesn't feel the same?
Why question me?
If everyone lived their own truth without worrying about what works for the next person we'd be in a better place.
I'm only questioning u cuz u post here
yeah I would def ask a dude why he would wife a chick that doesn't believe in monogamy
not sure what the deflection is for when I'm just asking ur opinion
why so serious?
Cause I thought this was a serious thread.
I think some people manage monogamy, but I also think the inability ends alot of relationships.
I don't feel like it should. He could ? someone this weekend while he's out of town and it wouldn't be the end of our relationship. Unless he knocked the ? up. -
LEMZIMUS_RAMSEY wrote: »Men don't give the women what they want or need. I've seen many marriages end up being blamed on the man for various reasons. Two of those reasons that are high on the list - sex and communication.
There's no human connections. Everything today is expressed through social media; birthdays, anniversaries, vacations, baby announcements etc. ? seems to have lost its value in the journey for likes, shares and the hope your video or message goes viral. I tell my wife happy birthday w a kiss, hug and some ? I'll do for her. I don't say ? on FB.
Men don't even need women to get pleasure, either. These married men are popping open web browsers and searching up porn fantasies to get off bc wifey ain't doing ? . She's out cheating bc he can't ? or just ain't ? at all.
It's all a lack of deep connection to each other. People don't realize that it doesn't just happen, you have to consistently work on that everyday. Compromise is also something many people don't understand. They're too immature and ? about ? .
I've been w my wife since I was 15. I'm going to be 31 this year. 17 yrs together. 9 yrs married. 6 kids. She works. I stay at home. We have been through open heart surgeries w my 2nd son, which was hell for the first 3 yrs. Then, our 5th son was born and he has allergies, eczema & asthma, and that's a ? load of work, too.
Even through that and typical ? , our sex lives are top notch. Sex every day, every week, every month. We can talk for hours. Humor is on point. We just click. Always have. We are both mature and just don't care to devote our time or energy to ? . Instead of arguing we get angry, don't talk, then talk it out when tempers are cooled. Even then, we hardly ever have any kind of issues with each other. Average argument, fight or being mad at each other is like once a month - if that.
People just don't care to devote time to someone else. Everything is about them. Social media has created this selfish "me, me, me" idea. You have ppl marrying themselves now. Why marry someone when you don't want to work on ? , not even yourself?
I don't get what's hard about being mature and being able to rationally understand and work things out that are necessary in a relationship.
A society addicted to pleasure and perfection doenst understand nor gives a damn about what you are explaning.
In the same situation 9 couples out of ten would have broken up.
We have been to PC:
- when you suck you have been told that you are hated on,
- when you overspend you have been told that its the gov's fault you deserve more money
- you fat /ugly as ? but you are chasing 8s and beyond because what counts is inner beauty,
- you have no relationship values or knowledge but you deserve to have a good longlasting couple
- you wake up every 10 am but you ve been told that you gon be bill Gates or Schwarzeneger
- you have been told that you are not suppose to feel any type and inch of pain.
Pain. Rejection. Not today. No. You dont deserve. You cannot have it if you dont put in work. Your work is ? plain and simple. You sex game is not that good. You need to go to the gym. Stop eating like a pig.
All these harsh but necesary phrases are not tolerated and accepted in our pleasure society.
These words have made the Jordans, the Steve Jobs of the wolrd.
Muthafuckas all get trophies now a days. When I was a kid you were a loser till you worked up to the point where you earned a trophy. Once you earned it you won but if you didn't earn it tough ? and better luck next time. You were better for it in the end. Teaches you perseverance and inner and outer strength.
My little niece right now is mad cause she's a quitter. She's not organized and throws stuff around her room then gets aggy when she can't find ? .
I just brought her home from school and she wants to watch TV but can't find the remote. I tell her "look under your bed, look on the floor next to the bed, under your blanket, under you pillows" she looked under the bed as she did I spotted it under the pillow and didn't say ? .
She gets back up and goes "I can't find it can I use yours?" I say "nope" then she hits me with the "please!" I say "If you really wanted it you'd still be looking for it. Since you gave up you'll never find it and left."
See even though she was right next to me she never finished listening to me. Even though I had communicated the solution to her dilemma "under the pillows". Instead she heard "under the bed" snapped right into that action and tuned me out altogether which didn't serve her well in the end.
A few minutes later she comes to my room and I kick her out cause I'm watching Friday the 13th part something. I find her in her room a few minutes later sleeping. She didn't bother to continue searching. She didn't get instant gratification or my help so she fell asleep upset.
It's all good. She had a field trip and a long day. Rest will serve her better than TV right now. She might even wake back up with the motivation to do something about it.
The point of this rambling antidote is this. She's 7 years old. Age and inexperience is her excuse. However what is the excuse of the adults who conduct themselves with that same level of impatience and entitlement? You see way too much of that today and then these muthafuckas wonder why they suck at life and relationships.
Everybody want to be a winner but nobody wants to earn the victory. If you can't at least build up the house how do you expect it to stand? By expecting someone to build it for you? Ha! Good luck.
Keep up. Dont give up. Intensify that ype of education. She will thank you later.
People are daydreamers. They always want handouts. They always want to reap off one's hardwork. The terms effort and patience are disapearing.
Everything is getting simplified. Some things can, yet HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS didnt,dont and wont. How can you satisfy one another when you dont even take the time to ask?
They rather investigate on the sexual life of Amber Rose and take viagra, copycating the next sex and communication fad. And they dont understand why ? aint working.
Look how sad they are lying to themselves. The more you retouch your pics the more harsh your real appearence is. The more you lie on your skills and sex game the more impossible it is when you meet people in reality.
But they take their shot of
Likes
Retweets
Pic filter
Photoshop
Fastfood
Magic pills that are supposed to enhance your body and libido
These people are not wired to get married in its pure form.
All i see right now is DOWN LOW SWINGERS.
You see young couple going seperate ways the weekend and come back home acting like nobody did ? . When you got Sex and the city as your holy book you dont have to get married.
If Amber Rose is your Ayatollah dont get married.
And people ahould read the signs when they are dealing with somebody. Some people are just kamikazes.
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blakfyahking wrote: »How you know he doesn't feel the same?
Why question me?
If everyone lived their own truth without worrying about what works for the next person we'd be in a better place.
I'm only questioning u cuz u post here
yeah I would def ask a dude why he would wife a chick that doesn't believe in monogamy
not sure what the deflection is for when I'm just asking ur opinion
why so serious?
Cause I thought this was a serious thread.
I think some people manage monogamy, but I also think the inability ends alot of relationships.
I don't feel like it should. He could ? someone this weekend while he's out of town and it wouldn't be the end of our relationship. Unless he knocked the ? up.
I can understand the bolded
but I don't think it's monogamy that's the problem...........I think it's the lack of intimacy like we previously mentioned before in this thread
the lack of trust when someone allegedly "cheats" is what causes the lack of intimacy IMO, it ain't necessarily about whether someone is exclusive or not............otherwise emotional affairs wouldn't be able to do damage
why wouldn't u stay with ur husband if he got another woman pregnant? it sounds like u could be mature enough to make the sister-wife lifestyle work in ur favor -
blakfyahking wrote: »
Because the fear of being cheated on lead your brain to make you cheating first IN CASE. It can even make you accept cheating as something normal just to spare you the pain you are not acustomed to.
The fear of pain, the need of social validation make people do things they truly dont want to.
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blakfyahking wrote: »blakfyahking wrote: »How you know he doesn't feel the same?
Why question me?
If everyone lived their own truth without worrying about what works for the next person we'd be in a better place.
I'm only questioning u cuz u post here
yeah I would def ask a dude why he would wife a chick that doesn't believe in monogamy
not sure what the deflection is for when I'm just asking ur opinion
why so serious?
Cause I thought this was a serious thread.
I think some people manage monogamy, but I also think the inability ends alot of relationships.
I don't feel like it should. He could ? someone this weekend while he's out of town and it wouldn't be the end of our relationship. Unless he knocked the ? up.
I can understand the bolded
but I don't think it's monogamy that's the problem...........I think it's the lack of intimacy like we previously mentioned before in this thread
the lack of trust when someone allegedly "cheats" is what causes the lack of intimacy IMO, it ain't necessarily about whether someone is exclusive or not............otherwise emotional affairs wouldn't be able to do damage
the issue is that there was already "a lack of intimacy" before anyone decided to step out ....ppl not being honest with their needs insecurities or because they are afraid of being alone or too prideful or there is resentment there
cheating only makes it worstblakfyahking wrote: »why wouldn't u stay with ur husband if he got another woman pregnant? it sounds like u could be mature enough to make the sister-wife lifestyle work in ur favor
not sure if u are just trolling
but i'm assuming it would be because chances are he busted in another woman raw
if ur wife got pregnant by another man would you be able to make peace with what she did and the child right away?
infidelity isn't necessarily a deal breaker for me either, but there are unspoken rules... lines that shouldn't be crossed -
blakfyahking wrote: »blakfyahking wrote: »How you know he doesn't feel the same?
Why question me?
If everyone lived their own truth without worrying about what works for the next person we'd be in a better place.
I'm only questioning u cuz u post here
yeah I would def ask a dude why he would wife a chick that doesn't believe in monogamy
not sure what the deflection is for when I'm just asking ur opinion
why so serious?
Cause I thought this was a serious thread.
I think some people manage monogamy, but I also think the inability ends alot of relationships.
I don't feel like it should. He could ? someone this weekend while he's out of town and it wouldn't be the end of our relationship. Unless he knocked the ? up.
why wouldn't u stay with ur husband if he got another woman pregnant?
it sounds like u could be mature enough to make the sister-wife lifestyle work in ur favor
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Madame_CJSkywalker wrote: »blakfyahking wrote: »blakfyahking wrote: »How you know he doesn't feel the same?
Why question me?
If everyone lived their own truth without worrying about what works for the next person we'd be in a better place.
I'm only questioning u cuz u post here
yeah I would def ask a dude why he would wife a chick that doesn't believe in monogamy
not sure what the deflection is for when I'm just asking ur opinion
why so serious?
Cause I thought this was a serious thread.
I think some people manage monogamy, but I also think the inability ends alot of relationships.
I don't feel like it should. He could ? someone this weekend while he's out of town and it wouldn't be the end of our relationship. Unless he knocked the ? up.
I can understand the bolded
but I don't think it's monogamy that's the problem...........I think it's the lack of intimacy like we previously mentioned before in this thread
the lack of trust when someone allegedly "cheats" is what causes the lack of intimacy IMO, it ain't necessarily about whether someone is exclusive or not............otherwise emotional affairs wouldn't be able to do damage
the issue is that there was already "a lack of intimacy" before anyone decided to step out ....ppl not being honest with their needs insecurities or because they are afraid of being alone or too prideful or there is resentment there
cheating only makes it worstblakfyahking wrote: »why wouldn't u stay with ur husband if he got another woman pregnant? it sounds like u could be mature enough to make the sister-wife lifestyle work in ur favor
not sure if u are just trolling
but i'm assuming it would be because chances are he busted in another woman raw
if ur wife got pregnant by another man would you be able to make peace with what she did and the child right away?
infidelity isn't necessarily a deal breaker for me either, but there are unspoken rules... lines that shouldn't be crossed
I'm not trying to deal with another female like that, and that's also ? with our money. Plus I don't want to raise any more babies.
Sex is sex to me. I'm cool with my man ? for other women via strip clubs and porn, but actually acting on it occasionally is unfathomable? I just don't think like that and I don't feel like I should have to apologize for or justify that.
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LEMZIMUS_RAMSEY wrote: »blakfyahking wrote: »
Because the fear of being cheated on lead your brain to make you cheating first IN CASE. It can even make you accept cheating as something normal just to spare you the pain you are not acustomed to.
The fear of pain, the need of social validation make people do things they truly dont want to.
I feel that, especially the part of feeling like you need to act first just in case they decide to have you out here looking a fool. However, I'm not a rookie, him leaving me for another would cause pain. Him putting another first would cause pain.
Him having sex with another wouldn't be painful like that to me. That's just sex. We've all had sex both meaningful and meaningless. -
LOL @ getting married
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LEMZIMUS_RAMSEY wrote: »blakfyahking wrote: »
Because the fear of being cheated on lead your brain to make you cheating first IN CASE. It can even make you accept cheating as something normal just to spare you the pain you are not acustomed to.
The fear of pain, the need of social validation make people do things they truly dont want to.
I feel that, especially the part of feeling like you need to act first just in case they decide to have you out here looking a fool. However, I'm not a rookie, him leaving me for another would cause pain. Him putting another first would cause pain.
Him having sex with another wouldn't be painful like that to me. That's just sex. We've all had sex both meaningful and meaningless.
Good news Katherine : you got rid of that toxic NARSICISM. Being in love and the libido level of people are two different things. And the posdibility that you may not be enough, he may not be enough sexually speaking, exist. Especially in our porn culture.
Throughout our teenage we did have access to tons of men and women VISUALLY. We have been educated to change.
We may find true love and emotional bond. Yet our libido levels rise above. Some people can reduce it, most dont.
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Poly-life isn't an option?
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This whole thread just reaffirmed why MGTOW is needed out here.
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Women marry themselves now you aint heard?MoneyPowerRespect wrote: »Poly-life isn't an option?
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Women marry themselves now you aint heard?MoneyPowerRespect wrote: »Poly-life isn't an option?
I've heard, but still.
I think that more people are polyamorous, but hey.
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Madame_CJSkywalker wrote: »blakfyahking wrote: »blakfyahking wrote: »How you know he doesn't feel the same?
Why question me?
If everyone lived their own truth without worrying about what works for the next person we'd be in a better place.
I'm only questioning u cuz u post here
yeah I would def ask a dude why he would wife a chick that doesn't believe in monogamy
not sure what the deflection is for when I'm just asking ur opinion
why so serious?
Cause I thought this was a serious thread.
I think some people manage monogamy, but I also think the inability ends alot of relationships.
I don't feel like it should. He could ? someone this weekend while he's out of town and it wouldn't be the end of our relationship. Unless he knocked the ? up.
I can understand the bolded
but I don't think it's monogamy that's the problem...........I think it's the lack of intimacy like we previously mentioned before in this thread
the lack of trust when someone allegedly "cheats" is what causes the lack of intimacy IMO, it ain't necessarily about whether someone is exclusive or not............otherwise emotional affairs wouldn't be able to do damage
the issue is that there was already "a lack of intimacy" before anyone decided to step out ....ppl not being honest with their needs insecurities or because they are afraid of being alone or too prideful or there is resentment there
cheating only makes it worstblakfyahking wrote: »why wouldn't u stay with ur husband if he got another woman pregnant? it sounds like u could be mature enough to make the sister-wife lifestyle work in ur favor
not sure if u are just trolling
but i'm assuming it would be because chances are he busted in another woman raw
if ur wife got pregnant by another man would you be able to make peace with what she did and the child right away?
infidelity isn't necessarily a deal breaker for me either, but there are unspoken rules... lines that shouldn't be crossed
^^^ ur lack of real life experience is obvious every time u post shorty lol
ur quick to presume a lack of intimacy exists before people decide to step out, u never even consider that there are people in relationships where they can just come up short
so if u love ur s/o and communicate to them multiple times that u need something from them, then how long do u suffer before ur willing to "step out"? and remember we talking about marriage and all that comes with it, we ain't talking that bf/gf scenario
u saying it's unreasonable for someone to consider cheating instead of breaking up a whole household?
and ironically u say infidelity alone isn't a dealbreaker.........but "infidelity" means different things to different people
and if a woman is cool with her husband ? other women, why would busting raw make that much of difference?
and SMH @ thinking that a woman getting pregnant by another man brings the same burden to a relationship if it was flipped around
realistically if I got a side chick pregnant, my wife could essentially ignore the other chick and her issues
if my wife got pregnant by another dude, u really think that's equivalent when she live with me and I got to deal with all the extra issues a baby brings for a pregnant woman? -
blakfyahking wrote: »Madame_CJSkywalker wrote: »blakfyahking wrote: »blakfyahking wrote: »How you know he doesn't feel the same?
Why question me?
If everyone lived their own truth without worrying about what works for the next person we'd be in a better place.
I'm only questioning u cuz u post here
yeah I would def ask a dude why he would wife a chick that doesn't believe in monogamy
not sure what the deflection is for when I'm just asking ur opinion
why so serious?
Cause I thought this was a serious thread.
I think some people manage monogamy, but I also think the inability ends alot of relationships.
I don't feel like it should. He could ? someone this weekend while he's out of town and it wouldn't be the end of our relationship. Unless he knocked the ? up.
I can understand the bolded
but I don't think it's monogamy that's the problem...........I think it's the lack of intimacy like we previously mentioned before in this thread
the lack of trust when someone allegedly "cheats" is what causes the lack of intimacy IMO, it ain't necessarily about whether someone is exclusive or not............otherwise emotional affairs wouldn't be able to do damage
the issue is that there was already "a lack of intimacy" before anyone decided to step out ....ppl not being honest with their needs insecurities or because they are afraid of being alone or too prideful or there is resentment there
cheating only makes it worstblakfyahking wrote: »why wouldn't u stay with ur husband if he got another woman pregnant? it sounds like u could be mature enough to make the sister-wife lifestyle work in ur favor
not sure if u are just trolling
but i'm assuming it would be because chances are he busted in another woman raw
if ur wife got pregnant by another man would you be able to make peace with what she did and the child right away?
infidelity isn't necessarily a deal breaker for me either, but there are unspoken rules... lines that shouldn't be crossed
and if a woman is cool with her husband ? other dudes, why would busting raw make that much of difference?
and SMH @ thinking that a woman getting pregnant by another man brings the same burden to a relationship if it was flipped around
realistically if I got a side chick pregnant, my wife could essentially ignore the other chick and her issues
if my wife got pregnant by another dude, u really think that's equivalent when she live with me and I got to deal with all the extra issues a baby brings for a pregnant woman?
nh @ the bolded.
I'm sure it was a typo, but nh nonetheless.
Everything else was on point. -
props for catching that bruh
that ? looked extremely suspect
I ain't even catch it at 1st......I just read it again and was like wtf
desertrain was gon have a field day with that
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blakfyahking wrote: »props for catching that bruh
that ? looked extremely suspect
I ain't even catch it at 1st......I just read it again and was like wtf
desertrain was gon have a field day with that
kinda like you had a with me saying 1040?
its cool....even the best fukk up.
mind thinking one thing but you typing other ?
