The changing reasons why women cheat on their husbands (Article inside)
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People are oversexed. Married couples today have probably been ? two or three years before they got married. It's easy to get bored if you've been living like you married long before you actually are.
A lot of people think it's the fairy tale that ruins marriages, its not. What really ruins marriages is selfishness, and a lack of communication and diminished kindness.
There's a lot of studies on this. How you communicate and the little acts of kindness you do for your wife can do wonders for your sex life. Sex for women is mental, she has to feel desired and wanted, but she also has to desire you.
In my experience, bored housewives are just women who feel unappreciated at home. The hubby doesn't pay her any attention and they don't talk unless it's about sex or work.
Lack of communication and eroding closeness gives someone else time to squeeze in.
You gotta sacrifice some ? for her benefit. If you can give the NBA or the NFL 3 consecutive hours of your attention you can give your wife at least one a day. No phone or computer, no sex just chilling and shooting the ? .
I'm not married but the ? sounds simple to me, the social part of it anyway. The economics of marriage is different altogether. -
i guess im not that greedy.
i mean i might ..
nevermind.
imma stay outta this ? -
2stepz_ahead wrote: »@LordZuko bout to come in here an ? it.
an he will have very valid points.
an i will agree with him.
he once said a woman loves what you can do for her and a man loves the woman.
that ? is ether for a ? soul cuz its true in most cases.
What else is there to say tho?
I gathered information and formed my opinions for how best i should proceed in life. ? can read research and come to their own conclusions.
If they decide after getting the facts about females basically being a bunch of opportunistic ? , that they should go on ahead and get contractually bound to one or procreate with one, who am i to tell them different?
Why So Many Women Cheat
https://youtu.be/xayhyKEfv4k
From a black and white perspective
An article on the ?
https://www.thecut.com/2017/09/why-women-cheat-esther-perel-state-of-affairs.html?utm_source=eml&utm_medium=e1&utm_campaign=sharebutton-t -
LEMZIMUS_RAMSEY wrote: »heres the thing, in this article that I skimmed, it says thay women want to he sexually satisfied.
here is my issue, as a dude, I'm personally never sexually satisfied ? the same girl after a while no matter how good she is.
she could be a true dime, ? a steak up, and ride ? like a porn star, but after ? her multiple times a week for months, im bored and wont be satisfied regardless of how good she is.
If these women from this article feel like I do, then there isnt anything anyone could do.
Over 245 sex positions available and thousands of different scenarios that could be played out in or outside the bedroom (ie: bringing another girl, role play etc.) Only reason people get bored when they have a fruitful sexlife within a coupling is cause they're straight up nymphos. No disrespect.
Porn wired people.
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2stepz_ahead wrote: »@LordZuko bout to come in here an ? it.
an he will have very valid points.
an i will agree with him.
he once said a woman loves what you can do for her and a man loves the woman.
that ? is ether for a ? soul cuz its true in most cases.
What else is there to say tho?
I gathered information and formed my opinions for how best i should proceed in life. ? can read research and come to their own conclusions.
If they decide after getting the facts about females basically being a bunch of opportunistic ? , that they should go on ahead and get contractually bound to one or procreate with one, who am i to tell them different?
Why So Many Women Cheathttps://youtu.be/xayhyKEfv4k
From a black and white perspective
An article on the ?
https://www.thecut.com/2017/09/why-women-cheat-esther-perel-state-of-affairs.html?utm_source=eml&utm_medium=e1&utm_campaign=sharebutton-t
yo this is some selfish sounding ?
? said outsourced -
yo that video......smdh and wow
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Men don't give the women what they want or need. I've seen many marriages end up being blamed on the man for various reasons. Two of those reasons that are high on the list - sex and communication.
There's no human connections. Everything today is expressed through social media; birthdays, anniversaries, vacations, baby announcements etc. ? seems to have lost its value in the journey for likes, shares and the hope your video or message goes viral. I tell my wife happy birthday w a kiss, hug and some ? I'll do for her. I don't say ? on FB.
Men don't even need women to get pleasure, either. These married men are popping open web browsers and searching up porn fantasies to get off bc wifey ain't doing ? . She's out cheating bc he can't ? or just ain't ? at all.
It's all a lack of deep connection to each other. People don't realize that it doesn't just happen, you have to consistently work on that everyday. Compromise is also something many people don't understand. They're too immature and ? about ? .
I've been w my wife since I was 15. I'm going to be 31 this year. 17 yrs together. 9 yrs married. 6 kids. She works. I stay at home. We have been through open heart surgeries w my 2nd son, which was hell for the first 3 yrs. Then, our 5th son was born and he has allergies, eczema & asthma, and that's a ? load of work, too.
Even through that and typical ? , our sex lives are top notch. Sex every day, every week, every month. We can talk for hours. Humor is on point. We just click. Always have. We are both mature and just don't care to devote our time or energy to ? . Instead of arguing we get angry, don't talk, then talk it out when tempers are cooled. Even then, we hardly ever have any kind of issues with each other. Average argument, fight or being mad at each other is like once a month - if that.
People just don't care to devote time to someone else. Everything is about them. Social media has created this selfish "me, me, me" idea. You have ppl marrying themselves now. Why marry someone when you don't want to work on ? , not even yourself?
I don't get what's hard about being mature and being able to rationally understand and work things out that are necessary in a relationship.
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Rofl...im dyingatribecalledgabi wrote: »DoUwant2go2Heaven wrote: »
? done tricked you good.
SMH.
Didnt read but the last sentence caught my eye.
The irony of a religious zealot telling somebody else ? tricked them
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Zimbardos the decline of guys come true.
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Will Munny wrote: »I think people do ? too early in relationships and after that theres just nothing to look forward to. ? should not be allowed until atleast year 5 of marriage.
Well if ur ? period u can get head
But sometimes u just wana bust her ? wide open
Somebody @ Westie for me.
I'd like to hear her thoughts on the bolded. -
People are saying everything but not acknowledging that marriage is not natural. You don't need to be married to have a a family structure. Marriage is archaic and people are closed minded. People still need their space and too much of a person can another you. There are no set guidelines to relationships or marriage. Too many outside forces interfere and that also contributes to break ups or people straying.
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count remy wrote: »who the ? cares why she cheats. Tell her to come over, do what you gotta do with her then, send her back to her ? dishes. It's a win win win situation.
True.
For most men, the relationship would be over as soon as they found out about it.
However, some men want explanations.
Case in point, the gentleman in this video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3pkN0XW77qI
Sad ? . -
count remy wrote: »who the ? cares why she cheats. Tell her to come over, do what you gotta do with her then, send her back to her ? dishes. It's a win win win situation.
True.
For most men, the relationship would be over as soon as they found out about it.
However, some men want explanations.
Case in point, the gentleman in this video:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3pkN0XW77qI
Sad ? .
imma be that ? .
i would want an explanation too.
i might just be the one that allowed a ? in. unlike most of yall....i might have needed to be checked an ignored her previous check attempts.
now if it wasnt cause i was ? up or some ? .....then...after she done talking....imma pour alcohol on all the computers and walk out with nothing but my sanity.
cuz imma bout to ? her ass so i need to get away -
I guess... so u cool with the way ? headed? -
Men don't give the women what they want or need. I've seen many marriages end up being blamed on the man for various reasons. Two of those reasons that are high on the list - sex and communication.
There's no human connections. Everything today is expressed through social media; birthdays, anniversaries, vacations, baby announcements etc. ? seems to have lost its value in the journey for likes, shares and the hope your video or message goes viral. I tell my wife happy birthday w a kiss, hug and some ? I'll do for her. I don't say ? on FB.
Men don't even need women to get pleasure, either. These married men are popping open web browsers and searching up porn fantasies to get off bc wifey ain't doing ? . She's out cheating bc he can't ? or just ain't ? at all.
It's all a lack of deep connection to each other. People don't realize that it doesn't just happen, you have to consistently work on that everyday. Compromise is also something many people don't understand. They're too immature and ? about ? .
I've been w my wife since I was 15. I'm going to be 31 this year. 17 yrs together. 9 yrs married. 6 kids. She works. I stay at home. We have been through open heart surgeries w my 2nd son, which was hell for the first 3 yrs. Then, our 5th son was born and he has allergies, eczema & asthma, and that's a ? load of work, too.
Even through that and typical ? , our sex lives are top notch. Sex every day, every week, every month. We can talk for hours. Humor is on point. We just click. Always have. We are both mature and just don't care to devote our time or energy to ? . Instead of arguing we get angry, don't talk, then talk it out when tempers are cooled. Even then, we hardly ever have any kind of issues with each other. Average argument, fight or being mad at each other is like once a month - if that.
People just don't care to devote time to someone else. Everything is about them. Social media has created this selfish "me, me, me" idea. You have ppl marrying themselves now. Why marry someone when you don't want to work on ? , not even yourself?
I don't get what's hard about being mature and being able to rationally understand and work things out that are necessary in a relationship.
Real talk.
Take a holistic approach to finding out why relationships fail and you'll see it.
Every generation is becoming more selfish than the previous one, they also have more access via technology.
In my grandmother's day, it would be obvious something was up. Your spouse would be gone for hours. Few people had cars or telephones so you had to put real effort into cheating.
My parent's day, you had to watch the phones and keep track of how long someone is outside of the of the house.
The generation of my older cousins had beepers, sex chat lines and rudimentary internet. Nobody knew what you were doing. It made cheating and hiding easier.
Today, a spouse could be cheating or plotting to cheat and be sitting right next to you. Everybody got their own phone now with codes to prevent people from snooping. Social media accounts are private, so are email addresses, there is no way for you to know anymore.
Technology is isolating people from everyone else and that includes spouses. The divide has been created. People are becoming more and more selfish, and given more opportunities to cheat or to "browse."
With the advent of FB and Instagram people get to gloat about the happy side of relationships while hiding the underbelly. It gives people that are watching or following you the perception that ? all good.
"The grass is always greener..." and now with FB and ? that saying has never been more true. You see family pics like things are all good.
Anecdotes:
My homeboy posted a pic of his two daughters and one of his BMs. They grinning and ? , you think things going lovely.
Meanwhile, they not even together. In fact, she been cheating and he moved on to someone else.
Another story.
A frat brother's wife is posting pics of them and their kid online. She grinning and happy asf. The pic is brand new.
Meanwhile he tell me that she got post-pardum depression and that's the only time his wife really smiled that week. She been sleeping and crying all the time. He stressed out having to take care of a newborn baby by himself.
Relationships are not easy, ? hard asf. But if you want it to work it can.
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but here is what I could say, a lot of these issues can be solved if people wait until their 30s to get married and have kids.
Optimally it'll be better to find your partner after 30, that means the two parties getting married have lived, seen good and bad, and if they decided to settle, its a decision that comes from living and experience.
Not saying every marriage would work, but a lot of the problems will be solved.
For men yes but women biological clocks are ticking... many don't want kids after 34 or 35. Some famalies will be smaller and men are still ginna cheat with younger women for kids.. which will equate to the same single parent homes -
Men don't give the women what they want or need. I've seen many marriages end up being blamed on the man for various reasons. Two of those reasons that are high on the list - sex and communication.
There's no human connections. Everything today is expressed through social media; birthdays, anniversaries, vacations, baby announcements etc. ? seems to have lost its value in the journey for likes, shares and the hope your video or message goes viral. I tell my wife happy birthday w a kiss, hug and some ? I'll do for her. I don't say ? on FB.
Men don't even need women to get pleasure, either. These married men are popping open web browsers and searching up porn fantasies to get off bc wifey ain't doing ? . She's out cheating bc he can't ? or just ain't ? at all.
It's all a lack of deep connection to each other. People don't realize that it doesn't just happen, you have to consistently work on that everyday. Compromise is also something many people don't understand. They're too immature and ? about ? .
I've been w my wife since I was 15. I'm going to be 31 this year. 17 yrs together. 9 yrs married. 6 kids. She works. I stay at home. We have been through open heart surgeries w my 2nd son, which was hell for the first 3 yrs. Then, our 5th son was born and he has allergies, eczema & asthma, and that's a ? load of work, too.
Even through that and typical ? , our sex lives are top notch. Sex every day, every week, every month. We can talk for hours. Humor is on point. We just click. Always have. We are both mature and just don't care to devote our time or energy to ? . Instead of arguing we get angry, don't talk, then talk it out when tempers are cooled. Even then, we hardly ever have any kind of issues with each other. Average argument, fight or being mad at each other is like once a month - if that.
People just don't care to devote time to someone else. Everything is about them. Social media has created this selfish "me, me, me" idea. You have ppl marrying themselves now. Why marry someone when you don't want to work on ? , not even yourself?
I don't get what's hard about being mature and being able to rationally understand and work things out that are necessary in a relationship.
Real talk.
Take a holistic approach to finding out why relationships fail and you'll see it.
Every generation is becoming more selfish than the previous one, they also have more access via technology.
In my grandmother's day, it would be obvious something was up. Your spouse would be gone for hours. Few people had cars or telephones so you had to put real effort into cheating.
My parent's day, you had to watch the phones and keep track of how long someone is outside of the of the house.
The generation of my older cousins had beepers, sex chat lines and rudimentary internet. Nobody knew what you were doing. It made cheating and hiding easier.
Today, a spouse could be cheating or plotting to cheat and be sitting right next to you. Everybody got their own phone now with codes to prevent people from snooping. Social media accounts are private, so are email addresses, there is no way for you to know anymore.
Technology is isolating people from everyone else and that includes spouses. The divide has been created. People are becoming more and more selfish, and given more opportunities to cheat or to "browse."
With the advent of FB and Instagram people get to gloat about the happy side of relationships while hiding the underbelly. It gives people that are watching or following you the perception that ? all good.
"The grass is always greener..." and now with FB and ? that saying has never been more true. You see family pics like things are all good.
Anecdotes:
My homeboy posted a pic of his two daughters and one of his BMs. They grinning and ? , you think things going lovely.
Meanwhile, they not even together. In fact, she been cheating and he moved on to someone else.
Another story.
A frat brother's wife is posting pics of them and their kid online. She grinning and happy asf. The pic is brand new.
Meanwhile he tell me that she got post-pardum depression and that's the only time his wife really smiled that week. She been sleeping and crying all the time. He stressed out having to take care of a newborn baby by himself.
Relationships are not easy, ? hard asf. But if you want it to work it can.
yes, the ? can be alot of work.....
but i think people look at the return for that work.
they be on some..."thats all, thats it?" type ? .
man i am so glad i worked things out with my wife in our early years....that ? turned into me supporting her dreams and her supporting my dreams. an us creating new dreams together.
its still work.
but what aint -
2stepz_ahead wrote: »count remy wrote: »who the ? cares why she cheats. Tell her to come over, do what you gotta do with her then, send her back to her ? dishes. It's a win win win situation.
True.
For most men, the relationship would be over as soon as they found out about it.
However, some men want explanations.
Case in point, the gentleman in this video:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3pkN0XW77qI
Sad ? .
imma be that ? .
i would want an explanation too.
i might just be the one that allowed a ? in. unlike most of yall....i might have needed to be checked an ignored her previous check attempts.
now if it wasnt cause i was ? up or some ? .....then...after she done talking....imma pour alcohol on all the computers and walk out with nothing but my sanity.
cuz imma bout to ? her ass so i need to get away
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Today, a spouse could be cheating or plotting to cheat and be sitting right next to you. Everybody got their own phone now with codes to prevent people from snooping. Social media accounts are private, so are email addresses, there is no way for you to know anymore.
reminds me of that story at the baseball game where two girls sitting behind an older married couple was watching the wife, sitting next to the husband, sexting some other dude and they ended up telling him through a note when she got up to leave.. -
Today, a spouse could be cheating or plotting to cheat and be sitting right next to you. Everybody got their own phone now with codes to prevent people from snooping. Social media accounts are private, so are email addresses, there is no way for you to know anymore.
reminds me of that story at the baseball game where two girls sitting behind an older married couple was watching the wife, sitting next to the husband, sexting some other dude and they ended up telling him through a note when she got up to leave..
That's that ? right there.
The amount of "No ? Given" it takes to be out and about with a ? and still be cheating is staggering.
It's ? like that happening every day now.
People are talking on the phone less these days too. Now everybody is texting and video messaging, so you wouldn't even hear someone flirting any more.
? is crazy. ? could write a book on this ? . -
Today, a spouse could be cheating or plotting to cheat and be sitting right next to you. Everybody got their own phone now with codes to prevent people from snooping. Social media accounts are private, so are email addresses, there is no way for you to know anymore.
reminds me of that story at the baseball game where two girls sitting behind an older married couple was watching the wife, sitting next to the husband, sexting some other dude and they ended up telling him through a note when she got up to leave..
That's that ? right there.
The amount of "No ? Given" it takes to be out and about with a ? and still be cheating is staggering.
It's ? like that happening every day now.
People are talking on the phone less these days too. Now everybody is texting and video messaging, so you wouldn't even hear someone flirting any more.
? is crazy. ? could write a book on this ? .
Thats one of the hard things now bein in my 30s dating... the women my age got kids.. the younger pretty ones be so self absorbed.... No one talks on the hone no more... texts ... ? is stupid. I think back to the 90s.... talking on the phone with chicks a night on the house phone or in the early 2000s having tolimit texts cuz of charachter charges and them having to wait til after 7 or 9 dependind on ur service and being happy to talk to u again for hours... that sht seems like lifetimes ago lol -
Today, a spouse could be cheating or plotting to cheat and be sitting right next to you. Everybody got their own phone now with codes to prevent people from snooping. Social media accounts are private, so are email addresses, there is no way for you to know anymore.
reminds me of that story at the baseball game where two girls sitting behind an older married couple was watching the wife, sitting next to the husband, sexting some other dude and they ended up telling him through a note when she got up to leave..
That's that ? right there.
The amount of "No ? Given" it takes to be out and about with a ? and still be cheating is staggering.
It's ? like that happening every day now.
People are talking on the phone less these days too. Now everybody is texting and video messaging, so you wouldn't even hear someone flirting any more.
? is crazy. ? could write a book on this ? .
Thats one of the hard things now bein in my 30s dating... the women my age got kids.. the younger pretty ones be so self absorbed.... No one talks on the hone no more... texts ... ? is stupid. I think back to the 90s.... talking on the phone with chicks a night on the house phone or in the early 2000s having tolimit texts cuz of charachter charges and them having to wait til after 7 or 9 dependind on ur service and being happy to talk to u again for hours... that sht seems like lifetimes ago lol
damn i remember the after 7 ? .....lol -
2stepz_ahead wrote: »Today, a spouse could be cheating or plotting to cheat and be sitting right next to you. Everybody got their own phone now with codes to prevent people from snooping. Social media accounts are private, so are email addresses, there is no way for you to know anymore.
reminds me of that story at the baseball game where two girls sitting behind an older married couple was watching the wife, sitting next to the husband, sexting some other dude and they ended up telling him through a note when she got up to leave..
That's that ? right there.
The amount of "No ? Given" it takes to be out and about with a ? and still be cheating is staggering.
It's ? like that happening every day now.
People are talking on the phone less these days too. Now everybody is texting and video messaging, so you wouldn't even hear someone flirting any more.
? is crazy. ? could write a book on this ? .
Thats one of the hard things now bein in my 30s dating... the women my age got kids.. the younger pretty ones be so self absorbed.... No one talks on the hone no more... texts ... ? is stupid. I think back to the 90s.... talking on the phone with chicks a night on the house phone or in the early 2000s having tolimit texts cuz of charachter charges and them having to wait til after 7 or 9 dependind on ur service and being happy to talk to u again for hours... that sht seems like lifetimes ago lol
damn i remember the after 7 ? .....lol
Cingular alltell and att after 7 ... verizon and sprint after 9 -
Its not about that. 100 hundred years ago there was people not happy where we was headed. Same with 200 years ago.
The world is completly different then it was even 50 years ago.
Progress has good and bad, this looks bad but who know the good we will get when we get to where its headed.
All I know is history has shown that once pandoras box has been opened, it cant be closed.
So regardless of where we are headed, we gonna get there no matter what we do.
Plus I do believe new values will emerge and institutions will emerge that will be just as important to us as "family values" are. Thats what always happens. -
Men don't give the women what they want or need. I've seen many marriages end up being blamed on the man for various reasons. Two of those reasons that are high on the list - sex and communication.
There's no human connections. Everything today is expressed through social media; birthdays, anniversaries, vacations, baby announcements etc. ? seems to have lost its value in the journey for likes, shares and the hope your video or message goes viral. I tell my wife happy birthday w a kiss, hug and some ? I'll do for her. I don't say ? on FB.
Men don't even need women to get pleasure, either. These married men are popping open web browsers and searching up porn fantasies to get off bc wifey ain't doing ? . She's out cheating bc he can't ? or just ain't ? at all.
It's all a lack of deep connection to each other. People don't realize that it doesn't just happen, you have to consistently work on that everyday. Compromise is also something many people don't understand. They're too immature and ? about ? .
I've been w my wife since I was 15. I'm going to be 31 this year. 17 yrs together. 9 yrs married. 6 kids. She works. I stay at home. We have been through open heart surgeries w my 2nd son, which was hell for the first 3 yrs. Then, our 5th son was born and he has allergies, eczema & asthma, and that's a ? load of work, too.
Even through that and typical ? , our sex lives are top notch. Sex every day, every week, every month. We can talk for hours. Humor is on point. We just click. Always have. We are both mature and just don't care to devote our time or energy to ? . Instead of arguing we get angry, don't talk, then talk it out when tempers are cooled. Even then, we hardly ever have any kind of issues with each other. Average argument, fight or being mad at each other is like once a month - if that.
People just don't care to devote time to someone else. Everything is about them. Social media has created this selfish "me, me, me" idea. You have ppl marrying themselves now. Why marry someone when you don't want to work on ? , not even yourself?
I don't get what's hard about being mature and being able to rationally understand and work things out that are necessary in a relationship.
Wish I could GOAT this twice.
