The changing reasons why women cheat on their husbands (Article inside)
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I know people don't read so I'll highlight some of the reasons why women are admitting to cheating as stated in the article for your viewing pleasure.
cnn.com/2017/10/05/health/why-women-cheat-partner/index.html
they found married life incredibly dull and constraining and resented the fact that as women, they felt they consistently did a disproportionate amount of the invisible labor that went into maintaining their lifestyle.
* I gather that these women feel like their husbands are not planning sh*t for the family or for her or helping out as much as she would like, so she goes outside of the household to find the "plans" she's missing out on.
"I think there's an incredible amount of deep resentment for women in America about divisions of labor," said sociologist Lisa Wade when I asked her to comment on this contradiction. "And what social scientists are finding now is that there is a correlation between equal division of labor and better sex."
* Its about time we start telling these women that marriage isn't all its cracked up to be. Only people that want you to get married are your parents and the blood diamond companies.We now tell women that they can have it all, that they can work and have a family and deserve to be sexually satisfied. And then when having it all is miserable and overwhelming or they realize marriage isn't all it's cracked it up to be, maybe having affairs is the new plan B."
* Sheesh.At the time I married, marriage had felt like a panacea; it was a bond that would provide security, love, friendship, stability, and romance -- the chance to have children and nice dishes, to be introduced as someone's wife. It promised to expand my circle of family and improve my credit score, to tether me to something wholesome and give my life meaning.
Could any single relationship not fall short of such expectations?
cnn.com/2017/10/05/health/why-women-cheat-partner/index.html
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Even shorter version:
Women feel less inclined to deal with sexual unhappiness than they did years ago. -
Everything has an expiration date. Some just choose 2 ignore this for ego reasons.
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Reading this bummed me out.
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At least they have reasons *shrugs*
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This is what happen when you give women the keys.
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If you don't know how to keep her guessing even after living with her then don't marry her. Not that hard. All women want is spontaneity and someone they can't walk over.
Stop spoiling and make em work after marriage. Give em something to do and think about. They just don't want boredom and monotony. Just like us (men). Live dammit. Especially if married. -
So now men AND women are seeing marriage aint all it's cracked up to be...and old reasons for why ppl used to get married ain't cutting it anymore.
I think I've said this before on here but if I haven't...we're in a time where men and women don't necessarily need each other anymore so our struggle is defining why we want to be with each other.
That's interesting af to me. -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »So now men AND women are seeing marriage aint all it's cracked up to be...and old reasons for why ppl used to get married ain't cutting it anymore.
I think I've said this before on here but if I haven't...we're in a time where men and women don't necessarily need each other anymore so our struggle is defining why we want to be with each other.
That's interesting af to me.
Once that starts to go the foundation of everything else goes. Men and women and the mysteries of each other are a key factor to learning and growing as a society -
In other words, most women want to "get" married............but they don't want to "be" married.
Related video:
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atribecalledgabi wrote: »So now men AND women are seeing marriage aint all it's cracked up to be...and old reasons for why ppl used to get married ain't cutting it anymore.
I think I've said this before on here but if I haven't...we're in a time where men and women don't necessarily need each other anymore so our struggle is defining why we want to be with each other.
That's interesting af to me.
Once that starts to go the foundation of everything else goes. Men and women and the mysteries of each other are a key factor to learning and growing as a society
Yea im on the fence about this right here.
When marriages were traditional ppl were still unhappy af. They just avoided divorce out of shame or guilt or "stay together for the kids" etc.
At the same time if everyone is only shacking up and having kids; no real accountability bc no marriages...cant see that being good for society as a whole the same way a healthy home/family upbringing should be. -
family structure and values lost... its gonna get worse and worse 2
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I think people do ? too early in relationships and after that theres just nothing to look forward to. ? should not be allowed until atleast year 5 of marriage.
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family structure and values lost... its gonna get worse and worse 2
New structures and values replace the old ones bruh.
"Family values" is only a few hundred years old anyway -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »So now men AND women are seeing marriage aint all it's cracked up to be...and old reasons for why ppl used to get married ain't cutting it anymore.
I think I've said this before on here but if I haven't...we're in a time where men and women don't necessarily need each other anymore so our struggle is defining why we want to be with each other.
That's interesting af to me.
Once that starts to go the foundation of everything else goes. Men and women and the mysteries of each other are a key factor to learning and growing as a society
You sound scared to adapt with the times my brotha. Make your own rules in your relationships -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »So now men AND women are seeing marriage aint all it's cracked up to be...and old reasons for why ppl used to get married ain't cutting it anymore.
I think I've said this before on here but if I haven't...we're in a time where men and women don't necessarily need each other anymore so our struggle is defining why we want to be with each other.
That's interesting af to me.
Yeah that's what happens when society has gone down the tubes morally.
1. Lets remove everything that has to do with King jesus (i.e. 10 commandments) and put up this:
2. Next, let's make sodomite marriage legal since anything goes and paint the white house this:
3. Then, lets blur genders because labeling Men as Men and Women as Women is outdated:
4. Now it's a free for all so let's continue the abominations and indoctrinte the kids as well:
5. And heck who even needs marriage anymore when we can do as we please:
So that the end game can be this:
Sad....that the end game for most of humanity that is left behind on the cloudy day will be far more sinister than words can ever describe.....But hey lets's get back to your regularly scheduled program of distractions so that you can be trapped in the snare that is coming.
? don't want you picking up the good book now. Remember you are his slave:
? done tricked you good.
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im bout to come in here with my ? as soon as i walk my wife to the tramstop
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family structure and values lost... its gonna get worse and worse 2
It's not good for society either.
You can't placate selfishness in a communal environment. We see what trying to do that does now.
We have all these children born out of wedlock to women on assistance, men in and out of jail on child support debt, and ? still want to ? around.
I don't get it. -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »So now men AND women are seeing marriage aint all it's cracked up to be...and old reasons for why ppl used to get married ain't cutting it anymore.
I think I've said this before on here but if I haven't...we're in a time where men and women don't necessarily need each other anymore so our struggle is defining why we want to be with each other.
That's interesting af to me.
It's been like this for awhile though, a good 60 years even.
Once women could earn money on their own, the need for a man diminished. Dating and relationships had to change to meet the liberated woman.
Now, we are overstimulated. We have so much sex, drugs, alcohol, party etc at our fingertips that we get bored easily. The eye wanders because you have more access to males/females via the internet.
As far as the quotes (from the article) are concerned though, they just sound like miserable wives. It's nothing new to have people unhappy in their relationship for whatever reason -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »So now men AND women are seeing marriage aint all it's cracked up to be...and old reasons for why ppl used to get married ain't cutting it anymore.
I think I've said this before on here but if I haven't...we're in a time where men and women don't necessarily need each other anymore so our struggle is defining why we want to be with each other.
That's interesting af to me.
You are right. My uncle and his wife are breaking up now that my cousin is grown and another couple I know has separated. Both marriages were at least two years since the late 90s. Marriage is not a normal thing for people. We are individual creatures by nature who just socialize as a community. Marriage is a society and religious thing, it is nurtured instead of nature. My mother is also planning her divorce. -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »So now men AND women are seeing marriage aint all it's cracked up to be...and old reasons for why ppl used to get married ain't cutting it anymore.
I think I've said this before on here but if I haven't...we're in a time where men and women don't necessarily need each other anymore so our struggle is defining why we want to be with each other.
That's interesting af to me.
Once that starts to go the foundation of everything else goes. Men and women and the mysteries of each other are a key factor to learning and growing as a society
Yea im on the fence about this right here.
When marriages were traditional ppl were still unhappy af. They just avoided divorce out of shame or guilt or "stay together for the kids" etc.
At the same time if everyone is only shacking up and having kids; no real accountability bc no marriages...cant see that being good for society as a whole the same way a healthy home/family upbringing should be.
That does not equal a happy hope though. Abuse and problems happen when people are couples. Marriage creates more problems and make it hard to leave. -
I don't think traditional marriages ever worked in the first place. You had shows like Leave It To ? or The Cosby Show that showed traditional families with a husband, wife and kids. But I'd be willing to bet that real marriages were nothing like what you saw on TV.
I think now alternative lifestyles aren't necessarily more common, but you hear about them more often.
In other words, I don't think homosexuality and transgenderism is a new thing. I think its always been around but its getting more attention in the media.
As far as women cheating on their husbands, the divorce rate is 50% so what do you expect? -
If you don't know how to keep her guessing even after living with her then don't marry her. Not that hard. All women want is spontaneity and someone they can't walk over.
Stop spoiling and make em work after marriage. Give em something to do and think about. They just don't want boredom and monotony. Just like us (men). Live dammit. Especially if married.
i will say the opposite to this.....for the most part i spoil the ? outta my wife. so that aint the problem...the problem is since she knows what i will do for a chick i love...would she be willing to allow another woman to have that.
but living....yes...... -
atribecalledgabi wrote: »So now men AND women are seeing marriage aint all it's cracked up to be...and old reasons for why ppl used to get married ain't cutting it anymore.
I think I've said this before on here but if I haven't...we're in a time where men and women don't necessarily need each other anymore so our struggle is defining why we want to be with each other.
That's interesting af to me.
we do need each other.....this is a tactic used to break black families.
case an point.
i know quite a few very well off white chicks...they husbands dont make hat they make or come from moeny like they do. but its still about family and creating a legacy.
now not all but alot of the black women i know with money...aint trynna have kids if they dont have them already..or want a man with more than them. they only cater to the guy with more money than them or a better title. then get mad when they get dogged out.
the foundation of what this is supposed to be built on is lost. you give the women in a community the power...the community will fall. give RESPONSIBLE men the power in a community...it will thrive.
look at where we are.....fukk boys call the shots and women raise grown boys.
how is marriage ever gonna work when for the most part we dont see examples of successful marriages. or we choose not to pay attention to it because it most be a problem they hiding. -
DoUwant2go2Heaven wrote: »
? done tricked you good.
SMH.
Didnt read but the last sentence caught my eye.
The irony of a religious zealot telling somebody else ? tricked them
