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Legit question, why not move down south? You have enough money too. Start to look for a job in NC or SC or Atlanta etc... you have almost 0 chance in making enough money to live alone in CT.
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Don't be scared to change cities to live, opportunity is not gonna fall in your lap move around make sure your money in the bank
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I would say ? everyone and drop all of them
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Not trying to kick you while you're down but that's an incredibly hard major to break through in, if you ever go back to school go in a field you actually got a snow ? chance getting a job in within a reasonable time.
As for your guy leave him, he ain't feeling you 100 percent while you down then so you should part ways with him now, so I say move out go find you some cheap housing until you get on your feet.
Last but not least never fully depend on anyone for anything not even loved ones, because if things ever get sour it's something that can be held over your head. Good luck.
Trust me I know. I honestly feel like I'm going to have to leave the state or commute to NYC to find work. Last year I visited Miami for the first time and loved it. ? , if I could I would go live there. -
That whole situation sounds messy, you might as well go do your own thing after all of that.
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Legit question, why not move down south? You have enough money too. Start to look for a job in NC or SC or Atlanta etc... you have almost 0 chance in making enough money to live alone in CT.
I see why you would say this, rent is hella cheap in the South but the problem is you make way less money down there. I know because I lived in NC for a few months in HS. -
? telling you to get a better job and he broke af too.
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? telling you to get a better job and he broke af too.
Actually he isn't. His degree is in Engineering and he works at a company called Cyient. He has two cars (one of which is a BMW) and makes 20-something an hour, (he won't tell me exactly how much he makes). -
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? ...damn goggles give a moment and I'll share my thoughts
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SimplyKrys wrote: »Not trying to kick you while you're down but that's an incredibly hard major to break through in, if you ever go back to school go in a field you actually got a snow ? chance getting a job in within a reasonable time.
As for your guy leave him, he ain't feeling you 100 percent while you down then so you should part ways with him now, so I say move out go find you some cheap housing until you get on your feet.
Last but not least never fully depend on anyone for anything not even loved ones, because if things ever get sour it's something that can be held over your head. Good luck.
Trust me I know. I honestly feel like I'm going to have to leave the state or commute to NYC to find work. Last year I visited Miami for the first time and loved it. ? , if I could I would go live there.
Do what you got to do until you get to a position where you're better on your feet then reevaluate your options. -
Him having two cars and living at home ain't a good look. ? you need two rides for and you ain't got a crib?
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SimplyKrys wrote: »Not trying to kick you while you're down but that's an incredibly hard major to break through in, if you ever go back to school go in a field you actually got a snow ? chance getting a job in within a reasonable time.
As for your guy leave him, he ain't feeling you 100 percent while you down then so you should part ways with him now, so I say move out go find you some cheap housing until you get on your feet.
Last but not least never fully depend on anyone for anything not even loved ones, because if things ever get sour it's something that can be held over your head. Good luck.
Trust me I know. I honestly feel like I'm going to have to leave the state or commute to NYC to find work. Last year I visited Miami for the first time and loved it. ? , if I could I would go live there.
Do what you got to do until you get to a position where you're better on your feet then reevaluate your options.
True, I feel like I need to just move the ? on already. The only thing that stops me is the fact I don't have full time work yet. -
SimplyKrys wrote: »SimplyKrys wrote: »Not trying to kick you while you're down but that's an incredibly hard major to break through in, if you ever go back to school go in a field you actually got a snow ? chance getting a job in within a reasonable time.
As for your guy leave him, he ain't feeling you 100 percent while you down then so you should part ways with him now, so I say move out go find you some cheap housing until you get on your feet.
Last but not least never fully depend on anyone for anything not even loved ones, because if things ever get sour it's something that can be held over your head. Good luck.
Trust me I know. I honestly feel like I'm going to have to leave the state or commute to NYC to find work. Last year I visited Miami for the first time and loved it. ? , if I could I would go live there.
Do what you got to do until you get to a position where you're better on your feet then reevaluate your options.
True, I feel like I need to just move the ? on already. The only thing that stops me is the fact I don't have full time work yet.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gsnJdmSHO_g
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What's his side of the story - is he supporting you ? Are you paying half the bills ?
What type of ? you be talking when he calling you "convenience ? " ?
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Him having two cars and living at home ain't a good look. ? you need two rides for and you ain't got a crib?
That's the same thing I said, you already have a BMW which are very expensive to maintain and then he gets a damn Murano.
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What's his side of the story - is he supporting you ? Are you paying half the bills ?
What type of ? you be talking when he calling you "convenience ? " ?
It's always 2 sides.
I give his mom $100 every month, he does not pay any of my bills. I pay my own phone bill and student loans. -
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SimplyKrys wrote: »Okay so here's the deal, I have been with my bf since 6/22/06 and I currently live with him, his mom, his dad, his brother, his brother's gf and their 8 y.o. son in his mom's house. I have been living here since 4/12/12 after moving out of my drug (dust) addicted cousin's house after one of her stoner friends tried to get some na-na while I was trying to sleep one night. Ever since I have been living here I graduated college, and saved up a little over $9,000 for an apartment. I finished college in December of 2015 and unfortunately I still don't have a job in my field (journalism).
There are times where my bf likes to say, "You are not related to anyone at the house," "You have a place to live because of me" and "Your time here is short." He has not said any of those things in a while but he has said those things more than once. My mom says that I can come back home but I'd rather not because she lives in a ratchet apartment with no heat or running water. On top of that I can't stand her bf and he's the main reason why I moved out in the first place, when I moved out we got into a big fight and they said that he (my bf) is going to start beating my ass.
Back in December he said that he was going to move out in January, but that turned out to be b.s. because he's still here. Honestly I think he just said that to scare me. On top of all of that his dad says that him and the mom are going to be going back to Haiti in about a year in a half and if no one takes over the house then he will sell it. About three weeks ago my bf even called me "convenient ? ." Fast forward to now and all of a sudden we are getting along much better but at the same time I know I need to leave these people's house. The only reason I am really still here is because I work part time at a restaurant and I don't make nowhere near enough money to live on my own. A friend said to me as long as you pay your rent for a few months upfront you will be fine.
Yesterday he said that the only way he would consider getting a place with me is if I got a higher paying job. He said, "I don't want to live with you if you are still working at that restaurant and can't contribute."
My friend made the point that if he is making more than you, you shouldn't be splitting things down the middle he should be paying more for the rent and utilities.
So if you were me what would you do? Try to get a full time job and get a place with the bf....or say eff it and go totally on your own whether or not you get a higher paying job?
Keep it real...
The bold is a damn shame.......Lol at him not wanting to live with you but y'all live together with 14 other ? .
Look in the mirror say what you typed out loud and you'll answer your own question ma'am.
Well damn, now that I think of it, it's like a modern day black/Haitian Brady Bunch. SMH
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ok im keeping it real here...no disrespect but consider this tough love.
wtf is wrong with u? ur situation sounds ? up but u seem to like that ? . I cant understand why u are a grown educated woman laying up with a grown man that acts like he is doing something special living with his momma and daddy and 10 other folks. that ? don't sound like ? . u act like this dude is a huge loss if u leave him and he basically told u he bout to leave ya ass homeless when he finds some new ? . smh
listen its time for ur to go and do it. get ur own spot. im sure ur school has people looking for a roommate. so what u aint got the best job. get focused and do it. u got some savings so don't go blow that all moving. take 3k of that and put it on ur rent. that should give u a few months and if u get a roommate it will give u a lil longer. it might be time to get two part time jobs or get one full time job so u can support urself will looking for the journalism job.
u can do this. don't let urself be abused or used. most of us struggled when we went out on our own. it builds character.
man u gotta me sound like captain save a ... lol..im just playing but good luck to u. u got this! -
Get out, word to Jordan Peele.
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for him to even fix his mouth to call you "convenient ? ," then basically threaten you with the fact that you're staying with him, cuz really why else mention that unless he's low key trying to say that he can take that ? away? anyway, that is more than enough for you to be done with him. no man who loves you and is supposed to be your protector would talk to you that way.
on a whole other note tho, how the ? is it now bothering him to be grown as hell and have all those people around with his girl there. y'all gotta wait til everyone sleep and ? before you can ? ? i can be patient with a lot of ? , but people being in my personal space is not one of them
i don't know where you live, but if you have $9,000 saved up, and have a part-time job, that should be enough for you to move out and at least get a room mate. you could even just rent a room while you look for more full-time work. anything has to be better than living with a gang of people and being threatened over being put out, ? all that
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You two been together for a few months short of 11 years and y'all ain't married?
At this point you're just live-in ? ; nothing more, nothing less. He's pretty much said that much. It's time to stop ? around with your life and move on before this cat introduces you to his 3 year old son and 6 month old daughter by some broad named "Alize". -
how do u even have sex?
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hey, journalists, real journalists, are sorely needed. they are just not wanted right now in this world of alternative facts and pay for play media