Jill Scott's soul burns to see a white woman....
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I just dont understand how ya raised by a black woman..yet u marry diff. Thats like spittin in ya mamas face.
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Madam Speaker wrote: »I just dont understand how ya raised by a black woman..yet u marry diff. Thats like spittin in ya mamas face.
how...explain this cuz as many times as i've heard this it makes no sense... -
can we please put the "all black women are either loud and ghetto, dumb gold diggers, nagging ? " myth to rest.......please
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If you act irrational you should expect to be put in your place whether your a child or an adult.
being abrasive is not being strong...it's an annoying character trait and I don't want a woman that's abrasive -
mostvigorousone wrote: »I'm not sure if that's true. Maybe it's just broadcasted to the masses more, or maybe your awareness is more centered around black issues. Go to Miami looking like you have some money and watch all those latin chicks act expose those negative and superficial qualities just like some of the black women you're describing.
Well, like I said, blacks tend to eternalize world issues. A superficial woman is a superficial woman. I used to get many of the Miami "latinos" you're describing. I had to begin to avoid them like black women, because they are simply the same grimy female, different accent. I encourage brothers with themselves together to start looking overseas to find a suitable, submissive wife. Get your passport game up............... -
being abrasive is not being strong...it's an annoying character trait and I don't want a woman that's abrasive
And every Black women is abrasive? -
sdrawkcabseh wrote: »Well, like I said, blacks tend to eternalize world issues. A superficial woman is a superficial woman. I used to get many of the Miami "latinos" you're describing. I had to begin to avoid them like black women, because they are simply the same grimy female, different accent. I encourage brothers with themselves together to start looking overseas to find a suitable, submissive wife. Get your passport game up...............
Seems like you want a maid, yet i doubt the mother you love was one.
Remember you will quite possibly have children with your wife, i don't want know submissive housemaid to be raise my children. -
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1: You stole this thread from Sohh.com
2: Both of these two posts pretty much shut down the thread.
(By a girl)
Basically. People love to be selectively outraged.
The black women who DO get bent outta shape about IR dating (because not every black woman in this country is stomping her feet and yelling about this topic ) don't get upset when it's a super ugly guy with a non-black woman, nor do I ever see anybody up in arms when a black chick dates a non-black man.
In fact, from my own personal experience, black women sometimes get all when they see a BW/non-BM relationship too. My own roommate, who dated a white guy for months, is guilty of this. She was constantly talking about how he's white, and how her friends who dated black men needed to "get them a white guy" like her. It makes us look stupid either way. We need to stop putting white people as a whole on a pedestal, but the faux outrage about something that black women do too (and glorify, whether they want to admit it or not) is getting ridiculous. It's a double standard, straight up. I don't see anybody calling out Stacy Dash, Gabrielle Union, Zoe Saldana, Sanaa Lathan, or the other tons of black women who date outside of their race. Essence isn't up in arms about that, and neither is anybody else, because apparently it's admirable when black women do it because there are no good black men anyway .
As a matter of fact, a prime example of the double standard is the movie "Something New". Had it been a black guy, with his black friends, highlighting how he's sick of no good black women and ended up being swept off his feet by an edgy white girl, the whole world would've fallen to pieces. Yet black women loooooooved that damn movie. It's like black people are in some stupid competition, and it's seriously played out. It makes me wonder if some black women really don't like this interracial stuff, or do they just not like it when it's a successful, fine black men that picks somebody else and they feel slighted. Because I see PLENTY of black women with non-black men, and I hate to say it, but I don't recognize too many black women fighting to the death over these normal, average, suffering-from-the-recession, everyday black guys. It's only when they get on, become successful, and get with a non-black woman (for whatever reason) that black women are all of a sudden upset that they weren't chosen. And then they stay stuck on it, as if this is somehow proof that all black men hate all black women. I really hate to say it, but that's my personal experience on the matter.
If you meet someone who is of a different socially constructed mechanism for division and oppression, then what's the big deal? If you're doing it out of spite and hatred, then that just suggests insecurity, man or woman. Black people as a whole need to pick their faces up off of the floor and recognize how dumb this ? is, and stop letting these white folks walk around thinking they're the hot commodity in the black community while we fight with each other to the death and beat each other down. And I'm sick of these black chicks out here on soap boxes making it seem like all black women are walking around ? and emotionally crushed about interracial dating...except, of course, when it comes to the black chick who snagged herself a Blake. Over it -_-
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sdrawkcabseh wrote: »But that's the problem. Most black men, with themselves together, don't need to be "put in their place". Besides, a man dates a woman because he wants a companion, not a mother. The whole " put a man in his place" is the problem with black women today: they try to micromanage every area of man's life. A man needs to be a man, and a woman should treat him as such. There's nothing wrong with speaking your mind, but it's the frequency with which you do it. Most black women can't gauge civility and class, while being objective at the same time.
So, which would you rather have? You come home from a hard day's work and your met at the door with nothing but accusations of where you've been, confrontations and no food on the stove OR would you rather have a woman that cooks, cleans, meets you at the door naked with samples of what she's cooking and puts the remote in your hand and leaves you alone as you wait for the food to finish cooking. She also irons your clothes, and prepares your shower. I pray that you choose the latter...............
It's not being "abrasive." It's called not being afraid to speak your mind. If I do something that my s/o other doesn't like, I want her to call me on it. Period.
My brother does stupid ? all the time, and he knows that his white wife isn't going to call him on it...because she doesn't have the guts to.
A black woman will not be afraid to tell her man when he does something she doesn't like. -
big ups to maliik for that post
well said ? lol -
Have you ever experienced a white woman who does the bolded consistently, and if so why are you not married to her?
Yes I have and my colleagues are married to women that do this for them on a consistent basis. I traveled elsewhere to find my queen however, just a matter of personal choice. She does the bolded, everyday, no matter what................... -
sdrawkcabseh wrote: »Yes I have and my colleagues are married to women that do this for them on a consistent basis. I traveled elsewhere to find my queen however, just a matter of personal choice. She does the bolded, everyday, no matter what...................
Your married to a white housemaid? good for you. -
Punisher__ wrote: »It's not being "abrasive." It's called not being afraid to speak your mind. If I do something that my s/o other doesn't like, I want her to call me on it. Period.
My brother does stupid ? all the time, and he knows that his white wife isn't going to call him on it...because she doesn't have the guts to.
A black woman will not be afraid to tell her man when he does something she doesn't like.
that's the one woman's issue, that's not a white woman issue...just like not all black women will call their man out over ? ...if they did then trust me Mary J Blige would NOT have a career cuz apparently there's alot of black women stuck in unhappy relationships that they say little to nothing about... -
black women need to worry bout their own relationships....
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Seems like you want a maid, yet i doubt the mother you love was one.
Remember you will quite possibly have children with your wife, i don't want know submissive housemaid to be raise my children.
My wifey's not a maid by any means. She just knows her place, that's all. She knows that I work hard to provide a "high" life for us everyday, and she's simply doing her part, so submission is not an issue, it's a requirement............. -
where did this whole "only black women nag" thing come from?
WOMEN NAG.
PERIOD.
(cept' me
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it just is what it is -
that's the one woman's issue, that's not a white woman issue...just like not all black women will call their man out over ? ...if they did then trust me Mary J Blige would NOT have a career cuz apparently there's alot of black women stuck in unhappy relationships that they say little to nothing about...
Generally, that's exactly how it is. You can choose to deny it if you want, that's your prerogative.
Like when my brother says "white females are easier to approach", it makes me think that he's looking for someone who isn't going to call him on his ? , is subdued in nature, and generally laidback. He's a ? . -
(by a dude)
If you notice....in her opening paragraph, her main selling points of this "brother" was that he was accomplished, wealthy & successful. I barely read anything else about what made this brother a good catch. My point is....whenever you hear a black woman talking about the Good Black Man...its always synonymous with him being super successful. Why does he have to be a rich dude??? There are plenty of good dudes all over millions of cities, who aren't in jail, ? , ? positive, with a billion kids. There are plenty of dudes who are doing their thing, they may not be bill gates but, they good dudes. But....sistas dont look their way because theyre mechanics / bus drivers / janitors / electricians / welders.
Whenever you hear a black woman complaining about Good Black Men marrying White Women....its not because theyre dating White Women persay...its because its a RICH black man dating a white woman. Because of this.....I find it VERY amusing when Sistas try to play that card of "That becky only with you for your money".......Like ? ...."You Wasnt???"
What sistas need to do is INVEST in their men again. For the longest...they've left us out in the cold. Im not gonna go on here & ? about women loving bad boys & thugs because thats childish & a waste of time, we already know that as true. The fact is alot of these sistas are wasting the prime years of their lives on dudes without significant futures ahead of them & when they hit 30 - 35, they realize this but, its often too late (seen it in friends, family members, co-workers). That good, nice dude is who is now successful, on his grind & making major moves as that CEO, Lawyer, Doctor, Dentist, Engineer, Banker, Scientist used to be that quiet, reserved, smart dude on campus that all the fly broads considered lame. Alot of these dudes dont forget that experience. Its not that any of these dudes are holding grudges but, what did these young black women expect these men to do? Stay single for 10 years until they were done having fun? This is why alot of Black Men, especially successful Black Men, date out of race. Its not that we dont want sistas.....CUZ WE ALL DO.....they just dont want us until we're super successful. All of the qualities that Black Women deem lame in Black Men are considered the norm with other races. As for what Jill Scott was talking about........I dont give a f^ck about that slavery ? . It was a horrible, horrible event that has effected my community for hundreds of years. I hate that it happened. But.....it is 2010. We need to let that go. Im not going to FORCE myself to find a black woman just so I can feel as if Im being loyal to my sistas. Most of these black women that I know are so ****ed up in the head....its ridicoulous. So....according to Jill Scott, after I put in all of this hard work, got through law school, made my mark on the world & became successful, even if I meet the most gorgeous, compatible woman for me who happens to be asian, Im supposed to marry a black woman, who didnt even want me 10 years ago, just so I can be loyal???? FOH.
Just in case anybody get it twisted. Im not some "f^ck black women" poster. That ? is corny. I got love for everybody...im just saying to all young black women....who are seeking advice on this subject, INVEST in your man early. Find you a good, black dude & build with him because trust me......men remember that ? . We remember who always had love for us & who treated us like dirt & years from now....most men will treat that woman accordingly.
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wow.....and white women don't want a successful man....honestly the only time I see a white woman with a black man, is if the woman isn't all that attractive or the man obviously has money.....no one wants a mate who doesn't have goals period.....and not every black woman wants a thuggish baller either. black people need to stop perpetuating the negative stereotypes the media force feeds us..... -
marie addams wrote: »where did this whole "only black women nag" thing come from?
WOMEN NAG.
PERIOD.
(cept' me )
it just is what it is
Real talk...
However bolded is questionable. -
Punisher__ wrote: »It's not being "abrasive." It's called not being afraid to speak your mind. If I do something that my s/o other doesn't like, I want her to call me on it. Period.
My brother does stupid ? all the time, and he knows that his white wife isn't going to call him on it...because she doesn't have the guts to.
A black woman will not be afraid to tell her man when he does something she doesn't like.
But I contend, that a grown man does not need to be told when he's wrong and challenged on it. In your relationship, would you rather fight everyday, or would you rather come home to peace? -
Punisher__ wrote: »Generally, that's exactly how it is. You can choose to deny it if you want, that's your prerogative.
Like when my brother says "white females are easier to approach", it makes me think that he's looking for someone who isn't going to call him on his ? , is subdued in nature, and generally laidback. He's a ? .
you can't say that's how it is because there's too many different cultures of both blacks and whites that would refute what you're trying to say...normally generalizations can work but this one just can't...there's too many outlying factors that can determine what you're trying to say...your brother found, Im assuming, a white American woman...do you think that's the same as approaching a white woman in say France, Australia, Cuba, Germany, etc...are white woman all across the globe easier to approach than black women across the globe... -
marie addams wrote: »where did this whole "only black women nag" thing come from?
WOMEN NAG.
PERIOD.
(cept' me )
it just is what it is
Black women nag excessively. Wifey knows that if I tell her I'm gonna handle something, that's code for her to fall back.She knows her place, I know mine............... -
how...explain this cuz as many times as i've heard this it makes no sense...
Your obv. saying ya kind isnt good enough to have and raise children with.
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